這種情況該怎麼辦 - 婚姻
By Poppy
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※ 引述《djviva (淡定~ 穩中求勝)》之銘言:
: ※ 引述《cheepup (堅持自己的夢想)》之銘言:
: : 關於朋友與老公的情況
: : 目前兩人還沒有小孩
: : 老公對她與娘家都很好
: : 她公公婆婆也對她很好
: : (公公婆婆也沒不良惡習)
: : 唯獨賭博這點讓朋友怯步
嗨,你好。
我是單親家庭的獨生女,10歲時我父母離婚了,現在我跟我媽過著幸福的生活。
小時候我爸對我非常好,他是很幽默的人,講話很有趣,我覺得家裡氣氛一直很愉快,
我爸覺得小孩就是要讓她自由發展,充滿想像力,
因此我從來沒有課業壓力,過著無憂慮的日子,
而且因為我一年級就完全可以看懂報紙了,所以我爸逢人都會稱讚我,讓我好驕傲,
我爸沒有發過我脾氣或打過我,什麼事情都會把我當大人一樣好好的跟我說,
反過來我媽則是很易怒,從來不曾稱讚過我,
每次我做的不合他意(比如上學動作不夠快)就會開扁我,
所以我在小學低年級的時候,很討厭我媽,只喜歡跟我爸在一起。
直到我小學三年級的某天,有人抓著我爸來我們家找我媽,跟我媽要錢,
對方跟我媽說,如果不還就會殺了我(當時綁架很流行)
我媽當下就告訴那些人,錢她都會還,條件只有兩個,
一個離婚,以後她跟我爸完全沒關係,
一個小孩(也就是我本人啦)要歸她,以後小孩也跟我爸完全沒關係。
我爸竟然說,這孩子姓黃的,怎麼可以歸你,爭執了一陣子,
我媽說那監護權可以登記給你,但是小孩要讓我來撫養。
我還記得當天我爸離開家還對我說:「我很快就會來接你」
一開始跟我媽生活我真是超不開心,因為我一整天都看不到我媽,
當我好不容易看到她,想跟她說我作文比賽得名,或是跟同學發生的好玩的事情,
我媽都不想鳥我,每次都跟我說她想睡覺。
所以我每天都等我爸來接我,但是不知道為什麼我爸每次打給我,都是叫我跟我媽要錢。
漸漸的我也放棄了跟爸爸一起生活的盼望,因為我覺得我爸好像也沒有很愛我,
後來我才知道,原來我爸當年是欠賭債跑路了,在民國80年欠了800萬的債務。
又更後來我才知道,為什麼我媽只喜歡睡覺,因為那時要還債我媽做了3份工作,
早市賣水餃、下午飯店洗碗洗菜、晚上餐廳櫃臺,每天都是1點上床6點起床。
我高中開始去打工,一直到我大學畢業後兩年,我們才總算把這筆錢還完。
可是連我媽這個最大的受害者,我以為應該是最恨他的人,到現在都還會說:
「其實妳爸除了愛賭,其他都很好啦,煮飯做家事也都很好,個性也很好,
也不會拈花惹草,而且又很疼妳。」
我問我媽說,那妳怎麼還會離婚?
我媽:「因為那群討債的人說要殺妳啊!我想說這樣不行。這次還完下次又欠怎麼辦。」
賭博最可怕的不是你現在看得到的錢財消耗,而是賭性造成的無底洞,
就跟毒癮一樣永遠不會停下來,而賭徒最後輸掉的永遠都不會只有錢。
可能還有親情、自尊、信任等等更多更多。
很希望原作者能夠幫我告訴你的朋友,如果繼續跟著賭徒,一定會輸掉自己的一生。
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: ※ 引述《cheepup (堅持自己的夢想)》之銘言:
: : 關於朋友與老公的情況
: : 目前兩人還沒有小孩
: : 老公對她與娘家都很好
: : 她公公婆婆也對她很好
: : (公公婆婆也沒不良惡習)
: : 唯獨賭博這點讓朋友怯步
嗨,你好。
我是單親家庭的獨生女,10歲時我父母離婚了,現在我跟我媽過著幸福的生活。
小時候我爸對我非常好,他是很幽默的人,講話很有趣,我覺得家裡氣氛一直很愉快,
我爸覺得小孩就是要讓她自由發展,充滿想像力,
因此我從來沒有課業壓力,過著無憂慮的日子,
而且因為我一年級就完全可以看懂報紙了,所以我爸逢人都會稱讚我,讓我好驕傲,
我爸沒有發過我脾氣或打過我,什麼事情都會把我當大人一樣好好的跟我說,
反過來我媽則是很易怒,從來不曾稱讚過我,
每次我做的不合他意(比如上學動作不夠快)就會開扁我,
所以我在小學低年級的時候,很討厭我媽,只喜歡跟我爸在一起。
直到我小學三年級的某天,有人抓著我爸來我們家找我媽,跟我媽要錢,
對方跟我媽說,如果不還就會殺了我(當時綁架很流行)
我媽當下就告訴那些人,錢她都會還,條件只有兩個,
一個離婚,以後她跟我爸完全沒關係,
一個小孩(也就是我本人啦)要歸她,以後小孩也跟我爸完全沒關係。
我爸竟然說,這孩子姓黃的,怎麼可以歸你,爭執了一陣子,
我媽說那監護權可以登記給你,但是小孩要讓我來撫養。
我還記得當天我爸離開家還對我說:「我很快就會來接你」
一開始跟我媽生活我真是超不開心,因為我一整天都看不到我媽,
當我好不容易看到她,想跟她說我作文比賽得名,或是跟同學發生的好玩的事情,
我媽都不想鳥我,每次都跟我說她想睡覺。
所以我每天都等我爸來接我,但是不知道為什麼我爸每次打給我,都是叫我跟我媽要錢。
漸漸的我也放棄了跟爸爸一起生活的盼望,因為我覺得我爸好像也沒有很愛我,
後來我才知道,原來我爸當年是欠賭債跑路了,在民國80年欠了800萬的債務。
又更後來我才知道,為什麼我媽只喜歡睡覺,因為那時要還債我媽做了3份工作,
早市賣水餃、下午飯店洗碗洗菜、晚上餐廳櫃臺,每天都是1點上床6點起床。
我高中開始去打工,一直到我大學畢業後兩年,我們才總算把這筆錢還完。
可是連我媽這個最大的受害者,我以為應該是最恨他的人,到現在都還會說:
「其實妳爸除了愛賭,其他都很好啦,煮飯做家事也都很好,個性也很好,
也不會拈花惹草,而且又很疼妳。」
我問我媽說,那妳怎麼還會離婚?
我媽:「因為那群討債的人說要殺妳啊!我想說這樣不行。這次還完下次又欠怎麼辦。」
賭博最可怕的不是你現在看得到的錢財消耗,而是賭性造成的無底洞,
就跟毒癮一樣永遠不會停下來,而賭徒最後輸掉的永遠都不會只有錢。
可能還有親情、自尊、信任等等更多更多。
很希望原作者能夠幫我告訴你的朋友,如果繼續跟著賭徒,一定會輸掉自己的一生。
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