如何讓老公戒菸? - 婚姻
By Anthony
at 2013-01-02T10:20
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話說他認識菸比認識我還久,愛菸甚過愛我……。
婚前就知道他會抽菸,但那時跟他出去一整天,從中午到半夜,
仔細觀察過好幾次,大概都只有4-5支,原本滿心認為量不是很大,
婚後再慢慢勸他就好。
但婚後才發現,他是一天會抽至少一包的重症者……。
軟的、硬的、勸的、逼的,通通都試過。
健康因素、以後小孩會有樣學樣、我會擔心他的健康………啪啦啪啦各種原因……
對他完全不起任何作用。
每次提到戒菸,心情好時他就打哈哈混過去,心情不好時就會翻臉。
跟我說:這不是婚前就知道的的事嗎?為何現在拿出來跟他吵?
有一次好不容易被我勸進戒菸門診,我還跟他說以後的戒菸門診通通由我買單,
我本來還滿心歡喜,結果……拿回家的尼古丁替代品根本連碰都沒碰,
看完門診之後,原本跟他約定一天由一包先降到3/4包~1/2 包的,也被他視為無物。
那幾天我私下觀察過,他菸量根本毫無減少,但卻每天都騙我他已經降到半包。
我覺得他答應了我,卻根本不當回事,甚至以欺騙蒙混跟他吵了一架,
他說我小題大作反應過度。
前幾天他跟我的一群同事出遊,在要登機前,找著我的登機證,
(因為被他拿去買免稅菸所以在他那邊…)
尋找的過程他把方才買的菸拿出來,
我第一直覺反射的反應說「你拿出來幹麼?趕快收起來!」
說完馬上後悔,除了語氣有點兇,馬上想到他一定有後續的反應。
我隔了幾分鐘向他道歉說「對不起,我太兇了。」但當天他已賭氣不高興。
返家隔天,他告訴我其實他生氣的不是我太兇,
而是他認為「我好像覺得他讓我很丟臉」。
我苦口婆心的解釋:
『並不是「你這個人」讓我丟臉,
而是「抽菸」這件事在現在的社會價值觀中並不是一件好事,
所以我不想被別人知道你抽菸,而且抽菸的人不覺得自己身上有菸味,
但其實其他不抽菸的人,只要你一靠近就會聞到菸味,
而且今天換做是我身邊其他親近的人,我也會有一樣的反應。』……
但他聽不進去,執意認為是「我覺得他讓我很丟臉」所以兇他。
最後我已猜到他要說什麼,搶在他前面說:
如果你接下來要說:「那我以後不去參加你朋友的聚會了總可以吧!」
我只能說我很難過並且很遺憾,因為你是用逃避面對問題的方式解決,
而不是朝著如何減少菸量、如何戒菸的方向解決。
他默然離開房間。
之前去做生育力檢查,我們雙方都有一點點問題,
他的問題出在活動量偏低,但剛好低空飛過及格。
我曾問他有想過可能是因為抽菸造成的嗎?他又回我:但還是及格啊!又沒怎樣…
抽菸這件事,不是第一次造成我們吵架,應該也不會是最後一次。
想請問版友,是否有成功讓老公戒菸的實例可分享??
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