買房子一定要家庭戰爭嗎? - 婚姻
By Hamiltion
at 2011-12-12T13:06
at 2011-12-12T13:06
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老公最近在考慮要買房子,
因為現在住的房子是租的,是套房..
我的預產期前2個月租約到期
有了小孩勢必搬到有客廳的房子...
ps.我目前沒在工作,打算生完小孩等小孩稍微作息有規律
再把小孩托給我娘家媽媽帶~
我就可以出去工作
可是如果租一層公寓,其實就跟把它買下來繳的房貸差沒多少了...
所以老公想要乾脆買起來~~以後如果沒有在住也可以轉手或是租給別人
前天老公跟婆婆提到這件事...
我感覺到
1.他不希望小孩給我媽媽帶~~
2.他不希望我們在外縣市買房子
3.他要我們搬回去婆家住
1.婆家的人其實說話都一直反反覆覆....
一開始要我不要工作,說做人媳婦就怎樣怎樣~~不需要工作
要以家庭為重....blahblahblahblah....
可是我真的沒在工作他們就流露出我會拖累他兒子的態度
甚至還跟老公的哥哥說"他們從來沒有叫我不要工作過"
靠!!真令人火大~所以都是我自己懶惰不工作的嗎????
好!我抱怨太多~~重點是~~~
婆婆有表現出來說小孩不要給娘家帶
但是如果我出去工作的話,婆家沒有人有辦法幫我們帶小孩...
唯一一個可能比較有空的就是我公公...但是他真的不會帶小孩...
而且他又是老菸槍...整天煙跟檳榔不離手的....
如果我不工作只帶小孩,我覺得我會跟社會脫節
而且少了一份手頭也會比較沒那麼寬裕..不能想買什麼就買什麼...
又不想給我娘家帶小孩,又想要我去工作???到底要我怎麼做??
2.其實如果我們在外縣市買房子,車程其實離婆家也才40分鐘左右
但是公婆的觀念就是,不想要我們買房子~~
嘴巴是說要多留點錢給小孩以後唸書
但如果不買房子~~也不會多留多少錢啊...還不是一樣要繳房租...
我很直覺的覺得,他們就是想要控制我們...要我們照他們的意思去做...
而且其實我老公還有蠻大一筆錢扣在他爸媽那邊....
是足夠付頭期款的錢......我覺得到時候他們一定不會拿出來...
3.其實說來說去....
公婆就是希望老公把工作辭掉住在家裡,找附近的工作...
但是!!!我們的家鄉實在是一個沒什麼工作機會的地方...
而且薪水真的比較少......我們考量之後是覺得真的沒有這個必要...
沒有把工作辭掉回婆家住的必要.........
而且我也不想回去婆家住...因為........
他們家是一直說自己"家大業大"這種家庭...
媳婦就應該blahblahblah的那種家庭.....
訂婚當天還打電話來問可不可以不收聘金的那種家庭...
結婚前一直追問我會附什麼嫁妝的那種家庭.....
ps.最後我們是沒收聘金,附了整套家具的嫁妝.........
我媽甚至還說如果他們家捨不得花錢買車,我媽要買!!
我很火大!!就回我媽又不是入贅為什麼什麼都要我們出錢!!???
ps.老公家真的是手頭非常寬裕的家庭..
但是需要把錢拿出來的時候.....就............
我媽生我真的是賠錢貨......
好!這是我情緒化的發言~~現實面來說~~我們也沒辦法搬回去婆家~~
因為我們根本就只有一間房間,以後有小孩根本就不可能住得下!!
而且他媽現在就開始灌輸我們抱小孩之前不用洗手.....
或是吸點二手菸不會怎樣...這種觀念.....
我當然更不可能把小孩給他們顧或是搬回去了!!
所以~~其實我老公跟婆婆講這件事是希望明年我們如果要買房子的時候
他們可以把老公的錢還給他...
但是...看婆婆這麼反彈......以及擔心公公爆炸的情況...
我覺得......真是奇怪的父母= =
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