有理也說不清 - 婚姻
By Skylar Davis
at 2011-10-24T04:46
at 2011-10-24T04:46
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原文先吃光光!
首先感謝版上所有朋友給我和我老婆不管是正面或是負面的意見,
我和我老婆目前已經和好了!
給那些罵我是大男人、自我主義者、沒有同理心的人…
你們錯了,我自認是個體貼的老公,就算沒有八十分,也有七十分,
不然你們自己問我老婆看看我平常體貼不體貼?
接下來我要講幾則小故事:
故事一:
幾年前我換了新的工作,
我對我一個共事的同事不甚滿意,
回到家我會和老婆講說我那個同事怎樣怎樣的,
然後有一回,我帶老婆和公司同仁聚餐
我就逐一向我老婆介紹我同事,
等到介紹到那位我很不喜歡的同事時,
老婆就說:喔!你就是那位個性很奇怪,問話都不回的那個人喔!
現場一片尷尬.............
請問我之後應該怎麼樣才能避免這種情況發生?
1.以後不要和老婆講我同事和朋友的壞話。
2.以後同事 & 朋友聚餐不要帶老婆去。
3.和老婆說以後講話要小心點,要懂得修飾。
我選了3
故事二:
新婚時,我和我老婆回我老家陪我爸媽吃飯
吃飽飯後,大家聚在一起聊天,
老婆很開心的就一直聊一直聊,
然後就和我講了一句:我媽媽怎樣怎樣,你爸怎樣怎樣的…
這時後我老媽就義正嚴詞的對我老婆說:
某某啊,妳已經嫁過來了,
在我們倆老的面前不可以直接講你爸爸、你媽媽
這樣很沒有禮貌!
請問之後要怎樣避免同樣的情況再發生?
1.以後不要帶老婆回老家吃飯了。
2.請老婆以後講話要小心點,要懂得修飾。
我選了2
故事三:
就以這次吵架的導火線,我姐在FB照片上貼標籤的事
首先我承認我有用我老婆FB的分身去亂加好友,那是為了要玩小遊戲,衝任務
但我完全不記得我有我老婆的FB主帳號去加好友(應該是說我確定我沒有)
然後老婆不爽我姐在照片隨意貼她標籤,就在塗鴉牆上寫了一句complain的英文
接著我姐在回文上寫sorry…
當時我看到了回文就馬上問老婆事情的原委,
然後就口氣不好的說:妳為什麼要在塗鴉牆上面寫呢?
為什麼不用傳訊息的和姐講"我不喜歡醜醜的照片被別人看到"請她以後不要再這樣子了
這樣不就很簡單就解決了!?
但老婆竟回答:你們為什麼要這樣子先入為主,我又沒有說是誰?奇怪勒?
我:可是妳寫這樣最好我姐看不出來妳在寫她啦!所以她才會回文呀!
而且這樣子妳朋友也知道妳在罵姐!
老婆:我那知道姐會回文呀?那怎麼辦
我:妳現在就上FB把文章刪掉,再和姐道個歉。
老婆:…好啦
當天晚上道完歉我以為整件事就OK了,沒想到…
隔天老婆又多此一舉更改權限,讓整件事又爆發開來,
老婆甚至聽信我的氣話和網友的撥弄把我姐和我的FB都刪了…
接著我也爆發了……
以上三則故事基本上可以看得出我們家的相處模式了
以下是寫給我老婆看的:
老婆,我知道妳喜歡上PTT、FB看一些、講一些有的沒的
也知道妳個性就是非常的直…
但我要讓妳知道,人是群居的動物,人與人之間的相處是很重要的
尤其是和自己的親人之間的相處更需要學習和經營!
妳已經是當媽媽的人了,不要再像小孩子一樣講一些不負責任的話
並不是藉由講話刺傷別人、試探別人的底線,
再來看別人是否會寬容妳來判斷他對妳是不是真心的
姐姐對我們的好妳也是知道的,僅管妳自認為和她還不是很熟,
但姐是真的把妳當成自己家人來看待的!
妳知道當她得知我們為了她的事情吵架,她有多傷心…
電話那頭還一直哭,說害我們夫妻失和她很抱歉什麼的…
我姐如此,妳媽媽、妳外婆也是這樣,
不要講一些無所謂的氣話來傷害自己的家人!
親情是無價的…朋友是一時的…
這是我一直要妳記得的一點,妳聽進去了嗎?
最後我要說:老婆,我愛妳,愛妳的天真爛漫,
但希望妳做人處事上能多點圓滑,多點思考
這樣子對妳的未來,甚至我們的未來才會更好,
當然我也會修正我自己的缺點!
以上!
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