請問家庭支出 - 婚姻
By Hamiltion
at 2011-08-19T16:11
at 2011-08-19T16:11
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※ 引述《urmomo (MoMo)》之銘言:
: 照你所言這對夫妻已經財產分別且房子是婚前財產 那房貸不應算入家用
: 請問固定家用(水電瓦斯管理費網路等)是多少?
: 這對夫妻我猜十之八九是只有假日一起吃飯吧 我想飯錢應該不是都老婆出吧
: 如果假日吃飯的飯錢都老婆出 才能把飯錢也算入共同開支喔
: 單就小孩的問題來講
: 個人覺得 要給爸媽帶小孩就不要跟老婆要錢
: 跟老婆要錢就出去另外找保姆
: 不管是媽寶版或是這個版 都可以看到很多因為給長輩帶孩子而起的衝突
: 這位先生如果想要老婆出錢 就請另外找保姆 至少讓老婆覺得錢花了有價值
: 又要給自己爸媽帶 還想要跟老婆要錢 什麼都要 這樣個人認為有點難看
: 當然如果是老婆自己也不相信外面的保姆想給公婆帶 那就另當別論
: 只是就我爬這個版的感想 這種媳婦可能不多
: 如果小孩是另外找保姆 那我覺得女生出6成的養育費 就收入比來看是合理的
: 男生每個月出的家用也就不只四千 而是最少12k(全日托最少20k 四成8k+4k=12k)
: 先生年收60w 月薪應該是四萬上下 扣掉飯錢油錢手機約8k 家用12k 還有孝親
: 約莫個人剩餘8~10k左右 也差不多了 全榨乾其實也沒多多少 只能說奇蒙子問題而已
: 我的結論就是 如果先生覺得目前孝親含保姆費二合一太吃重 應該去找父母哭窮
: 要找老婆出錢建議另外找保姆
非常感謝大家的意見,也感謝朋友在版上詢問,
這事情對我是個困擾,我很謝謝相關的推文與建議、有些細節需要更正:
先生是某小軟體公司的工程師、也算職員吧.
今年才結婚,孩子已經有了,還在肚子裡尚未出來. :)
懷孕對女生的身體、真的有辛苦到,對工作效率、努力拼勁,有很大的影響..
個人收入在包含分紅、年終、股票股利等等,只是保守大略粗估很不一定。
房子部分,金融海嘯之前,光復路上的一房新建案還不錯 (交往認識之前就買),
自己住很舒服、房貸一萬初,家裡總支出跟單身差不多、差別在多了一人住。
只是... 結婚之後,先生在經濟面的付出,也維持跟單身時期一樣。
家事本來就是女生的責任,男生從小在家裡沒這習慣、不太會(削水果、煮飯)
能夠願意幫忙,就已經很好了 (洗衣、倒垃圾)
男生也許對髒亂有較大的容忍度,因此對於清潔打掃比較被動
我這邊新增支出比較多,像是兩人出外吃飯、自費產檢、寶寶與孕婦用品等等。
跟同事朋友聊天,也提到養小狼狗(?) 但先生有穩定工作賺錢,應該不算。
我們的原生家庭差異太大,先生家境不好、很節省、半工半讀念完大學(優點)
能言善道、包容我工作到很晚、省下的錢都去投資理財,等等。
(剛畢業月入3w,3年可以存100w,可見有多節省,希望以後被動收入更多)
先生的父母與姊妹也不錯,雖然沒錢但是客氣熱情、優點總是有的...
只是...家裡燈泡更換、廁所空調維修、棉被送洗、買冷氣等,
每件都我出,因為房子在我名下、所以相關支出當然算我的。
上次討論到新竹房子支出,先生說,那就房子賣掉,回先生台中家跟公婆住..
他的工作可有可無、但是我很喜歡熱愛我現在的工作,捨不得離開。
蜜月、產檢,講好要1/2平分,說要分期付款給我,結果賴到現在..
最近討論小孩給公婆帶、寶寶保險,費用2/3 讓我很困擾(依收入比例),
要怎麼帶我沒想法、沒意見,不知道到時會有什麼問題呢?
其實,對錢的處理我也不想斤斤計較,跟先生溝通我總是說不過他。
工作一忙我沒時間去想,但一提及就會覺得很累很辛苦,算是 kimogi 不好吧..
因為同事都對女伴很大方說,不由自主的就會抱怨碎碎念囉..
婚姻諮商、教會婚姻課程,對我有一些幫助,錢之外的事都可以improve.
小孩從母姓這大絕,沒有多大意義,因為先生跟我媽媽同姓 XD
--
: 照你所言這對夫妻已經財產分別且房子是婚前財產 那房貸不應算入家用
: 請問固定家用(水電瓦斯管理費網路等)是多少?
: 這對夫妻我猜十之八九是只有假日一起吃飯吧 我想飯錢應該不是都老婆出吧
: 如果假日吃飯的飯錢都老婆出 才能把飯錢也算入共同開支喔
: 單就小孩的問題來講
: 個人覺得 要給爸媽帶小孩就不要跟老婆要錢
: 跟老婆要錢就出去另外找保姆
: 不管是媽寶版或是這個版 都可以看到很多因為給長輩帶孩子而起的衝突
: 這位先生如果想要老婆出錢 就請另外找保姆 至少讓老婆覺得錢花了有價值
: 又要給自己爸媽帶 還想要跟老婆要錢 什麼都要 這樣個人認為有點難看
: 當然如果是老婆自己也不相信外面的保姆想給公婆帶 那就另當別論
: 只是就我爬這個版的感想 這種媳婦可能不多
: 如果小孩是另外找保姆 那我覺得女生出6成的養育費 就收入比來看是合理的
: 男生每個月出的家用也就不只四千 而是最少12k(全日托最少20k 四成8k+4k=12k)
: 先生年收60w 月薪應該是四萬上下 扣掉飯錢油錢手機約8k 家用12k 還有孝親
: 約莫個人剩餘8~10k左右 也差不多了 全榨乾其實也沒多多少 只能說奇蒙子問題而已
: 我的結論就是 如果先生覺得目前孝親含保姆費二合一太吃重 應該去找父母哭窮
: 要找老婆出錢建議另外找保姆
非常感謝大家的意見,也感謝朋友在版上詢問,
這事情對我是個困擾,我很謝謝相關的推文與建議、有些細節需要更正:
先生是某小軟體公司的工程師、也算職員吧.
今年才結婚,孩子已經有了,還在肚子裡尚未出來. :)
懷孕對女生的身體、真的有辛苦到,對工作效率、努力拼勁,有很大的影響..
個人收入在包含分紅、年終、股票股利等等,只是保守大略粗估很不一定。
房子部分,金融海嘯之前,光復路上的一房新建案還不錯 (交往認識之前就買),
自己住很舒服、房貸一萬初,家裡總支出跟單身差不多、差別在多了一人住。
只是... 結婚之後,先生在經濟面的付出,也維持跟單身時期一樣。
家事本來就是女生的責任,男生從小在家裡沒這習慣、不太會(削水果、煮飯)
能夠願意幫忙,就已經很好了 (洗衣、倒垃圾)
男生也許對髒亂有較大的容忍度,因此對於清潔打掃比較被動
我這邊新增支出比較多,像是兩人出外吃飯、自費產檢、寶寶與孕婦用品等等。
跟同事朋友聊天,也提到養小狼狗(?) 但先生有穩定工作賺錢,應該不算。
我們的原生家庭差異太大,先生家境不好、很節省、半工半讀念完大學(優點)
能言善道、包容我工作到很晚、省下的錢都去投資理財,等等。
(剛畢業月入3w,3年可以存100w,可見有多節省,希望以後被動收入更多)
先生的父母與姊妹也不錯,雖然沒錢但是客氣熱情、優點總是有的...
只是...家裡燈泡更換、廁所空調維修、棉被送洗、買冷氣等,
每件都我出,因為房子在我名下、所以相關支出當然算我的。
上次討論到新竹房子支出,先生說,那就房子賣掉,回先生台中家跟公婆住..
他的工作可有可無、但是我很喜歡熱愛我現在的工作,捨不得離開。
蜜月、產檢,講好要1/2平分,說要分期付款給我,結果賴到現在..
最近討論小孩給公婆帶、寶寶保險,費用2/3 讓我很困擾(依收入比例),
要怎麼帶我沒想法、沒意見,不知道到時會有什麼問題呢?
其實,對錢的處理我也不想斤斤計較,跟先生溝通我總是說不過他。
工作一忙我沒時間去想,但一提及就會覺得很累很辛苦,算是 kimogi 不好吧..
因為同事都對女伴很大方說,不由自主的就會抱怨碎碎念囉..
婚姻諮商、教會婚姻課程,對我有一些幫助,錢之外的事都可以improve.
小孩從母姓這大絕,沒有多大意義,因為先生跟我媽媽同姓 XD
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