『體諒』這兩個字 - 婚姻
By Kyle
at 2011-08-19T10:08
at 2011-08-19T10:08
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分享一下昨天才發生的事件
老公的性子是慢郎中的一種,大家如果看過電影 "新娘大作戰"
裡面那個金髮女主角 Liz 的老公
我老公的個性大概就是那樣了
而我,正好跟他相反,我很急性........
其實,相處這麼多年,我很信任他
但往往又被自己的急躁性子給打敗
他答應過的事情都會做到,只不過比較慢
這幾天因為婆婆娘家在大拜拜,義民廟要殺豬公祭神
所以婆婆昨天就開始忙了,幾乎都不在家
而我這幾天生理期結束,又熬了幾天夜
於是,"妹妹"就發炎了,前天自行塞了藥劑之後
約了昨天晚上看診,因為是晚診
醫師看診很仔細,輪到 30 號之後的號碼,都得看到凌晨十二點
在高雄四季看過的版友應該會知道
那因為我晚上都要上課,沒辦法在下課前去掛號報到
於是,我八點四十一下課立刻就打電話給老公了
想叫他先幫我打電話報到,因為我也沒有抄下四季的號碼 (我的疏忽)
沒想到打給他,他人在外面(在婆婆娘家),問他有沒有辦法打電話幫我報到一下
因為我還在幫學生輔導,沒辦法一下走開
大概是在忙準備拜拜的事情,這傢伙竟回了我
他不知道四季的號碼,等一下還要載阿姨們回家,八拉八拉走不開
最後一句:妳就自己去看啊
OK,我承認後來是我的急躁性子+不體諒又爆發了
爆點一:你們全家都外出,你也外出,卻沒有一個人通知我
爆點二:那是不是等我回家才會發現你不在家呢?
爆點三:為什麼你可以一個人和你家人快快樂樂的出門準備拜拜
而我卻得孤孤單單在半夜凌晨,自己去看婦產科?
你不知道半夜腳開開的在那邊感覺很恐怖嗎?
爆點四:我認為你走的開啊?從你舅舅家到我們家也才十分鐘
不然你回家一下幫我電話報到,在去舅舅家
這樣也不行嗎?(他舅舅家沒有電腦,他說他沒法查電話)
爆點五:為什麼你不跟我說你會外出?要等我發現你才講
你不知道晚上下班回家,發現家裡一人都沒有
自己卻不知道,這種感覺很差嗎?
以上,我拉拉雜雜說了一堆,又傳了簡訊,又掛他電話
隱約,只聽到老公忙著解釋:我會打電話跟妳說在舅舅家,只不過八點半妳還在上課
打手機不禮貌 八拉八拉
後來,我傳簡訊還說了句:我覺得自己被你隨便對待了!
手機關靜音,那時候已經九點半,我一個人默默騎著機車
拿著書本回家了,一邊騎還一邊落淚,感覺超級孤單的
(覺得自己被忽略,又要半夜獨自看婦產科,腳開開...)
以前你都對我那麼好,現在才結婚一年多就這樣
內心開始演起了小劇場...
沒想到回到家,發現家裡電燈開著,老公提早回來了
他一臉心疼,口氣疼惜的說:怎麼啦?怎麼啦? 嘟著一張嘴的
於是,伸手接過我的包包,憐惜的臉上沒有半點責備
沒有責怪我不懂事,不是他不打電話
而是他要選在正確的時間打,以免影響我上課
但我卻自顧自的發脾氣,還掛他電話
每次有爭執,他只要這個樣子,我就覺得自己錯了
後來,我一臉悶悶不樂,只覺得自己好像又給他壞印象了...
之後,老公還是陪我去看了醫生,那時候是凌晨十二點
最後,我還是想重申自己的想法,以免以後又為了這個吵架
我說:以後,你出門要晚歸,可以先跟我說嗎?
然後說完,又想捶自己的大腿,他剛剛不是說會打
只不過晚一點打而已
這整件事情,我很感謝老公對我的體諒
感謝他包容我的脾氣,沒有在我每次掛他電話之後生氣
也沒有轉身離開,總是在原地溫柔的等我氣消
朋友都說我和老公很幸福
但婚後,我也一直在檢討自己的個性
但檢討歸檢討,急躁的性子說要改變也真的不容易
我只能在自己生氣的時候,少說話
畢竟,少說少錯
自己也很怕萬一這樣任性下去,哪天,老公不會依舊在原地了
所以,為了怕自己上演婚前咄咄逼人的態度
只要一生氣,我就不太說話,怕自己說出什麼不對的話語
這時,反而老公會更在意,以前會罵人的
現在怎麼選擇沈默了......
殊不知,我只是不想說出傷害感情的話
寧願回房間搥枕頭,或是打電話給姊妹們宣洩
有些話可以對朋友講,對親密愛人不說比較好...
人家不是說,感情是會越吵越薄的嗎?
而我不想變成那樣
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