沒有婆婆只有公公 - 結婚
By Todd Johnson
at 2010-08-12T20:14
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和男友交往已經六年多了
有討論到兩三年後結婚的問題
我本身是從事教職
而男友因為之前投資生意失敗
後來自己開店 花了不少錢
所以限在積蓄大概十萬上下而已
但自己現在當老闆 生意穩定
月入大概四五萬
但是大概也不會再變了
我自己是老師 教書三年
收入也大概是這樣 只是工作時間比男友短
(但如果在加備課時間也算 其實是差不多的)
很多身旁的人都覺得
你當老師 應該價個醫生 律師 或建築師ㄚ
我也曾經動搖過
想分手去相親
但是我常常想到
男友陪伴我走過大學和考老師的點滴
其實我知道
條件不是最好的他 會是對我最好的人
對不起 有點離題了
關於結婚的事
我男友的媽嗎 在他國中時就去世了
他的爸爸 以前因為是和太太一同開公司
後來受不了打擊 都一直沒有再工作了
聽男友說 以前媽媽還在 爸爸還上班時
家裡每天坐計程車 吃麥當勞(以前算貴嗎 其實我不懂)
但家裡後來花了非常非常多錢 為媽媽醫病
算是後來整個中落
我看過男友媽媽的照片
是一個好溫柔的人的感覺
我男友在高中和他哥哥就得自立更生
因為爸爸都每天藉酒澆愁
從高中後 學費 生活費 都自己處理
還有時得給爸爸錢
後來爸爸狀況有好一點了
爸爸人很好 只是很重感情 很傳統
目前就是和十五年前一樣在家裡
不會花錢 但是也就是完全靠我男友養(男友住家裡 他哥很早就結婚生子了)
最近和男友討論結婚的事
1. 我有和男友說 我不會介意公證或花很少的錢結婚
但因為我爸媽是公教人員 他們可能覺得這樣很沒面子或不好
我不敢和他們討論 他們知道男友媽媽很早過世
也知道男友爸爸沒在工作 但不清楚 男友需要養他爸爸
而且男友家(就是未來公公) 不可能拿出一毛錢來
我都不敢和家人講 男友現在付公司店的房貸(買下來了) 還有
一些貨款週轉金額 養車養家 大概一個月存個壹萬多
這些我都不敢講
2. 沒有婆婆 很奇怪嗎 未來公公和自己的父母 感覺就是兩個世界的人
其實有時候我也覺得 自己 和 男友是兩個世界的人
但他真的很愛我 對我很好 我也很愛他 很喜歡他的獨立 體貼 和愛家
我每次去他家 他爸爸都會親手燒一手好菜給我吃 但是每天就是看電視 種菜 整理花圃
全程講台語 和我台北的時髦爸媽不太一樣
請問各位大大
我的不安全感是正常的嗎
我該慢慢向父母透露可能會和男友結婚的訊息嗎
因為連我姊和我媽有時都會說 你要不要和學校男老師多認識阿
或是 要不要再找更好的
我知道他們是為我好
但也很明顯地表示對男友不夠滿意
我和男友說 他和我都覺得蠻難過的
因為男友來我們家 我爸媽都對他很好 相處也都很愉快
不太明白為何要這麼說
文長不好意思
我知道有時沒有一定答案
但還是很想聽聽大家的看法
--
有討論到兩三年後結婚的問題
我本身是從事教職
而男友因為之前投資生意失敗
後來自己開店 花了不少錢
所以限在積蓄大概十萬上下而已
但自己現在當老闆 生意穩定
月入大概四五萬
但是大概也不會再變了
我自己是老師 教書三年
收入也大概是這樣 只是工作時間比男友短
(但如果在加備課時間也算 其實是差不多的)
很多身旁的人都覺得
你當老師 應該價個醫生 律師 或建築師ㄚ
我也曾經動搖過
想分手去相親
但是我常常想到
男友陪伴我走過大學和考老師的點滴
其實我知道
條件不是最好的他 會是對我最好的人
對不起 有點離題了
關於結婚的事
我男友的媽嗎 在他國中時就去世了
他的爸爸 以前因為是和太太一同開公司
後來受不了打擊 都一直沒有再工作了
聽男友說 以前媽媽還在 爸爸還上班時
家裡每天坐計程車 吃麥當勞(以前算貴嗎 其實我不懂)
但家裡後來花了非常非常多錢 為媽媽醫病
算是後來整個中落
我看過男友媽媽的照片
是一個好溫柔的人的感覺
我男友在高中和他哥哥就得自立更生
因為爸爸都每天藉酒澆愁
從高中後 學費 生活費 都自己處理
還有時得給爸爸錢
後來爸爸狀況有好一點了
爸爸人很好 只是很重感情 很傳統
目前就是和十五年前一樣在家裡
不會花錢 但是也就是完全靠我男友養(男友住家裡 他哥很早就結婚生子了)
最近和男友討論結婚的事
1. 我有和男友說 我不會介意公證或花很少的錢結婚
但因為我爸媽是公教人員 他們可能覺得這樣很沒面子或不好
我不敢和他們討論 他們知道男友媽媽很早過世
也知道男友爸爸沒在工作 但不清楚 男友需要養他爸爸
而且男友家(就是未來公公) 不可能拿出一毛錢來
我都不敢和家人講 男友現在付公司店的房貸(買下來了) 還有
一些貨款週轉金額 養車養家 大概一個月存個壹萬多
這些我都不敢講
2. 沒有婆婆 很奇怪嗎 未來公公和自己的父母 感覺就是兩個世界的人
其實有時候我也覺得 自己 和 男友是兩個世界的人
但他真的很愛我 對我很好 我也很愛他 很喜歡他的獨立 體貼 和愛家
我每次去他家 他爸爸都會親手燒一手好菜給我吃 但是每天就是看電視 種菜 整理花圃
全程講台語 和我台北的時髦爸媽不太一樣
請問各位大大
我的不安全感是正常的嗎
我該慢慢向父母透露可能會和男友結婚的訊息嗎
因為連我姊和我媽有時都會說 你要不要和學校男老師多認識阿
或是 要不要再找更好的
我知道他們是為我好
但也很明顯地表示對男友不夠滿意
我和男友說 他和我都覺得蠻難過的
因為男友來我們家 我爸媽都對他很好 相處也都很愉快
不太明白為何要這麼說
文長不好意思
我知道有時沒有一定答案
但還是很想聽聽大家的看法
--
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