有人的錢是給老公管的嗎?? - 婚姻
By Elma
at 2011-12-03T00:07
at 2011-12-03T00:07
Table of Contents
原文恕刪。
原波的例子真是恰恰好,就是我老爸老媽的翻版。
我親愛的老爸也是很會管帳,而且很會理財的人。我老爸父母早逝,
而我媽是外公把所有資源都投住在舅舅身上無法資助女兒,所以兩人結婚時
真是兩袖清風。為了要給家裡安定的生活,我老爸一開始就實施嚴格的金錢控管,
他當年不但把我媽的提款卡收著,甚至還代我媽領薪水,只給我媽少少的零用錢
然後一切家用都要報備。
要說我老爸錯了嘛?看來他也無大錯,而且給他管帳的結果就是三個女兒的教育費
從來都不需要女兒自己去籌措,還買了兩棟房子,他們退休之後還可以常常出國
過著悠閒的退休生活(多半都是我媽出國,我爸把他自己的份省下來了)。
可是我老媽的奇摩子就這樣不爽了二十年,不爽到後來,我媽在情緒上變得很不穩定
,一直認為全世界的人都欠她的,她的丈夫跟她的小孩拼命花她的錢,
因為她看不到我爸持家的辛苦,只看到她身為一個月賺六七萬的資深教師,
回到手上的錢就只有少少的幾千塊。我大學聯考,同時也是我妹國中聯考的那一年,
她每天跟我爸摔盤子擲菜刀互相對罵到深夜,就是為了要分家,當然這些事情
也波及到小孩,我跟我妹常常穿著沒有洗的制服去上學。就算我們要自己洗
也會被我媽罵到狗血淋頭。
後來過了幾年後他們夫妻的財產算是分開了,就如同某版友說的,
設立一個公共基金,家用從那裡支出,然後夫妻各有各的戶頭。
不過我媽由於前二十年毫無管帳的經驗,她又希望證明自己的投資能力,
所以常常會無預期地跑去看房地產想買房子(有兩次真的讓她買下來,
然後貸款兩人一起揹到現在),或者是自己投資股票虧了一屁股(後來還是得賴我爸
幫她理財),之後相吵相罵的戲碼還是持續不斷,一直到現在。
身為他們的小孩,我的確很感激我爸這樣為我們家付出,我也很感激我媽願意
吞忍二十年就為了支撐這個家。但如果可以讓我說句話,我會說:
我可以自己出去打工賺學費,我也不需要住那麼好的房子,但我真的需要
一個平靜的家庭生活。我不希望看到父母親天天為了錢吵架,吵到感情都沒了。
更嘔的是,這個天天為錢吵架的家庭,並非因為「沒錢」所以才吵架,
僅僅因為要爭那口氣,認為自己不被對方信任才吵架。
如果原波覺得自己在財務方面不被尊重、不受信任,請千萬千萬在結婚的初期
就要跟自己的另一半討論清楚權責劃分的問題,我覺得夫妻和樂比什麼都重要。
當然,如果妳要把財政大權要回來,妳要有心理準備需要負起相應的責任。
--
Tags:
婚姻
All Comments
By Rebecca
at 2011-12-07T22:19
at 2011-12-07T22:19
By Bethany
at 2011-12-12T10:49
at 2011-12-12T10:49
By Edward Lewis
at 2011-12-15T12:23
at 2011-12-15T12:23
By Olga
at 2011-12-16T15:41
at 2011-12-16T15:41
By Audriana
at 2011-12-20T07:13
at 2011-12-20T07:13
By Olga
at 2011-12-21T06:54
at 2011-12-21T06:54
By Ina
at 2011-12-23T13:43
at 2011-12-23T13:43
By Tristan Cohan
at 2011-12-24T23:43
at 2011-12-24T23:43
By Isabella
at 2011-12-25T06:42
at 2011-12-25T06:42
By Mason
at 2011-12-27T23:25
at 2011-12-27T23:25
By Leila
at 2011-12-31T20:28
at 2011-12-31T20:28
By Frederic
at 2012-01-01T07:32
at 2012-01-01T07:32
By Audriana
at 2012-01-01T12:16
at 2012-01-01T12:16
By Belly
at 2012-01-06T04:33
at 2012-01-06T04:33
By Ophelia
at 2012-01-07T08:22
at 2012-01-07T08:22
By Skylar Davis
at 2012-01-10T08:35
at 2012-01-10T08:35
By Ursula
at 2012-01-11T12:18
at 2012-01-11T12:18
By Carolina Franco
at 2012-01-11T14:21
at 2012-01-11T14:21
By Daniel
at 2012-01-14T05:35
at 2012-01-14T05:35
By Jacky
at 2012-01-15T17:48
at 2012-01-15T17:48
By Edward Lewis
at 2012-01-18T18:10
at 2012-01-18T18:10
By Carol
at 2012-01-19T04:36
at 2012-01-19T04:36
By Ula
at 2012-01-20T11:20
at 2012-01-20T11:20
By Selena
at 2012-01-22T20:08
at 2012-01-22T20:08
By Ula
at 2012-01-25T20:56
at 2012-01-25T20:56
By David
at 2012-01-26T21:47
at 2012-01-26T21:47
By Quanna
at 2012-01-30T02:46
at 2012-01-30T02:46
By Queena
at 2012-01-30T10:02
at 2012-01-30T10:02
By Dorothy
at 2012-01-30T16:41
at 2012-01-30T16:41
By Eartha
at 2012-01-31T12:52
at 2012-01-31T12:52
By William
at 2012-02-01T16:49
at 2012-02-01T16:49
By Jacob
at 2012-02-03T23:46
at 2012-02-03T23:46
By Quintina
at 2012-02-08T22:58
at 2012-02-08T22:58
By John
at 2012-02-12T14:35
at 2012-02-12T14:35
By Olga
at 2012-02-13T00:04
at 2012-02-13T00:04
Related Posts
有人的錢是給老公管的嗎??
By Vanessa
at 2011-12-02T23:57
at 2011-12-02T23:57
大家幸福嗎?
By Jack
at 2011-12-02T23:43
at 2011-12-02T23:43
有人的錢是給老公管的嗎??
By Gary
at 2011-12-02T22:59
at 2011-12-02T22:59
有人的錢是給老公管的嗎??
By Adele
at 2011-12-02T22:20
at 2011-12-02T22:20
家庭旅遊
By Daph Bay
at 2011-12-02T19:03
at 2011-12-02T19:03