是不是真的該分隔兩地 - 婚姻

By Megan
at 2017-09-06T20:09
at 2017-09-06T20:09
Table of Contents
背景:夫妻倆為公務人員
先生是警察我是銀行員
居住娘家縣市(宜蘭)。小孩兩個
在娘家縣市有購屋。房貸先生都包了
婆家在台中。約莫2個月回去省親一次
當初是徵求先生的同意
才會在宜蘭置產
而我今年剛調回宜蘭
短期內不能再調動
(其實私心也不想回婆家)
婆家台中房子三樓透天
住了公婆。大哥大嫂一家三口
(明年會在添位新成員)
三樓2間房已經是大哥的區域
我們四個回台中就是住二樓房間
以我們的東西根本就擺不下(嘆)..
事情是這樣的
一直以來跟先生跟我之間都有個問題
就是他一直很想調回台中服務
也順便陪伴公婆
(老公是老二。上有一兄下有一弟)
常常在他心情欠佳(或是氣候不佳?)
都會一直釋放這種想回家鄉的訊息給我們
一開始我的確也是沒有正視這些問題
常常在他心情好了之後就會以為他不在想回去
但殊不知其實他都事事擺進心上
每年可以寫統調的時候
他常說:看我們的表現決定他留宜蘭還是台中?
其實對於先生的工作內容其實我懂
常常我要偽單親我也知道
先生對於升官考試不喜歡我也都不強迫他去做
他喜歡去哪邊去吃什麼我們都會順著他
即便今天我爸媽不喜歡的東西
我們全家人都會陪先生吃喝玩樂
甚至有時候我都很害怕會惹他生氣
因為一生氣就會把調台中放在嘴邊
以前會一直希望一家四口都在一起
但現在我已經覺得痲痹了
對於他的威脅語氣
對於他的覺得我不重視婆家人
我無感了
最近因為一台餐搖椅的事
徹底惹毛他
他說了:我重視朋友比他家人更多
可是我必須要說的是
餐搖椅一開始我已經口頭答應朋友要借她了
(因為我自以為夫妻之間的東西是共有的。所以也沒在當下就告知他)
也以為附近親人都暫時沒有需要
誰知道剛好回台中大嫂說她懷孕了
先生就說那餐搖椅借大嫂
我說可是我已經借人了耶...
我還想說我付一半的錢給先生當買斷餐搖椅
當作送朋友的禮物
結果換來的一句我不重視婆家!!
我回應他說:東西有先來後到
但他只覺得我就是不重視婆家
(諸如此類的事件很多這只是冰山一角)
也讓我在隔天又收到一封他要調回台中的訊息
說他什麼都不管
也不想管我
小孩我不要他會帶回台中
小孩我要會留給我
宜蘭他以後不會常回來了冏rz....
唉。我懂想回家陪爸媽的感覺
也知道為人子女應該要怎麼做
但我也懂我已經不是個小孩子
是個大人。需要家庭需要小孩
我只是很無奈在這樣下去分隔兩地是早晚的事
我是不是真的應該放他回台中......
心情舒發。要鞭請小力一點XD
--
先生是警察我是銀行員
居住娘家縣市(宜蘭)。小孩兩個
在娘家縣市有購屋。房貸先生都包了
婆家在台中。約莫2個月回去省親一次
當初是徵求先生的同意
才會在宜蘭置產
而我今年剛調回宜蘭
短期內不能再調動
(其實私心也不想回婆家)
婆家台中房子三樓透天
住了公婆。大哥大嫂一家三口
(明年會在添位新成員)
三樓2間房已經是大哥的區域
我們四個回台中就是住二樓房間
以我們的東西根本就擺不下(嘆)..
事情是這樣的
一直以來跟先生跟我之間都有個問題
就是他一直很想調回台中服務
也順便陪伴公婆
(老公是老二。上有一兄下有一弟)
常常在他心情欠佳(或是氣候不佳?)
都會一直釋放這種想回家鄉的訊息給我們
一開始我的確也是沒有正視這些問題
常常在他心情好了之後就會以為他不在想回去
但殊不知其實他都事事擺進心上
每年可以寫統調的時候
他常說:看我們的表現決定他留宜蘭還是台中?
其實對於先生的工作內容其實我懂
常常我要偽單親我也知道
先生對於升官考試不喜歡我也都不強迫他去做
他喜歡去哪邊去吃什麼我們都會順著他
即便今天我爸媽不喜歡的東西
我們全家人都會陪先生吃喝玩樂
甚至有時候我都很害怕會惹他生氣
因為一生氣就會把調台中放在嘴邊
以前會一直希望一家四口都在一起
但現在我已經覺得痲痹了
對於他的威脅語氣
對於他的覺得我不重視婆家人
我無感了
最近因為一台餐搖椅的事
徹底惹毛他
他說了:我重視朋友比他家人更多
可是我必須要說的是
餐搖椅一開始我已經口頭答應朋友要借她了
(因為我自以為夫妻之間的東西是共有的。所以也沒在當下就告知他)
也以為附近親人都暫時沒有需要
誰知道剛好回台中大嫂說她懷孕了
先生就說那餐搖椅借大嫂
我說可是我已經借人了耶...
我還想說我付一半的錢給先生當買斷餐搖椅
當作送朋友的禮物
結果換來的一句我不重視婆家!!
我回應他說:東西有先來後到
但他只覺得我就是不重視婆家
(諸如此類的事件很多這只是冰山一角)
也讓我在隔天又收到一封他要調回台中的訊息
說他什麼都不管
也不想管我
小孩我不要他會帶回台中
小孩我要會留給我
宜蘭他以後不會常回來了冏rz....
唉。我懂想回家陪爸媽的感覺
也知道為人子女應該要怎麼做
但我也懂我已經不是個小孩子
是個大人。需要家庭需要小孩
我只是很無奈在這樣下去分隔兩地是早晚的事
我是不是真的應該放他回台中......
心情舒發。要鞭請小力一點XD
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