是不是我要求太多?想法太偏激? - 婚姻
By Bethany
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我目前懷孕中,雙胞胎。
11月底我突然出血好幾天,被嚇到了,
因此我跟另一半討論明年過年是否可以不要回花蓮老家,待在桃園陪我。
查了一些資料,都說雙胞胎是危險妊娠,
中/後期很可能需要安胎,也必須小心無痛出血,
無痛出血極有可能是胎盤剝離,
嚴重的話十分鐘內就會休克致死。
我不是醫護相關人員,
懷孕一路上也一直不順利、不舒服,
我很怕過年時一個人突然有狀況死在家中,
我很希望他能陪在我身邊。
但另一半剛好是醫護人員,一直覺得這樣的機率很低,我是杞人憂天。
他十分想要回家過節陪伴父母,
他提出了種種方式,例如:
先把我丟進醫院安胎、
請朋友家會中文的印籍幫傭陪我、
回去天數少一點,甚至只回去一天等等。
但說實話,誰會希望自己出事時孤單一人?或是只有個不熟的幫傭?
誰能保證我在他不在的那天就一定不會出事?我出事的話他能多快回來?
(他堅持現在的醫療環境很佳,假如出事也一定能拖到他回來見我最後一面)
在團聚的日子,而我因為身體狀況無法一起回老家時,
希望另一半陪在自己身邊真的這麼自私、無理嗎?
於是我們大吵了一架,最後他勉強妥協這次留下來陪我,
但一直認為我想太多、我根本不會有問題、說他很想回去。
我最後無力疲倦也生氣的說,那不然不要管我了,你這麼不甘願就回去過年吧。
他又說:都已經願意留下來陪妳了,妳不能管我的想法跟情緒。
但我要的是一個體貼陪伴的另一半,
而不是留下來陪我卻覺得犧牲很大、不開心的另一半。
今年最後一天,我覺得他的想法與態度是我心中的結,
所以決定跟他談談。
我一直認為,結了婚該以彼此為重,尤其我正懷孕中。
當另一半有需要時,即使是過年也該以另一半為重。
之後生產、孩子出生,我可能還是會有在大節日時需要他陪在身旁的日子,
我希望他能夠以我們的家庭為重,
當我需要他時他能陪在我身邊,而且不要這麼心不甘情不願。
假如他把我當家人,那麼團聚的日子我不更需要他在身邊?
我盡量語氣和緩的述說我的感受,
沒想到好好講一講,又有點吵起來,
他甚至說出結婚之後天天住在一起了,有必要連過節日都綁在一起嗎這樣的話。
我不知道是不是我的要求太多、想法太偏激。
假如是的話,請大家告訴我。
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11月底我突然出血好幾天,被嚇到了,
因此我跟另一半討論明年過年是否可以不要回花蓮老家,待在桃園陪我。
查了一些資料,都說雙胞胎是危險妊娠,
中/後期很可能需要安胎,也必須小心無痛出血,
無痛出血極有可能是胎盤剝離,
嚴重的話十分鐘內就會休克致死。
我不是醫護相關人員,
懷孕一路上也一直不順利、不舒服,
我很怕過年時一個人突然有狀況死在家中,
我很希望他能陪在我身邊。
但另一半剛好是醫護人員,一直覺得這樣的機率很低,我是杞人憂天。
他十分想要回家過節陪伴父母,
他提出了種種方式,例如:
先把我丟進醫院安胎、
請朋友家會中文的印籍幫傭陪我、
回去天數少一點,甚至只回去一天等等。
但說實話,誰會希望自己出事時孤單一人?或是只有個不熟的幫傭?
誰能保證我在他不在的那天就一定不會出事?我出事的話他能多快回來?
(他堅持現在的醫療環境很佳,假如出事也一定能拖到他回來見我最後一面)
在團聚的日子,而我因為身體狀況無法一起回老家時,
希望另一半陪在自己身邊真的這麼自私、無理嗎?
於是我們大吵了一架,最後他勉強妥協這次留下來陪我,
但一直認為我想太多、我根本不會有問題、說他很想回去。
我最後無力疲倦也生氣的說,那不然不要管我了,你這麼不甘願就回去過年吧。
他又說:都已經願意留下來陪妳了,妳不能管我的想法跟情緒。
但我要的是一個體貼陪伴的另一半,
而不是留下來陪我卻覺得犧牲很大、不開心的另一半。
今年最後一天,我覺得他的想法與態度是我心中的結,
所以決定跟他談談。
我一直認為,結了婚該以彼此為重,尤其我正懷孕中。
當另一半有需要時,即使是過年也該以另一半為重。
之後生產、孩子出生,我可能還是會有在大節日時需要他陪在身旁的日子,
我希望他能夠以我們的家庭為重,
當我需要他時他能陪在我身邊,而且不要這麼心不甘情不願。
假如他把我當家人,那麼團聚的日子我不更需要他在身邊?
我盡量語氣和緩的述說我的感受,
沒想到好好講一講,又有點吵起來,
他甚至說出結婚之後天天住在一起了,有必要連過節日都綁在一起嗎這樣的話。
我不知道是不是我的要求太多、想法太偏激。
假如是的話,請大家告訴我。
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請問全職媽媽們一個月的菜錢是多少?
By Charlie
at 2012-12-30T16:56
at 2012-12-30T16:56
請問全職媽媽們一個月的菜錢是多少?
By Carol
at 2012-12-29T15:48
at 2012-12-29T15:48