感情的順序 - 婚姻
By Xanthe
at 2011-09-27T03:48
at 2011-09-27T03:48
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這幾天總覺得一口氣哽著 上不來下不去
我跟外子當初是奉子成婚
不過早在我受孕前我們就聊過小孩的話題
言談中我就自以為他願意擔負身為父親的責任
......嗯,他當然願意
只是他想像中的『父親責任』是承襲自他父親的形象
大半輩子努力賺錢供小孩花用、培養小孩
(除此之外不用為小孩花費太多心力)
跟我自己以為的那種『親自教養小孩、每天陪伴小孩長大』不太一樣
現在想想這種自以為是否為錯誤的開始=_=
目前我們結婚四年 女兒三歲多 兒子一歲多
(養兩個小孩跟小孩年齡相近是我們交往時就有的共識)
在他的心中 感情順序是
愛老婆 > 愛小孩
在我的心中 感情順序是
愛小孩 > 愛老公
我知道外子的順序才是對的
但我就是無法改變我的順序
至少小孩還這麼小的時候沒辦法
而我最無法忍受的是
『就算愛老婆大過於愛小孩,也不能當成不夠愛孩子的藉口』
應該要愛老婆超級愛、愛小孩很愛很愛才對吧!
**可是外子給我的感覺就是很不愛小孩!**(這是我這篇文章的爆點
例如說他會特地買我喜歡吃的東西回家給我
可是遇到小孩想吃的時候
我認為留給小孩吃是天經地義的事
但他就會爆走罵小孩
說這是特地買給媽媽吃的你為什麼跟媽媽要
(我覺得為了食物罵小孩太過分了!
那不然罵我啊!是我給小孩吃的!可是他就寧願罵小孩!
小孩子才幾歲啊!)
他『幫忙』帶小孩
是因為覺得我帶小孩很辛苦
他想讓我休息才幫忙的
不是因為打從內心想跟小孩相處
(要不是為了『幫我』,他寧願選擇打電動)
平常一些零碎的小事我還可以接受
但這兩天剛好發生讓我一口氣哽著的狀況
1.前幾天我們跟團旅遊
因為上廁所拖延到時間(女廁都要排超久......)
大家都上車了
上車前那一段路偏偏是很難走的石板路
我從廁所出來就讓外子帶小孩先走
我自己洗手後才跟上
那麼難走的石板路
我覺得他應該抱女兒走才對
但他是『拖著女兒跑』
我很想從背後叫他抱女兒
但我怕他會生氣(他會大罵他已經很累了為什麼要抱小孩)
偏偏路難走我又趕不上前去抱小孩
接著女兒就跌倒了
那是石板路耶!
強力撞到石頭會有多痛!
『但他居然想把女兒拉起來直接繼續跑』
我整個氣炸了
追上前去把女兒抱起來
(因為真的遲了 先把女兒抱上車再說)
等我們上車
我還氣喘著來不及安慰女兒
『外子居然嫌女兒大哭很吵把她嘴巴摀起來』
套句老話 如果眼神可以殺人我瞬間把他銼骨揚灰了!
但眼神不能殺人 我只好立刻將女兒摟入懷中不讓他碰
女兒頭腫了很大一個包!而且還有瘀血!
他一直到看見女兒的腫包後才跟她道歉
2.我們書房很小 外子的電腦椅是可以滑動的滾輪椅
女兒在距離他椅子兩步遠的地方玩
坦白說這距離不夠遠 但書房實在也不大......
因為我電腦有狀況 他想過來幫我
『他下意識地將椅子往後一滑才站起來』
他站起來的時候踢到女兒
女兒立刻往前飛撲撞地
然後我就看到 女兒的血噴出來了
(衝擊力很大,外子自己跌倒了)
看到血的瞬間我差點飆淚
卻聽到外子第一個反應是破口大罵『妳為什麼要在我腳邊玩』
但女兒又不是在他腳邊玩!
是他自己把椅子往後滑!
如果真的是女兒在他腳邊玩
那說真的這件事我們警告過女兒多次
我會認為是小孩的錯
可是這一次,女兒距離他兩步遠耶!
當我看到女兒的手、腳、地板都有血
而他還在那邊罵小孩 怪小孩讓他跌倒
我真的很想拿花瓶用力朝他腦袋砸下去!
(幸好我家沒有任何花瓶,不然我就要去坐牢,
而小孩居然得由他照顧)
後來將血洗乾淨
發現傷口僅一處 不過有點深 血才會到處噴
我壓遍了兩張衛生紙才把血止住
我實在太生氣
當著女兒的面就跟他吵起來
(不過我全場抱著女兒 告訴她爸媽吵架不是她的錯)
吵過之後 他才跟女兒道歉
我這兩天忍不住想到底怎麼了
我知道這個人很愛我
但我怎麼會讓我的小孩有這種爸爸呢?
ps小孩當然是他的 拜託這點不用質疑了
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