媽媽跟老婆想法不同(再次補充) - 婚姻
By Lucy
at 2011-11-15T23:12
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※ 引述《rattenn (rattenn)》之銘言:
: 嗯 我今年5月才剛碰到。
: 我公公過世,我兒子當時才4個月。
: 公公過世後不論法會或出殯當天,我兒子都有到場。
: 一來他算是孫子,
: 二來覺得當他出生的時候,長輩很開心的送他紅包迎接他到這世界,
: 當長輩要離開,為什麼不能讓小孩送他一程呢?
: 於是我們就在寶寶的身上放了個紅包和艾草,(離開殯儀館後把草丟掉)
: 除了迎靈和送到火葬場寶寶沒有參加,從頭到尾他都在場。
: 中間我還帶著寶寶去殯儀館附設的餵乳室餵奶(這真是非常奇妙的經驗!)
: 在這之前不論有人跟我或老公說什麼怕吵怕煞怕......,
: 都在我和老公的共識下,完全沒有其他的雜音和異議。
: 對了,中間還有一個飯局的問題,
: 五月是母親節,我家兄弟姐妹平常都住外地。
: 五月剛好又是我娘生日,每年我們都一定要同時回家幫老娘慶生,
: 不過今年因為我遇到公公的狀況,
: 我算是"喪家"一個月不准回娘家,
: 飯局就自然沒了。
: 原po的問題我覺得很多人都說很清楚了,你只要說服老婆,
: 其他的雜音其實都會在兩人有共識後閉嘴,
: 老婆的擔心幫她去解決而不是爭辯。
: 我的例子算是都有講到你的問題了,
: 不過,你跟老婆就沒共識,
: 在這邊吵也很難吵出答案啊 囧
您好 首先先謝謝您的經驗提供
我之前發文的目的 已經在文中再三的強調了
就是要找跟我有一樣狀況的版友們 請教你們當初是如何溝通的
結果之前的推文中 好多版友都說我就是只看跟我意見相同的文章感謝分享
是啊 我就是在找跟我ㄧ樣的朋友 想從他們那裡請教他們溝通的技巧
而不是在跟你們爭觀念的對錯
所以當然是找跟我ㄧ樣觀念的版友的文章去看呀!
我不是在討論觀念的對錯 是在尋求同觀念的溝通方式或技巧
這樣講是不是很清楚了呢?
回到本篇文章 您的情況是您與先生都同樣觀念
所以沒有什麼需要溝通的地方
我的狀況是我太太目前想法跟我不同
我家裡認為寶寶該出席 我個人認為寶寶可以出席 但不一定要全程參與
我太太認為寶寶根本就不必出席
所以我想請教有跟我們狀況一樣的經驗的版友
當初是如何溝通的
就是如此簡單而已
結果版上一堆版友的回文都在講寶寶不該出席
很少有人真的看清問題是什麼
所以我都不去回應 只要沒有涉及人身攻擊 大家都有自己的言論自由
還是謝謝您寶貴的經驗分享!
感恩!
--
: 嗯 我今年5月才剛碰到。
: 我公公過世,我兒子當時才4個月。
: 公公過世後不論法會或出殯當天,我兒子都有到場。
: 一來他算是孫子,
: 二來覺得當他出生的時候,長輩很開心的送他紅包迎接他到這世界,
: 當長輩要離開,為什麼不能讓小孩送他一程呢?
: 於是我們就在寶寶的身上放了個紅包和艾草,(離開殯儀館後把草丟掉)
: 除了迎靈和送到火葬場寶寶沒有參加,從頭到尾他都在場。
: 中間我還帶著寶寶去殯儀館附設的餵乳室餵奶(這真是非常奇妙的經驗!)
: 在這之前不論有人跟我或老公說什麼怕吵怕煞怕......,
: 都在我和老公的共識下,完全沒有其他的雜音和異議。
: 對了,中間還有一個飯局的問題,
: 五月是母親節,我家兄弟姐妹平常都住外地。
: 五月剛好又是我娘生日,每年我們都一定要同時回家幫老娘慶生,
: 不過今年因為我遇到公公的狀況,
: 我算是"喪家"一個月不准回娘家,
: 飯局就自然沒了。
: 原po的問題我覺得很多人都說很清楚了,你只要說服老婆,
: 其他的雜音其實都會在兩人有共識後閉嘴,
: 老婆的擔心幫她去解決而不是爭辯。
: 我的例子算是都有講到你的問題了,
: 不過,你跟老婆就沒共識,
: 在這邊吵也很難吵出答案啊 囧
您好 首先先謝謝您的經驗提供
我之前發文的目的 已經在文中再三的強調了
就是要找跟我有一樣狀況的版友們 請教你們當初是如何溝通的
結果之前的推文中 好多版友都說我就是只看跟我意見相同的文章感謝分享
是啊 我就是在找跟我ㄧ樣的朋友 想從他們那裡請教他們溝通的技巧
而不是在跟你們爭觀念的對錯
所以當然是找跟我ㄧ樣觀念的版友的文章去看呀!
我不是在討論觀念的對錯 是在尋求同觀念的溝通方式或技巧
這樣講是不是很清楚了呢?
回到本篇文章 您的情況是您與先生都同樣觀念
所以沒有什麼需要溝通的地方
我的狀況是我太太目前想法跟我不同
我家裡認為寶寶該出席 我個人認為寶寶可以出席 但不一定要全程參與
我太太認為寶寶根本就不必出席
所以我想請教有跟我們狀況一樣的經驗的版友
當初是如何溝通的
就是如此簡單而已
結果版上一堆版友的回文都在講寶寶不該出席
很少有人真的看清問題是什麼
所以我都不去回應 只要沒有涉及人身攻擊 大家都有自己的言論自由
還是謝謝您寶貴的經驗分享!
感恩!
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