僵持不下的難題--過年去誰家 - 婚姻
By Puput
at 2011-12-16T13:21
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交往了十年,結婚約半年,目前為了過年的問題夫妻倆人僵持不下
因為我家的是女生(兩個姐姐,我),目前三個人都已經結婚
之前還沒結婚時,過年除夕吃年夜飯時就只有爸媽和我三個人
過年前的一些工作,貼春聯,煮菜拜拜....等等,都會陪著一起幫忙
爸媽是屬於比較內斂的人,吃完年夜飯後再看看電視節目,除夕夜
就這樣過完了
所以計畫要結婚時,我心中最擔心的就是以後過年可能就只剩兩老一起過了
交往時針對這個問題和男友討論過,當時他同意除夕輪流去對方家吃年夜飯
也說婚後會告知他爸媽
現在他說要去他爸媽同不同意,意思是說如果不同意就不行
我有點氣不過,我覺得我也有自己的人身自由
所以跟他說"你詢問你爸媽可不可以是針對你自己的部份,輪到回
我家那一年我還是會回去"
中間討論過程也講了一些不重聽的話
1.他說我什麼都要求平等很強勢(也許是因為我覺得我的要求是合理的,所
以講話的語氣及用詞)比較強硬
2.他問我有其他人也是這樣子要求的嗎?我就跟他說某某同事也是。
結果他又說我不想過和別人一樣的生活,我想要過傳統的生活。
我跟他說我也不想過你所謂的傳統女生的生活。
3. 他說如果他娶的是傳統的女生就不會有這樣的問題。但是現實是你已經
和我結婚,我就不是你所謂的傳統女生。我今天是和你結婚而不是賣給你。
4.今天不是我過年不去你家,而是協調隔年除夕先回我家過年,初二或初三
再去你家。(現在三姐妹已經協調好一年輪流一次)
5. 他問我說我爸媽同意我這樣做嗎?我說"我爸媽如果不同意是因為擔心
我們會在夫家難做人,而不是不希望我們除夕陪他們吃飯過年。
還有其他太多的討論了,就不列出了
現在因為這個話題搞得,夫妻倆氣氛很不好
請有相關經驗的人妻們可以提供解決之道嗎? 也想請問大家我的態度及用
詞需不需要改進,感覺他是吃軟不吃硬的人。
謝謝大家
--
因為我家的是女生(兩個姐姐,我),目前三個人都已經結婚
之前還沒結婚時,過年除夕吃年夜飯時就只有爸媽和我三個人
過年前的一些工作,貼春聯,煮菜拜拜....等等,都會陪著一起幫忙
爸媽是屬於比較內斂的人,吃完年夜飯後再看看電視節目,除夕夜
就這樣過完了
所以計畫要結婚時,我心中最擔心的就是以後過年可能就只剩兩老一起過了
交往時針對這個問題和男友討論過,當時他同意除夕輪流去對方家吃年夜飯
也說婚後會告知他爸媽
現在他說要去他爸媽同不同意,意思是說如果不同意就不行
我有點氣不過,我覺得我也有自己的人身自由
所以跟他說"你詢問你爸媽可不可以是針對你自己的部份,輪到回
我家那一年我還是會回去"
中間討論過程也講了一些不重聽的話
1.他說我什麼都要求平等很強勢(也許是因為我覺得我的要求是合理的,所
以講話的語氣及用詞)比較強硬
2.他問我有其他人也是這樣子要求的嗎?我就跟他說某某同事也是。
結果他又說我不想過和別人一樣的生活,我想要過傳統的生活。
我跟他說我也不想過你所謂的傳統女生的生活。
3. 他說如果他娶的是傳統的女生就不會有這樣的問題。但是現實是你已經
和我結婚,我就不是你所謂的傳統女生。我今天是和你結婚而不是賣給你。
4.今天不是我過年不去你家,而是協調隔年除夕先回我家過年,初二或初三
再去你家。(現在三姐妹已經協調好一年輪流一次)
5. 他問我說我爸媽同意我這樣做嗎?我說"我爸媽如果不同意是因為擔心
我們會在夫家難做人,而不是不希望我們除夕陪他們吃飯過年。
還有其他太多的討論了,就不列出了
現在因為這個話題搞得,夫妻倆氣氛很不好
請有相關經驗的人妻們可以提供解決之道嗎? 也想請問大家我的態度及用
詞需不需要改進,感覺他是吃軟不吃硬的人。
謝謝大家
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