不辦婚禮 如何顧全長輩禮數? - 婚姻
By Linda
at 2013-01-17T08:39
at 2013-01-17T08:39
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我很古板,覺得要辦婚禮。
年輕人的確都很有主張跟想法,
喜歡隨性、自由、簡單
不喜歡拘束、限制、麻煩
婚禮也不過就是讓長輩出出風頭,卻硬要我們跟一些不熟的人打躬作揖。
傳統的禮俗讓人頭皮發麻,虛情假意的恭賀還要在背後抱怨菜色不好。
其實不辦婚禮對於有些人來說真的沒什麼關係。
當初辦婚禮前我也覺得好麻煩,總希望能省就省(麻煩)。
但是當我默默的在旁邊看著媽媽開心的跟眾人討論著要邀請誰,
臉上幸福的笑容、開心的神情,加上一整晚大家都熱熱鬧鬧的,
突然讓我覺得婚禮是辦對了。
從小到大我從沒做過甚麼事能夠讓老媽覺得驕傲又開心的,
婚禮這件事大概是當時我長這麼大唯一能讓她老人家感覺驕傲又幸福的。
不只我們家,我老婆家也是一樣,岳父岳母開始討論要穿甚麼,
岳母覺得沒好看的禮服,我太太帶著岳母去婚紗店挑她喜歡的衣服,
(雖然最後沒挑到她喜歡的)
岳父總是一附不關我的事的態度,嘴巴上總說:青菜啦!!
但是我某天卻看到乾洗店送來的西裝...
老婆說連她都沒看過這件西裝,不知道從哪裡挖出來的!!
我們不喜歡婚禮,但是我們都愛自己的家人,
如果婚禮能讓大家覺得好開心、好幸福
那我所承受的一切拘束、限制、麻煩,其實根本不算甚麼。
也不過籌備期的幾個月加上婚禮當天一整天,我接受,而且開心接受!!
現在我有了兩個欠揍的小孩,
他們跌倒會趕快邊哭邊跑過來要你抱抱,
他們被巷子裡的鞭炮嚇一大跳,就趕快跑到你身後躲起來,
他們從幼稚園下課會跟你抱怨那個誰誰誰都不他玩,
下了班,剛從邪惡的老闆手中脫逃,卻又馬上要陪他玩玩具、念ㄅㄆㄇ,
你好累、好煩,卻仍然歡喜開心的陪著他們。
我知道他們有一天會長大,
會有那麼一天同學的邀約比你安排的花東三日遊更有吸引力。
會有那麼一天你準備滿桌子的菜卻擺到涼掉,只剩你跟老婆兩個人吃,因為女朋友找他。
會有那麼一天他和另一半登記結了婚,而我和老婆只能在家中給予深深的祝福。
但是我向上帝禱告
當那一天來到,求主讓我勝過心中的寂寞與難過,
讓孩子能夠有一個跟我現在所擁有的幸福家庭一樣的小家庭。
--
年輕人的確都很有主張跟想法,
喜歡隨性、自由、簡單
不喜歡拘束、限制、麻煩
婚禮也不過就是讓長輩出出風頭,卻硬要我們跟一些不熟的人打躬作揖。
傳統的禮俗讓人頭皮發麻,虛情假意的恭賀還要在背後抱怨菜色不好。
其實不辦婚禮對於有些人來說真的沒什麼關係。
當初辦婚禮前我也覺得好麻煩,總希望能省就省(麻煩)。
但是當我默默的在旁邊看著媽媽開心的跟眾人討論著要邀請誰,
臉上幸福的笑容、開心的神情,加上一整晚大家都熱熱鬧鬧的,
突然讓我覺得婚禮是辦對了。
從小到大我從沒做過甚麼事能夠讓老媽覺得驕傲又開心的,
婚禮這件事大概是當時我長這麼大唯一能讓她老人家感覺驕傲又幸福的。
不只我們家,我老婆家也是一樣,岳父岳母開始討論要穿甚麼,
岳母覺得沒好看的禮服,我太太帶著岳母去婚紗店挑她喜歡的衣服,
(雖然最後沒挑到她喜歡的)
岳父總是一附不關我的事的態度,嘴巴上總說:青菜啦!!
但是我某天卻看到乾洗店送來的西裝...
老婆說連她都沒看過這件西裝,不知道從哪裡挖出來的!!
我們不喜歡婚禮,但是我們都愛自己的家人,
如果婚禮能讓大家覺得好開心、好幸福
那我所承受的一切拘束、限制、麻煩,其實根本不算甚麼。
也不過籌備期的幾個月加上婚禮當天一整天,我接受,而且開心接受!!
現在我有了兩個欠揍的小孩,
他們跌倒會趕快邊哭邊跑過來要你抱抱,
他們被巷子裡的鞭炮嚇一大跳,就趕快跑到你身後躲起來,
他們從幼稚園下課會跟你抱怨那個誰誰誰都不他玩,
下了班,剛從邪惡的老闆手中脫逃,卻又馬上要陪他玩玩具、念ㄅㄆㄇ,
你好累、好煩,卻仍然歡喜開心的陪著他們。
我知道他們有一天會長大,
會有那麼一天同學的邀約比你安排的花東三日遊更有吸引力。
會有那麼一天你準備滿桌子的菜卻擺到涼掉,只剩你跟老婆兩個人吃,因為女朋友找他。
會有那麼一天他和另一半登記結了婚,而我和老婆只能在家中給予深深的祝福。
但是我向上帝禱告
當那一天來到,求主讓我勝過心中的寂寞與難過,
讓孩子能夠有一個跟我現在所擁有的幸福家庭一樣的小家庭。
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