一個情場菜鳥看成年人婚姻的想法 - 婚姻
By Kumar
at 2011-09-24T23:11
at 2011-09-24T23:11
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和我很好的同事,在我眼中的他是標準的科技新貴三高男,學歷高、薪水高、身
高高,帥氣的外型,有車有房,有一個好老婆,幸福的婚姻。他也沒啥壞習慣,不煙不
酒,講話斯文得體有禮貌,工作認真待人和氣,事業有成。我一直認為他是顧家單純
的上班族。
直到上週在公司停車場碰到他,身旁帶個不是他老婆的年輕正妹,我直覺那
個女的就是ㄆ開頭的朋友,有點尷尬的和他笑笑,倒是他很鎮定的和我打完招呼,帶著身
旁正妹上車。
隔天上班,我當然很識相的沒問他什麼,反正我本來就不是愛八卦的人,倒是他
很主動的和我說他上禮拜那個妹身材有多好,床上功夫有多厲害。我才知道看起來老實的
他,常常中午消失不見人影,都是去打砲。然後他又說一夫一妻制根本不適合這個社會,
而且他本身"性"和"愛"是可以分得很開的,我微笑不置可否,在一旁的另一個同事附和的
說:對對對,女人就是不知道男人就是靠小抵敵思考,所以才會活得那麼痛苦......我雖
然不能認同他們的論點,但也沒吐曹他們,贏了又如何,會打砲的還是繼續打砲,愛偷吃
的還是繼續偷吃,反正也沒犯到我。
只不過關於幾個論點:
1.一夫一妻制不適合這個社會:
完全同意。綜觀這個自然界,就只有人類有一夫一妻制的觀念。
而自然界其他生物,更遑論有一夫一妻的制度了。但是,同意這項論點,不
代表我同意一夫多妻或多夫多妻。正確答案是什麼,我也不知道。當然我覺
得我同事只是拿這項前提,來合理化自己的偷吃行為,就如同"我家貧,所以
我可以偷竊","我頭腦不好,所以可以作弊"一樣的荒謬。
2."性"和"愛"是可以分得很開:
不太同意。人說性愛性愛,也許是先有性後有愛,甚至我覺得愛是性的子集
合,你對對方有性衝動,多少還是包含了一些愛的成份,何況就我同事的例子又
不是一夜情。我覺得他說的應該是"性愛"和"家庭"是可以分得很開的。今天
他之所以選擇他老婆,不是因為他最愛她,而是因為她最適合當人生的伴侶、最
適合相夫教子,最有辦法睜一隻眼閉一隻眼。我想他老婆應該是多少知道的,但
是為了維護這個家,只能"睜一隻眼閉一隻眼"。何況,一個單身男性和一個單身
女性在社會生存,女性應該是較為辛苦的。因此,為了自己有依靠的對象,女性
只能選擇忍耐,反正偷吃完記得擦嘴,出去玩記得回家就好。
3.男人就是靠小抵敵思考,女人你還不懂嗎?
完全不同意。今天若是他老婆一副若無其事的說"老娘我
就是正值狼虎之年,需索無度,找幾個男人睡有錯嗎?"要是我同事還有這個雅
量說沒關係,我就認同他說的,就怕他覺得顏面無光、綠雲罩頂,大概連班都
不敢來上了~
但是,這裡又牽扯到男性女性的性自主,與社會認同價值觀的差異。今天
我同事找年輕正妹打砲,回來之後還可以大肆炫耀,甚至同事之間還會稱讚他
條件好、多情、種馬、千人斬.....但是,同樣的事情換成女性,可能就變成
"淫娃"、"人盡可夫"、"公共廁所"....
同樣一件事,只因為性別的不同卻有著兩種極端不同的評價。難道真的
如莎士比亞說的:"女人,你的名字是弱者"?
總之,我還太嫩了,所以碰到這種事,才會大驚小怪,因為這些事根本就
是常態,我一方面慶幸自己身為男性,擁有較多的自主權,一方面也想若是自
己身為女性,碰到愛偷吃得老公我會選擇忍耐,還是選擇獨立?
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