【心情】媳婦的本分 - 婚姻

By Audriana
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我現在剛訂完婚完三個月,先跟夫家住
(其實已有懷孕七個月)我目前仍繼續工作,先生工作不穩定,公婆沒工作都在家吃老本。
夫家生活習慣與我的原生家庭幾乎完全不同,每天生活按錶操課,幾點起床幾點吃飯幾點洗澡,讓平日自由慣的我壓力很大。家中公公極度強勢,他說的話等於聖旨,任何人都沒有反駁的餘地,我先生也從小被壓迫慣了,對他的話唯命是從。在他們家的觀念是男生不用做家事,連剛開始幫忙我洗碗就被唸。
且婆婆有近乎潔癖的家事標準,每天掃地拖地掃廁所,拖地要拖兩次,晾衣服要掛同一邊……等等,非常的龜毛。家裡有三層樓,一開始我進去先說我負責好三樓整潔,假日就換我做洗衣煮飯洗碗等家事,完全也不顧我有孕在身的要我做,平日上班通車我也很累了,假日仍然無法休息 ,且一但做不好就被念一頓,常常擔心自己哪裡做不好會被罵,搞的神經緊繃。我後來說服自己當做運動好了,認份的做了一陣子。
最近因為想在小孩出生前登記結婚,所以與公婆討論何時要辦,但公公問我有做好要當媳婦的準備嗎?(因為我曾經受不了反抗了一下)當下我回答有。豈知過幾天他便叫我去唸了一頓,說看了我幾天的作為就根本不知道媳婦的本分要做什麼!媳婦就是該將婆婆現在做的事全部攔來做,從早到晚婆婆做什麼妳就要做什麼,我整個火就上來,問他難道我不用上班?而且我現在懷孕體力就不好,我怎麼做?他說不管,要我自己想辦法,不要拿小孩來壓他,他不信這樣會有事,出事可以怪他。再問我到底做不做?我一氣之下就說“我沒辦法”。隔天跑回娘家哭訴,這樣的舉動在他
們家就是天大的忤逆。連我老公居然也說這本來就是媳婦該做的事,如果我因為身體不舒服或是上班不方便,再去拜託婆婆幫妳做,完完全全就是古老的思想,一直要我改變要我聽話,不想要搬出來,要我在他家學好他家的生活模式,要認同認份。
我整個非常心寒,想過最壞的打算,但又捨不得小孩沒有完整的家……繼續忍耐下去,在壓迫的環境下生活,做到死他們也不會滿意,我真的很煩!!請求大家的意見,是要為了小孩與這個婚姻留下來呢?還是要有個快樂的生活離開呢?……
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我現在剛訂完婚完三個月,先跟夫家住
(其實已有懷孕七個月)我目前仍繼續工作,先生工作不穩定,公婆沒工作都在家吃老本。
夫家生活習慣與我的原生家庭幾乎完全不同,每天生活按錶操課,幾點起床幾點吃飯幾點洗澡,讓平日自由慣的我壓力很大。家中公公極度強勢,他說的話等於聖旨,任何人都沒有反駁的餘地,我先生也從小被壓迫慣了,對他的話唯命是從。在他們家的觀念是男生不用做家事,連剛開始幫忙我洗碗就被唸。
且婆婆有近乎潔癖的家事標準,每天掃地拖地掃廁所,拖地要拖兩次,晾衣服要掛同一邊……等等,非常的龜毛。家裡有三層樓,一開始我進去先說我負責好三樓整潔,假日就換我做洗衣煮飯洗碗等家事,完全也不顧我有孕在身的要我做,平日上班通車我也很累了,假日仍然無法休息 ,且一但做不好就被念一頓,常常擔心自己哪裡做不好會被罵,搞的神經緊繃。我後來說服自己當做運動好了,認份的做了一陣子。
最近因為想在小孩出生前登記結婚,所以與公婆討論何時要辦,但公公問我有做好要當媳婦的準備嗎?(因為我曾經受不了反抗了一下)當下我回答有。豈知過幾天他便叫我去唸了一頓,說看了我幾天的作為就根本不知道媳婦的本分要做什麼!媳婦就是該將婆婆現在做的事全部攔來做,從早到晚婆婆做什麼妳就要做什麼,我整個火就上來,問他難道我不用上班?而且我現在懷孕體力就不好,我怎麼做?他說不管,要我自己想辦法,不要拿小孩來壓他,他不信這樣會有事,出事可以怪他。再問我到底做不做?我一氣之下就說“我沒辦法”。隔天跑回娘家哭訴,這樣的舉動在他
們家就是天大的忤逆。連我老公居然也說這本來就是媳婦該做的事,如果我因為身體不舒服或是上班不方便,再去拜託婆婆幫妳做,完完全全就是古老的思想,一直要我改變要我聽話,不想要搬出來,要我在他家學好他家的生活模式,要認同認份。
我整個非常心寒,想過最壞的打算,但又捨不得小孩沒有完整的家……繼續忍耐下去,在壓迫的環境下生活,做到死他們也不會滿意,我真的很煩!!請求大家的意見,是要為了小孩與這個婚姻留下來呢?還是要有個快樂的生活離開呢?……
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