關於小聘收法 - 結婚
By Hardy
at 2017-07-04T13:55
at 2017-07-04T13:55
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謝謝大家的回覆,因小妹準備要結婚
但因為小聘的過程跟家裡鬧的不是很開心
所以才來請教大家到底我們應該怎麼做!
(他們兩個新人目前沒有要互送金項鍊跟西裝衣服等古禮)
小妹一開始回來有跟家裡談大小聘
家父說不用收,媽媽當下也沒表示(男方尚未提親)
但後來再討論提親日期時
家母可能比較傳統
所以提出了結婚男方應該要出小聘12萬
而這12萬家母事後會給小妹
或者準備12萬的嫁妝給小妹
但小妹不同意這樣的做法
如果家母堅持要收小聘
小妹認為合理的做法是
男方出小聘12萬 我們家就要先出12萬嫁妝
然後嫁妝跟小聘都給小倆口
否則就會像是拿男方的錢去買嫁妝
這樣的作法不公平
而家母覺得
12萬的嫁妝給小妹
或者直接拿現金給小妹
這12萬聘金完全沒流回娘家,那裡不公平
(P.S小妹她的原則是一來一往;她可以接受家母收起來小聘12萬也沒關係,但那就要出加
起來差不多12萬的金飾西裝那些的給男方。可以用小聘當回禮。但就是不希望我們家是用
對方給的聘金當成小妹自己的錢或嫁妝)
因為兩個人在這件事上沒有共識
家母覺得自己想法並無不妥
但小妹覺得這樣不公平
因此家母覺得不夠被尊重
想請問
我們家收小聘然後提供嫁妝或錢回給小妹
(小妹覺得這樣是拿男方的聘金當嫁妝)
這樣的作法真的很不公平嗎
會讓小妹嫁過去被說話或是不平等嗎
小妹是不是不夠尊重原生家庭勒
--
但因為小聘的過程跟家裡鬧的不是很開心
所以才來請教大家到底我們應該怎麼做!
(他們兩個新人目前沒有要互送金項鍊跟西裝衣服等古禮)
小妹一開始回來有跟家裡談大小聘
家父說不用收,媽媽當下也沒表示(男方尚未提親)
但後來再討論提親日期時
家母可能比較傳統
所以提出了結婚男方應該要出小聘12萬
而這12萬家母事後會給小妹
或者準備12萬的嫁妝給小妹
但小妹不同意這樣的做法
如果家母堅持要收小聘
小妹認為合理的做法是
男方出小聘12萬 我們家就要先出12萬嫁妝
然後嫁妝跟小聘都給小倆口
否則就會像是拿男方的錢去買嫁妝
這樣的作法不公平
而家母覺得
12萬的嫁妝給小妹
或者直接拿現金給小妹
這12萬聘金完全沒流回娘家,那裡不公平
(P.S小妹她的原則是一來一往;她可以接受家母收起來小聘12萬也沒關係,但那就要出加
起來差不多12萬的金飾西裝那些的給男方。可以用小聘當回禮。但就是不希望我們家是用
對方給的聘金當成小妹自己的錢或嫁妝)
因為兩個人在這件事上沒有共識
家母覺得自己想法並無不妥
但小妹覺得這樣不公平
因此家母覺得不夠被尊重
想請問
我們家收小聘然後提供嫁妝或錢回給小妹
(小妹覺得這樣是拿男方的聘金當嫁妝)
這樣的作法真的很不公平嗎
會讓小妹嫁過去被說話或是不平等嗎
小妹是不是不夠尊重原生家庭勒
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