過來人:長久分開 感情遲早出問題 - 婚姻
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【世界日報╱記者郭明香堪薩斯市報導】
2011.08.22 07:38 pm
50多歲的王太太(化名)最近痛下決心,要親自飛一趟中國,找在當地發展多年的先生簽
字離婚。她說,兩人在異地生活、工作,早已形同陌路,她希望為自己換個生活跑道。
王太太說,中國大陸經濟起飛後,很多人和她一樣,婚姻遭到海歸潮衝擊,她不是專家,
只以過來人感受提出建議:既是夫妻,就不應該長久分開。
王太太經營一家中餐館,在社區華人眼中是個女強人,親切能幹,待人厚道,大家都喜歡
到她的餐廳辦活動。她的先生小王(化名)原來學電機工程,曾在美國公司上班,十幾年前
被公司裁員,一直找不到理想的工作,後來決定到中國去投資,生活重心也就擺在廣州和
上海,很少回來。由於老闆娘很少向人說起,大家也都尊重她,絕口不提此事。
她是在台灣長大,和小王在大學相識、相戀而結婚。小王後來來美國唸研究所,兩人相偕
來美打拚。小王畢業後找到工作,他們就在美國留下來,並頂下一家小中餐館,由她經營
。
十多年前小王失業了,當時美國已不太景氣,工作不是那麼好找,相形之下中國正蓬勃發
展,處處是機會,於是小王決定到中國求發展。
到了中國的小王,發展還算順利,多次跟太太說比較喜歡那邊的生活。但王太太一來因孩
子教育問題,加上餐館放不下手,於是兩人分開兩地。夫妻間慢慢從互有聯繫,成為聚少
離多,接著就各過各的日子。
王太太說,以前如果一陣子沒有聽到先生打電話來問候,就會心情低落,後來兩人因為太
久不在一起,共同話題變少了,生活、朋友圈也不一樣,慢慢有距離感,愈來愈有隔閡。
偶爾小王休假回來,兩人也已找不到共同的語言了,連對方的生活習慣都不能適應,一開
口,兩人就要吵架。
她說,這些年來,一路走來,所有的一切都是自己默默承擔,很少向他人提及,加上忙餐
館,忙兩個孩子,時間就這樣流走了。現在孩子長大了,加上餐館生意不如前,也有點累
了,讓她開始思考自己未來的生涯規畫。
她第一個想做了結的,就是重新審視和小王早已有名無實的婚姻。
她再三考慮之後,決定長痛不如短痛,所以主動向丈夫提出離婚,可是小王一直不願給她
回答。最近她決定親自去中國找他,當面攤牌,要求他簽字離婚。她唯一的要求,就是由
小王負責老二的大學費用。
王太太說,她不認為他們夫婦之間是因為有第三者介入的問題。她覺得夫妻本來就不應該
長久分開,否則感情遲早會出問題。
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心得:
既然是夫妻 最好相距不要太遠
除了平日可以一起討論事情 互相鼓勵外
更可以互相照顧對方的健康
尤其 人不可能永遠不生病 生病時 能立刻照顧到 是最好的!
--
2011.08.22 07:38 pm
50多歲的王太太(化名)最近痛下決心,要親自飛一趟中國,找在當地發展多年的先生簽
字離婚。她說,兩人在異地生活、工作,早已形同陌路,她希望為自己換個生活跑道。
王太太說,中國大陸經濟起飛後,很多人和她一樣,婚姻遭到海歸潮衝擊,她不是專家,
只以過來人感受提出建議:既是夫妻,就不應該長久分開。
王太太經營一家中餐館,在社區華人眼中是個女強人,親切能幹,待人厚道,大家都喜歡
到她的餐廳辦活動。她的先生小王(化名)原來學電機工程,曾在美國公司上班,十幾年前
被公司裁員,一直找不到理想的工作,後來決定到中國去投資,生活重心也就擺在廣州和
上海,很少回來。由於老闆娘很少向人說起,大家也都尊重她,絕口不提此事。
她是在台灣長大,和小王在大學相識、相戀而結婚。小王後來來美國唸研究所,兩人相偕
來美打拚。小王畢業後找到工作,他們就在美國留下來,並頂下一家小中餐館,由她經營
。
十多年前小王失業了,當時美國已不太景氣,工作不是那麼好找,相形之下中國正蓬勃發
展,處處是機會,於是小王決定到中國求發展。
到了中國的小王,發展還算順利,多次跟太太說比較喜歡那邊的生活。但王太太一來因孩
子教育問題,加上餐館放不下手,於是兩人分開兩地。夫妻間慢慢從互有聯繫,成為聚少
離多,接著就各過各的日子。
王太太說,以前如果一陣子沒有聽到先生打電話來問候,就會心情低落,後來兩人因為太
久不在一起,共同話題變少了,生活、朋友圈也不一樣,慢慢有距離感,愈來愈有隔閡。
偶爾小王休假回來,兩人也已找不到共同的語言了,連對方的生活習慣都不能適應,一開
口,兩人就要吵架。
她說,這些年來,一路走來,所有的一切都是自己默默承擔,很少向他人提及,加上忙餐
館,忙兩個孩子,時間就這樣流走了。現在孩子長大了,加上餐館生意不如前,也有點累
了,讓她開始思考自己未來的生涯規畫。
她第一個想做了結的,就是重新審視和小王早已有名無實的婚姻。
她再三考慮之後,決定長痛不如短痛,所以主動向丈夫提出離婚,可是小王一直不願給她
回答。最近她決定親自去中國找他,當面攤牌,要求他簽字離婚。她唯一的要求,就是由
小王負責老二的大學費用。
王太太說,她不認為他們夫婦之間是因為有第三者介入的問題。她覺得夫妻本來就不應該
長久分開,否則感情遲早會出問題。
【2011/08/22 世界日報】@ http://udn.com/
全文網址: 過來人:長久分開 感情遲早出問題 | 美國新聞 | 全球觀察 | 聯合新聞網
http://udn.com/NEWS/WORLD/WOR6/6541628.shtml#ixzz1VrGZBFmj
Power By udn.com
---
心得:
既然是夫妻 最好相距不要太遠
除了平日可以一起討論事情 互相鼓勵外
更可以互相照顧對方的健康
尤其 人不可能永遠不生病 生病時 能立刻照顧到 是最好的!
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