老婆非常地不愛乾淨 - 婚姻
By Brianna
at 2011-10-26T03:30
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撐著沈重的眼皮,冒著小鬼四點醒來的吵鬧危機,忍不住回文,
我家小鬼十個月大,我當了三個月的家庭主婦,
上星期才和老公大吵,
我覺得他都不幫忙做家事,他覺得我都偷懶把家事留給他做,
整天只要帶小孩...
真的,沒有當過全職媽媽的人,不知道當媽媽的辛苦,
(媽,您真偉大)
小孩從早動到晚,餵食哄睡都要花時間的,還要準備小朋友的東西,
還有更恐怖的是生理期的襲擊,
本人在生理期那一陣會超級累,每天都起不來,
可是小人人需要我,所以要拖著全身酸痛的身子,照顧小朋友,陪他玩,
等小朋友睡著了,我已經累到不想吃飯了,還做家事咧...
原po家的小孩比較大,不過也沒有大到可以放牛吃草,
那種會跑會跳會問一堆問題的,要花更多心力去照顧,
原po應該試著找放假的時間,角色互換一下,
做一遍照顧小孩,遛狗,整理家裡(還有甚麼要求?) 給老婆看,
教老婆怎麼達成原po的要求,
上班可以寫出時間,幾點出門幾點回家,可以和'正常人'說說話
全職媽媽是沒有下班時間的,隨時要備戰,每天只能和小朋友說話
還有一個因素,讓我不想做家事
就是做到一半會被小朋友打斷
衣服洗好了沒時間曬,碗洗了一半小朋友哭了,滿手泡泡很麻煩
清地毯更不可能,開吸塵器小朋友會嚇到
原po家還有狗...我的媽阿...要做的事更多,家裡不受控制的生物更多...
個人的心聲...(是想說給我老公聽的啦)
可不可以不要對要照顧小孩的人寄望太高?
只要小孩會碰碰跳跳,會吃會睡,這個照顧小孩的人就很了不起了
可不可以不要用"要求"的要另一半做事?
你哪裡看不下去,自己去弄好,
你的另一半,應該也是會有看不下去你的某種習慣,默默的幫你弄好...
還有,每個月會有一個星期懶懶不想動,不要再去煩她了
謝謝!
※ 引述《perfectmatch (perfect match)》之銘言:
: 朋友的問提,以下為第一人稱
: ------------------
: 我跟我老婆結婚8 9年了,大學一畢業因為她懷孕,我們就結婚了
: 現在有兩個小孩,一個上小學 一個明年上幼稚園
: 一開始住家裡,因為我們跟我爸媽摩擦越來越大
: 所以我們去年年底搬出去租屋住
: 搬出去後我們找了一間樓中樓的小房子住,雖是樓中樓但還有間臥房
: 一個小家庭擠在一起也還好,對了,我們還有一隻黃金獵犬
: 我們會搬出去也是因為我開始在做生意,收入變多了
: 但因為做生意,不像以前(我跟我老婆以前一起擺攤)可以常常陪她跟小孩
: 只要要上工,就是6點出門10點回家
: 我老婆嫁給我之後沒有出去工作過,只有以前跟我一起擺攤做生意
: 現在因為我收入變好,家裡又有一個小孩還沒上幼稚園所以她就是家庭主婦
: 以下是家裡的情況
: 杯子-----要用的時候才洗,永遠都是放在桌上/水槽裡
: 吃過的碗---放過夜,隔天要用碗再去洗
: 小孩的東西--東丟西丟,家裡會踩到小孩的小東西
: 餅乾屑---地毯上常常都是,有時候還會有用過的衛生紙
: 樓梯---永遠都是一層灰,擦過以後要等到我下一次再摸到一層灰她才會擦
: 地板---黏踢踢,又有一堆毛或者汙漬,她跟我說他天天都有擦,
: 但我問她上次擦甚麼時候,她回答我是前兩天
: 狗--以前我會帶狗上廁所,現在我工作回來都很晚,她可能一整天不會帶出去上
: 狗又會在家裡大小便,她居然跟我弟說
: 「因為哥哥現在都沒空帶狗去上廁所」
: 我弟跟他女友偶爾會來我家,我弟跟我說
: 他們進來後常常要很小心走路,不然就會踩到小東西
: 家裡也都有一個味道,就算我已經買了空氣清淨機
: 唉.................
: 有一次老婆生病住院,我送他去醫院後回來看到家裡跟垃圾場一樣
: 我花了4個小時把家裡打掃一番,刷馬桶、刷洗手槽、倒垃圾
: 等我老婆出院,我跟他說「我已經打掃好了,以後你把家裡維持成這樣就好」
: 一個禮拜後................
: 我家又亂七八糟了...............................
: 也許有人問我,為什麼我不幫忙做家事
: 我每天6 7點出門,10點才到家,有時候要跟客戶吃飯甚至要到11點
: 一回到家,打開門後看到凌亂的家..
: 我要他打掃一下家裡,真的太髒了
: 她會回我,「你念完沒,我都說知道了你就別再念了」
: 我根本沒辦法跟他溝通...
: 我的錢都是給她管,
: 因為我做生意有時候要買便當給工人、要停車要加油
: 所以我希望她記帳,她最多記了2個月然後就沒再記了
: 我連記帳軟體都找好兩個給她二選一,但她不動就是不動
: 我爸提醒我,是否她有拿錢回娘家,
: 其實拿回娘家也沒什麼阿,她爸媽對我也是很好,拿錢回去我不會說半句話
: 但我只希望她對這個家也有「付出」,而不是我每天回到家累得跟狗一樣
: 打開家門家裡依舊一團亂
: 最近常常為了家事吵架....兩人吵到無法溝通
: 連朋友都建議我先自己管錢
: 我只要想溝通,她就開始嫌我煩,
: 其實她平常對我也不錯,知道我累,會熬湯給我喝
: 可是除此之外........我真的不知道家的溫暖是什麼.....
: 我知道帶小孩很辛苦,但我想請問板上的家庭主婦
: 我要求每天花30分鐘整理家裡,是不是真的太苛求她?
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