老公愛在外喝酒怎麼辦? - 婚姻
By Tracy
at 2011-11-30T23:23
at 2011-11-30T23:23
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故事是這樣的
我和老公結婚近七年,目前沒小孩
昨天我生日,他帶了一票好弟兄開了一個多小時的車來給我慶生
找了我的上司,一群人(約六個)喝了三手瓶裝啤酒。
我上星期就跟他說過希望他不要來,而且我也不喜歡下班後和長官有其他的交際
席間他在眾人面前送我禮物,又是首飾又是對戒又是在鏡頭前接吻……
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你們一定想說這是閃光文!!
不,這不是。
就在我回宿舍之後,這群男人也說要開車回工作地,
因為要走山路,我打了電話都沒人接,一直到晚上十一點多,其中一位才接了電話
他說他們在走某a縣道,
早上起床後,我打電話給老公,他嘟噥著說「要睡覺」之類的話,
我(以為他要我睡覺):「我起床啦!」 他:「我是說別吵我睡覺,我要補眠。」(掛電話)
進辦公室後,同事a才說他看到另一名同事和長官(兩人都參加慶生趴)凌晨一點多才回宿舍
這時我才知道好弟兄之一昨天晚上說謊
男人們送我回宿舍後又續攤……
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我個人很不喜歡站上台當主角,但老公很愛在我生日時搞這招,
前年還用我的手機傳簡訊給他的兄弟檔說「我請客歡迎大家來」(喝了41瓶玻璃瓶金牌)
他平時工作認真,我們倆都分隔兩地,只有週五晚上到週日可以相處,
但是他週末又接了一大堆活動,一下子某兄弟媽媽七十大壽,一下子某兄弟兒子要去當兵
還有那種某兄弟老婆的娘家某人蓋好房子落成的,
當然這些場合都得喝酒,他也從來不拒絕,
難得放假,我想好好待在家和他相處都成了件極困難的事
但重點是他在人前表現得超愛我,超聽老婆的話(慶生送禮橋段為一例)
瘋狂讚美,講些:「我老婆做菜超好吃!」「我老婆多好多好blablabla……」
讓大家都覺得我們是天上一對地上的一雙,
於是我對他的不滿--他自以為那樣做可以讓我幸福--愈來愈深,
而且他營造出來的氛圍,顯得我的抱怨只是吹毛求疵,只是樣樣都不順眼的歐巴桑碎唸
但我真的真的不喜歡他和朋友喝酒聚會,渾身酒氣,
他喝醉時若我在旁邊,只能默默忍受,安撫他,照顧他載他回家,
這並不是我想過的生活,星期五晚上一喝酒,整個週六白天都在睡覺,週日也躺在沙發看
球賽,看完又睡覺,這就是我們的週末夫妻生活,
我跟他反應過好幾次,沒用,喝酒愈喝愈厲害,
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他一個星期喝二至三天,用週末的時間復原,
我對他有些忍無可忍,但用盡所有的方法都沒用,今天白天甚至連正眼都沒看過長官一眼
同事文康活動時,忍不住酸了長官一句:「昨天又去續攤了厚?你醜一了哦!」
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他開始喝酒後狂胖,胖了十五公斤以上,
回婆家時,他的發胖、掉頭髮、不繼續進修全變成我的責任,
婆婆跟我說:「xx(我老公)跟你在一起後就不讀書了,還會喝酒,又變那麼胖!」
我表面笑笑,但內心os:「要讀書自己不會去讀哦!喝酒又不是我叫他喝的,你自己的老公
也很胖,那也是你沒照顧好嗎?」
我是俗辣,只敢在內心os。
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有時會靜下心來想,能和他走一輩子嗎?
我們聊天的時間比和同事、好弟兄相處的時間短,
他若有空閒,也會跟我說:「今天某某人找我,我們一起去好不好?」
我只是想找他用兩小時一起騎個腳踏車、散個步卻難上加難,
他承受家裡、工作的壓力也不小,家裡的人催我們生孩子(生不出來),
姑姑阿姨那些三姑六婆會要他換個對象,他不敢跟我說,
酒後流著眼淚告訴我「我們就算只有兩個人也要走一輩子」
超感人對不對?
我用手擦掉他的眼淚:「好。」
十分鐘後,他又去和朋友喝酒唱歌了!
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前述那些週末的復原過程,如此週而復始在我們的生活上演,
所以我們也沒機會當「製作人」,兩個星期有一次就要偷笑了,
生什麼孩子啊~當我是聖母瑪利亞嗎?
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我今天寫了封郵件跟他說明我的情緒,
就在生日的隔天,我覺得自己很難相信能和這個人有個「幸福」的未來…
卑微一點,「平安」的未來
某些酒後發作的可怕事情我就不談了,
我該怎麼跟他繼續相處呢?
他所謂的「愛的表現」並不是我想要的......
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