穿著黑或白色參加婚宴 - 結婚
By Blanche
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看了推文我很意外有這麼多人覺得穿黑白色參加喜宴無所謂,
可能我觀念比較古板吧?我也覺得穿黑白色喝喜酒不禮貌。
我只是好奇,當所有賓客都覺得無所謂,反正穿黑最時髦最顯瘦最漂亮時,
婚宴的場子看起來還像婚宴嗎?恐怕是像告別式多一點吧?
我在意的點其實很簡單,就是禮貌和同理心。
今天既有人對此表示困擾或者不舒服,就意味著顏色仍然有意義。
喜宴是什麼樣的場子,難道自己會不知道嗎?
難道真的不知道約定俗成的觀念是要穿較為鮮豔的暖色系衣服嗎?
(不要跟我說什麼誰跟你約定俗成,既如此為什麼婚禮物品都要紅色,
白色不是比較典雅大方嗎?藍色不是比較時尚優雅嗎?
為什麼喜帖做白色會被罵?因為顏色有其約定俗成的意義!)
我很同意原PO說的,喜宴是新人的場子,不是賓客的秀場!
婚宴就是一場盛大的派對,不會因為喜帖沒載明就沒有dress code,
只是大家都認為「這種事大家都知道不需要另外說明」罷了。
有人說穿黑不代表故意要觸人霉頭,我相信有人不是故意的,
但故意要鬧場的人會怎麼做?就是穿黑跟包單數紅包啊!
既然有一番美意為什麼要讓人有誤會的機會呢?
如果真的無法接受這套潛規則,那可以選擇禮到人不到,
既然都要出席了,為什麼不把衣服穿對呢?
我也知道很多人衣櫥打開是一片黑,我也是。
我也知道黑色小禮服或洋裝就是漂亮大方,我也喜歡。
我也知道黑色顯瘦可以修飾身材,我也愛。
但是漂亮的黑色衣服哪天都可以穿,為什麼一定要到喜宴上秀?
如果真的這麼開明這麼不介意,大可以自己結婚穿黑色禮服,
我相信沒有人會說妳什麼。
但是冒著會讓新人不悅的危險,穿著顏色不對的華服出席,
我覺得是有那麼一點慷他人之慨的意味。
(我真的看過新娘在婚宴上穿黑色禮服,沒人會說什麼,
新人自己花錢搞的場子,又有誰會說什麼?
這種情況下我真覺得穿黑是無妨,畢竟新人和長輩都不介意了。)
如果真的完全沒有黑白色以外的衣服,請告知新人一聲;
如果沒有把握不會令新人不悅,打個招呼,或者別那樣穿。
我相信每對新人都很高興朋友出席婚宴共享喜悅,
一個小小的動作就可以避免自己的好意蒙塵,
為什麼不做?
穿著不對的衣服可能沒人會當面說妳,新人不會抱怨妳,
但是其他賓客很有可能會心裡覺得妳不知禮,
新人的父母很有可能會覺得妳沒眼色不識趣,
新人的長輩對妳來說是三姑六婆,但那是新人的長輩,
要是因此有什麼摩擦,妳賠得起嗎?
在新人的場子上自己是不是豔麗奪目根本不是重點,
若真的不方便穿黑白色以外的衣服也務必先取得理解,
出席喜宴,新人會很感謝;
如果出席喜宴而沒留下後遺症,更是兩全其美。
※ 引述《isseyK (一生)》之銘言:
: 已經完成婚禮了,婚後也參加不少場的喜宴,
: 看來還是有不少人穿著黑或白色洋裝或小禮服吃喜酒。
: 對我而言,穿著黑色或白色參加喜宴是不禮貌的。
: 現在大家大多不忌諱了,我自己當新娘時是還好,
: 但因為知道我媽的忌諱,還是有提醒自己的朋友避開黑色。
: 但是還是有我的賓客穿著全黑的洋裝到場,
: 雖然亮眼的飾品、淺色的披肩都有,
: 婆家的三姑六婆還是講話了,也有點影響到我的心情。
: 我後來想想這其實是件小事,但是新娘是敏感的,
: 即使新人自己不在意,但是有別人在意讓新娘知道了,
: 多少心情還是會受到些影響。
: 所以後來去吃喜酒,都避開黑白兩色,即使新人說了不在意。
: 作為朋友,我希望新娘整天都是開開心心的,
: 婚禮…不是賓客的秀場!
: 抱著同理心去體貼新娘,我覺得是比較好的作法吧。
--
可能我觀念比較古板吧?我也覺得穿黑白色喝喜酒不禮貌。
我只是好奇,當所有賓客都覺得無所謂,反正穿黑最時髦最顯瘦最漂亮時,
婚宴的場子看起來還像婚宴嗎?恐怕是像告別式多一點吧?
我在意的點其實很簡單,就是禮貌和同理心。
今天既有人對此表示困擾或者不舒服,就意味著顏色仍然有意義。
喜宴是什麼樣的場子,難道自己會不知道嗎?
難道真的不知道約定俗成的觀念是要穿較為鮮豔的暖色系衣服嗎?
(不要跟我說什麼誰跟你約定俗成,既如此為什麼婚禮物品都要紅色,
白色不是比較典雅大方嗎?藍色不是比較時尚優雅嗎?
為什麼喜帖做白色會被罵?因為顏色有其約定俗成的意義!)
我很同意原PO說的,喜宴是新人的場子,不是賓客的秀場!
婚宴就是一場盛大的派對,不會因為喜帖沒載明就沒有dress code,
只是大家都認為「這種事大家都知道不需要另外說明」罷了。
有人說穿黑不代表故意要觸人霉頭,我相信有人不是故意的,
但故意要鬧場的人會怎麼做?就是穿黑跟包單數紅包啊!
既然有一番美意為什麼要讓人有誤會的機會呢?
如果真的無法接受這套潛規則,那可以選擇禮到人不到,
既然都要出席了,為什麼不把衣服穿對呢?
我也知道很多人衣櫥打開是一片黑,我也是。
我也知道黑色小禮服或洋裝就是漂亮大方,我也喜歡。
我也知道黑色顯瘦可以修飾身材,我也愛。
但是漂亮的黑色衣服哪天都可以穿,為什麼一定要到喜宴上秀?
如果真的這麼開明這麼不介意,大可以自己結婚穿黑色禮服,
我相信沒有人會說妳什麼。
但是冒著會讓新人不悅的危險,穿著顏色不對的華服出席,
我覺得是有那麼一點慷他人之慨的意味。
(我真的看過新娘在婚宴上穿黑色禮服,沒人會說什麼,
新人自己花錢搞的場子,又有誰會說什麼?
這種情況下我真覺得穿黑是無妨,畢竟新人和長輩都不介意了。)
如果真的完全沒有黑白色以外的衣服,請告知新人一聲;
如果沒有把握不會令新人不悅,打個招呼,或者別那樣穿。
我相信每對新人都很高興朋友出席婚宴共享喜悅,
一個小小的動作就可以避免自己的好意蒙塵,
為什麼不做?
穿著不對的衣服可能沒人會當面說妳,新人不會抱怨妳,
但是其他賓客很有可能會心裡覺得妳不知禮,
新人的父母很有可能會覺得妳沒眼色不識趣,
新人的長輩對妳來說是三姑六婆,但那是新人的長輩,
要是因此有什麼摩擦,妳賠得起嗎?
在新人的場子上自己是不是豔麗奪目根本不是重點,
若真的不方便穿黑白色以外的衣服也務必先取得理解,
出席喜宴,新人會很感謝;
如果出席喜宴而沒留下後遺症,更是兩全其美。
※ 引述《isseyK (一生)》之銘言:
: 已經完成婚禮了,婚後也參加不少場的喜宴,
: 看來還是有不少人穿著黑或白色洋裝或小禮服吃喜酒。
: 對我而言,穿著黑色或白色參加喜宴是不禮貌的。
: 現在大家大多不忌諱了,我自己當新娘時是還好,
: 但因為知道我媽的忌諱,還是有提醒自己的朋友避開黑色。
: 但是還是有我的賓客穿著全黑的洋裝到場,
: 雖然亮眼的飾品、淺色的披肩都有,
: 婆家的三姑六婆還是講話了,也有點影響到我的心情。
: 我後來想想這其實是件小事,但是新娘是敏感的,
: 即使新人自己不在意,但是有別人在意讓新娘知道了,
: 多少心情還是會受到些影響。
: 所以後來去吃喜酒,都避開黑白兩色,即使新人說了不在意。
: 作為朋友,我希望新娘整天都是開開心心的,
: 婚禮…不是賓客的秀場!
: 抱著同理心去體貼新娘,我覺得是比較好的作法吧。
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