生活好累... - 婚姻

By Lauren
at 2017-09-28T22:19
at 2017-09-28T22:19
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我有三個孩子,
跟老公養了一狗二貓六烏龜,
我必須說照顧寵物要達到不影響生活品質的程度是需要時間、空間、金錢,
我老公退休了,
我們生活算富裕,
家裡正好也不小,
說實在的照顧起來不算輕鬆,
你是全職媽媽&職業媽媽,
你提到沒有後援又說幸好住娘家省一筆房租,
聽起來時間、空間、金錢皆無,
生活品質絕對低的可憐,
撇開你的小孩正值豬狗嫌的年紀不說,
狗要帶出去散步,
7隻貓大概要有六、七個貓砂盆,
更不用說貓毛滿天飛的窘境,
你是職業婦女哪來時時刻刻打理貓咪?
我的兩隻貓三個貓砂盆只要一拉屎一撒尿我就覺得臭的不得了,
而且這還是有空氣濾淨器伺候的,
你7隻貓生活品質如何你有問過旁人嗎?
更甚你的婚姻走到這樣的地步跟這些絕對有很大的關係,
我也是養寵物的人,
也是堅守既然養了就是一輩子的事,
但是你的狀況我真的建議你,
好好幫寵物找些好人家,
與其在你身邊無法得到足夠的照顧,
不如讓別人有機會好好愛護這些動物,
然後好好的檢視自己,
把過去因為動物圍繞在身邊而忽略身邊的人事物的心態好好的修復,
人生要量力而為,
別做不自量力的事。
※ 引述《claira (claira)》之銘言:
: 分居到現在已經兩個月了
: 我是全職媽媽兼職業媽媽
: 小孩出生到現在都是我一個人在帶
: 無後援以及任何可以幫忙顧孩子的親友
: (回頭看看發現自己有多失敗)
: 老公去追求他想要的生活了
: 婚姻被跳票我接受
: 我也很努力在撐著生活
: 目前住在娘家沒有房租壓力
: 也還好婚前就養了許多貓狗(2狗7貓)
: 可以陪伴孩子成長是我最快樂的
: 只是孩子越大真的需要越多體力
: 他正處貓狗嫌的2~3歲
: 一刻也不得閒一天到晚吵著要出去出去
: 我真的需要體力
: 拜託旁人不要再嘲笑我身材了
: 本來苗條的身材從孕期開始就已經失控了
: 走在路上已經無法像以前一樣抬頭挺胸
: 能不跟人眼神交會最好
: 現在的我根本沒有自己的時間
: 連工作都得等孩子睡後趕工
: 我一直很努力工作
: 以及盡力做個夠好的母親就好
: 心裡想著能工作跟帶小孩兼顧已是萬幸
: 老公本來就幫不上什麼忙
: 所以跟他在不在身邊沒太大差別
: 但一路走來
: 偶爾 (真希望只是偶爾)
: 一句無心的話就能瞬間擊垮我
: 父親一句無心的叨念 (希望真的只是無心)
: 一瞬間我就會崩潰
: 我知道自己累了
: 週末看著別人一家人開心出遊
: 想著自己也曾經是一家三口
: 想
: 是不是應該將就
: 如果自己能將就一點
: 是不是也能至少看起來快樂一點
: 回過神
: 我想不會的
: 因為那樣的日子我只會更不快樂
: 老公已經不在是那個總是無條件包容我
: 無條件保護我的那個人
: 長痛不如短痛,對嗎?
: 當然
: 當孩子淘氣地在我身上滾來滾去
: 也是會感到無比幸福
: 遇到困難
: 就告訴自己挑戰它
: 也會在心裡安慰自己
: "嘿,你很棒哦!"
: 只是有時候
: 意志力薄弱的時候
: 還是會想
: 如果一切可以結束
: 是不是就可以好好休息了
: 什麼問題都不用煩惱了
: 為了婚姻而梭哈的我的失敗的人生
: 就能告別了
: 別擔心
: 我已經什麼都沒有了
: 僅剩的就是責任感
: 至少也會負責到孩子成年
: 之後的就是她自己的人生了
: 嗯…
: 好累...
: 真的好累...
: -----
: Sent from JPTT on my Asus ASUS_T00J.
--
跟老公養了一狗二貓六烏龜,
我必須說照顧寵物要達到不影響生活品質的程度是需要時間、空間、金錢,
我老公退休了,
我們生活算富裕,
家裡正好也不小,
說實在的照顧起來不算輕鬆,
你是全職媽媽&職業媽媽,
你提到沒有後援又說幸好住娘家省一筆房租,
聽起來時間、空間、金錢皆無,
生活品質絕對低的可憐,
撇開你的小孩正值豬狗嫌的年紀不說,
狗要帶出去散步,
7隻貓大概要有六、七個貓砂盆,
更不用說貓毛滿天飛的窘境,
你是職業婦女哪來時時刻刻打理貓咪?
我的兩隻貓三個貓砂盆只要一拉屎一撒尿我就覺得臭的不得了,
而且這還是有空氣濾淨器伺候的,
你7隻貓生活品質如何你有問過旁人嗎?
更甚你的婚姻走到這樣的地步跟這些絕對有很大的關係,
我也是養寵物的人,
也是堅守既然養了就是一輩子的事,
但是你的狀況我真的建議你,
好好幫寵物找些好人家,
與其在你身邊無法得到足夠的照顧,
不如讓別人有機會好好愛護這些動物,
然後好好的檢視自己,
把過去因為動物圍繞在身邊而忽略身邊的人事物的心態好好的修復,
人生要量力而為,
別做不自量力的事。
※ 引述《claira (claira)》之銘言:
: 分居到現在已經兩個月了
: 我是全職媽媽兼職業媽媽
: 小孩出生到現在都是我一個人在帶
: 無後援以及任何可以幫忙顧孩子的親友
: (回頭看看發現自己有多失敗)
: 老公去追求他想要的生活了
: 婚姻被跳票我接受
: 我也很努力在撐著生活
: 目前住在娘家沒有房租壓力
: 也還好婚前就養了許多貓狗(2狗7貓)
: 可以陪伴孩子成長是我最快樂的
: 只是孩子越大真的需要越多體力
: 他正處貓狗嫌的2~3歲
: 一刻也不得閒一天到晚吵著要出去出去
: 我真的需要體力
: 拜託旁人不要再嘲笑我身材了
: 本來苗條的身材從孕期開始就已經失控了
: 走在路上已經無法像以前一樣抬頭挺胸
: 能不跟人眼神交會最好
: 現在的我根本沒有自己的時間
: 連工作都得等孩子睡後趕工
: 我一直很努力工作
: 以及盡力做個夠好的母親就好
: 心裡想著能工作跟帶小孩兼顧已是萬幸
: 老公本來就幫不上什麼忙
: 所以跟他在不在身邊沒太大差別
: 但一路走來
: 偶爾 (真希望只是偶爾)
: 一句無心的話就能瞬間擊垮我
: 父親一句無心的叨念 (希望真的只是無心)
: 一瞬間我就會崩潰
: 我知道自己累了
: 週末看著別人一家人開心出遊
: 想著自己也曾經是一家三口
: 想
: 是不是應該將就
: 如果自己能將就一點
: 是不是也能至少看起來快樂一點
: 回過神
: 我想不會的
: 因為那樣的日子我只會更不快樂
: 老公已經不在是那個總是無條件包容我
: 無條件保護我的那個人
: 長痛不如短痛,對嗎?
: 當然
: 當孩子淘氣地在我身上滾來滾去
: 也是會感到無比幸福
: 遇到困難
: 就告訴自己挑戰它
: 也會在心裡安慰自己
: "嘿,你很棒哦!"
: 只是有時候
: 意志力薄弱的時候
: 還是會想
: 如果一切可以結束
: 是不是就可以好好休息了
: 什麼問題都不用煩惱了
: 為了婚姻而梭哈的我的失敗的人生
: 就能告別了
: 別擔心
: 我已經什麼都沒有了
: 僅剩的就是責任感
: 至少也會負責到孩子成年
: 之後的就是她自己的人生了
: 嗯…
: 好累...
: 真的好累...
: -----
: Sent from JPTT on my Asus ASUS_T00J.
--
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