父母親要求生二個男孩,小的要跟家人的姓 - 結婚
By Carolina Franco
at 2010-09-23T17:45
at 2010-09-23T17:45
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我也碰到相同的問題
只不過扮演著男方的角色
也嘗試著與父母提過
本來以為思想沒這麼傳統的他們
(ex:早餐都我爸準備、雙親晚上都參加社大課程、雙薪家庭)
一聽到"希望第二個孩子跟女方姓"
瞬間面色凝重...
母:[以前都是入贅的人,小孩才會性女方]
父:[我們兩個也許沒關係,但是要想想,我爸爸(爺爺)會讓這種事情發生嗎?]
[依照你爺爺的個性,應該會拿刀上來砍我吧(無奈貌)]
[親戚們會怎麼想?]
結論:他們寧可反對這場婚姻,也不要妥協...囧rz
(目前持續進行中)
這件事情中
觀察到,越傳統的家庭只有女兒的話,
越希望香火可以延續,
可是反過來想
如果自己的小孩是男生
又怎麼會捨得少少的孫子(少子化)給女方姓呢?
相信會來這個版的
大多是20~30適婚年齡的人
感覺以女生居多
不仿回去問問父母
如果自己的兄弟
遇到女方這樣要求
會怎樣處裡...
如果要搬出法律
那我想這段姻緣
應該是告吹吧
沒遇到...
我也不知道家長會這麼堅持
原po的男友應該早就知道結局
只是不知道該如何處理
才會以托待變
建議別讓男方孤軍奮戰
※ 引述《lovy (lovy)》之銘言:
: 我幾個朋友家中都沒有男丁
: 也沒聽說她們父母要求未來其一小孩從母姓
: 老實說 如果我是男生 聽到你家提出這個要求
: 也會想到要入贅那方面去 會不高興的
: 先不講你男友自己的觀念能不能接受(你都說他大男人主義了 那麼勢必很傳統)
: 還必須跟也很傳統的父母提?不被爸媽罵死才有鬼
: 因為你男友一直不肯跟未來公婆講這件事
: 你父母想說直接跟對方父母提
: 但如果你們等到提親那天 才把這訊息傳達出去
: 你們雙方父母應該會當場吵起來
: 姑不論未來你是否真的會讓你第2個兒子從母姓
: 但保證你/你娘家會在婆家黑掉
: (以上情況是以你未來婆家很傳統的推論)
: 你父母在你們交往期間 都沒有跟你說過未來對你小孩的「規劃」嗎?
: 等到論及婚嫁的地步再來講 是不是會讓事情很難解決?
: 雖然現在法律規定 小孩也可以從母姓
: 但是真正這麼做的人並不多
: 更何況 台灣人「大多」還是會有女生出嫁 就是以男方家裡為主的觀念
: 否則本版、婚姻版上哪來那麼多在擔心婆家狀況會影響婚姻生活的文章?
: 法律上說可以做的 不見得在現實生活就一定能實行 (如從母姓、女兒分財產等)
: 雖然說了這麼多 但並不代表我認為你男友的處理方式很恰當
: 你回文中提到男友EQ不大好 容易逃避 我覺得這部分你可能要注意一下
: 我曾經跟這種人接觸過 長期生活蠻痛苦的
: 但你又說到男友家中最近狀況不好 壓力很大
: 我覺得雖然原本他EQ就不高
: 但如果我要面臨媽媽癌症 還要處理女友家長挑戰傳統的問題
: 要不爆也不容易
: 不過我還是一句老話 逃避絕對不是處理問題的方式
: 你男友沒有那麼糟
: 但是你還是要再想一下 未來婚姻面對一個脾氣隨時會爆炸的炸彈 會幸福嗎?
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