煩!先生突然說要找來公婆同住 - 婚姻
By Rosalind
at 2011-03-21T12:24
at 2011-03-21T12:24
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原po你現在需要反其道而行
因為你老公一直想要滿足於「孝子」的角色
你越是提出那些問題 他越會覺得 你就是不想當個「孝媳」
你老公下次再提出與公婆同住 你就一口答應
然後說
1.家裡可能要裝電梯 方便老人家上下樓
(去打聽一下裝電梯費用 然後伸手跟老公拿錢)
(另外孝親房可能要裝潢、家具 一樣跟老公要)
2.回婆家時 將小孩"完全"丟給公婆顧
然後小孩皮的時候 不要去管教 叫老公去打
(基本上大部分爺奶看到孫子被打 都會心疼)
3.開心的 去找工作
4.每次回婆家 就很開心的跟公婆說:「以後孩子就交給爸媽帶
爸媽帶我們比較放心 只是可能以後很難看到左鄰右舍了」
看到公公在抽煙、喝酒、吃檳榔、熬夜
馬上在公公面前說:「爸 醫生說你不能這樣下去 對身體不好
爸你搬來跟我們一起住 讓xx(你老公)就近照顧你 讓你戒掉這些壞習慣 把身體養好」
反正一切都不要提到「不想與公婆同住」「會有摩擦」這些事情
讓你老公知道要當「表面孝子」要付出多少代價
也讓公婆知道 跟你們一起住 會有多不習慣 相信他們就不會願意搬過來了
※ 引述《tell258 (^^)》之銘言:
: 我有跟先生表明我的看法
: 說公公如果開刀,婆婆又要照顧他可能會很累
: 不適合搬來幫我們帶小孩~
: 而且一般小孩真的很皮又好動,學齡前都是這副模樣
: 我知道小孩不是故意的,天性使然
: 我先生居然跟我說:小孩如果讓公婆生氣勞累,他要用打的!!!
: 打個幾次,他相信小孩會變得很乖
: 那是不是小孩子1歲多打翻東西,也要用打的!!
: 我聽了真的是一肚子火!(要教小孩不是非打不可,我不反對體罰,但常打不能接受)
: 就為了你想成全你爸媽同住的想法,就要犧牲掉小孩子嗎?
: 所以我的小孩就因為這樣的關係,從小甚麼都要用打的!
: 這樣犧牲親子關係值得嗎?
: 還有,他說他想就近盯他爸的生活習慣
: 幾年前腦血管阻塞作支架,已被醫生強調過要清淡飲食,規律生活
: 不過他爸仍然夜生活,菸酒檳榔樣樣來
: 當然情況就惡化了!
: 這種情形是個人因素,真的搬過來就會好嗎?
: 他要上班,可以24小時看著他嗎?
: 隨便白天的時間,都有機會可以來個菸酒檳榔好嗎?
--
因為你老公一直想要滿足於「孝子」的角色
你越是提出那些問題 他越會覺得 你就是不想當個「孝媳」
你老公下次再提出與公婆同住 你就一口答應
然後說
1.家裡可能要裝電梯 方便老人家上下樓
(去打聽一下裝電梯費用 然後伸手跟老公拿錢)
(另外孝親房可能要裝潢、家具 一樣跟老公要)
2.回婆家時 將小孩"完全"丟給公婆顧
然後小孩皮的時候 不要去管教 叫老公去打
(基本上大部分爺奶看到孫子被打 都會心疼)
3.開心的 去找工作
4.每次回婆家 就很開心的跟公婆說:「以後孩子就交給爸媽帶
爸媽帶我們比較放心 只是可能以後很難看到左鄰右舍了」
看到公公在抽煙、喝酒、吃檳榔、熬夜
馬上在公公面前說:「爸 醫生說你不能這樣下去 對身體不好
爸你搬來跟我們一起住 讓xx(你老公)就近照顧你 讓你戒掉這些壞習慣 把身體養好」
反正一切都不要提到「不想與公婆同住」「會有摩擦」這些事情
讓你老公知道要當「表面孝子」要付出多少代價
也讓公婆知道 跟你們一起住 會有多不習慣 相信他們就不會願意搬過來了
※ 引述《tell258 (^^)》之銘言:
: 我有跟先生表明我的看法
: 說公公如果開刀,婆婆又要照顧他可能會很累
: 不適合搬來幫我們帶小孩~
: 而且一般小孩真的很皮又好動,學齡前都是這副模樣
: 我知道小孩不是故意的,天性使然
: 我先生居然跟我說:小孩如果讓公婆生氣勞累,他要用打的!!!
: 打個幾次,他相信小孩會變得很乖
: 那是不是小孩子1歲多打翻東西,也要用打的!!
: 我聽了真的是一肚子火!(要教小孩不是非打不可,我不反對體罰,但常打不能接受)
: 就為了你想成全你爸媽同住的想法,就要犧牲掉小孩子嗎?
: 所以我的小孩就因為這樣的關係,從小甚麼都要用打的!
: 這樣犧牲親子關係值得嗎?
: 還有,他說他想就近盯他爸的生活習慣
: 幾年前腦血管阻塞作支架,已被醫生強調過要清淡飲食,規律生活
: 不過他爸仍然夜生活,菸酒檳榔樣樣來
: 當然情況就惡化了!
: 這種情形是個人因素,真的搬過來就會好嗎?
: 他要上班,可以24小時看著他嗎?
: 隨便白天的時間,都有機會可以來個菸酒檳榔好嗎?
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