月子的錢誰出? - 婚姻
By Quintina
at 2011-08-30T22:58
at 2011-08-30T22:58
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※ 引述《tn (奇蹟的楊)》之銘言:
: 講到這個也是我最近的苦惱。
: 第一胎的時候,前半個月挑了一家還算高檔的坐月子中心,
: 地點在大直,剛好在娘家與婆家中間,住了半個月花了八萬多。
現在我已經在跟我老公規劃坐月子中心的事情,還有價錢。
我不懂的是,如果一個坐月子中心要高達十六萬,而且是在你們
負擔不起的範圍,為什麼當初會挑那家坐月子中心?
如果當初規劃好了,為什麼做了兩個禮拜之後你又跟你老婆說
負擔不起無法配合?
當初決定要去坐月子中心一定有很多考量,比方說娘家只有媽媽一人
無法同時照顧產婦跟新生兒,比方說產婦跟婆家關係不好,
現在因為經濟因素,讓產婦才在月子中心呆兩個禮拜就回娘家
(或回婆家,總之不是適合作月子的地方),對產婦,或者是娘家的媽媽
都是種負擔。
不過我想你應該沒想過,你大概覺得去坐月子中心叫做享福吧。
: (本來想住一個月,我實在覺得負擔太重跟老婆商量減半)
: 因為我媽自己會開車所以老婆待在月子中心的時候,
: 剛開始母親幾乎每天都會去探望一趟,拿點水果甚麼的給媳婦,順便看一下孫子。
: 雖然都待不超過半小時,不過我老婆覺得這樣讓她很困擾,跟娘家抱怨了這件事。
: 於是我小姨子還來叫我跟我媽說不要每天都去。
: 這件事情讓我很生氣,有必要輪到我小姨子來抱怨我媽嗎?
我不懂耶,妳老婆要她妹妹轉話給你,也不是當面叫妳媽不要來,
這有什麼好抱怨的?你的意思是說要你老婆直接跟你抱怨才叫懂禮數嗎?
老實說,我覺得夫妻之間已經要靠小姨子傳話,表示你們兩個平常的溝通
模式已經很有問題了。所以老婆才會覺得她講的話你不會聽,需要小姨子出面
協調才行。
你媽跟你老婆的關係本來就不好,她不想看到你媽是人之常情,
坐月子的主角是她,不是你媽,本來就要以她的意願為主。
如果她擠奶擠到一半,或者是睡覺睡到一半,你媽突然來了,
他還要打起精神應付婆婆,(而且看你的態度,如果他不理你媽
大概又被你念),她幹嘛坐月子?你媽如果要看孫,你們跟坐月子中心
可以協調一下讓你媽看孫又不會打擾到媳婦的方法,而不是一昧指責
媳婦不懂事媳婦不孝順,奇怪為什麼一個病人要去配合訪客的需要?
: 不過我知道老婆的心理,還是委婉的告訴我媽要她不用每天來。
: 後來半個月坐月子中心結束以後,我老婆說剩下的產假她都要住娘家。
: 我就又拿了三萬(還是五萬?其實我忘了)給我老婆要她轉交給丈母娘。
很合理。
除非你想要讓你媽吃那種二十四小時隨時待命的苦頭。
: 最近老婆有了第二胎,胎兒才剛剛驗到心跳,
: 老婆就說她這次要挑娘家附近走路就可以到的月子中心。
: 我也知道老婆沒說出口的是甚麼,
: 只是打哈哈說那上次同一家月子中心的回客優惠就得浪費掉了,有點捨不得。
我還是不懂耶,你覺得那間月子中心貴,還跟你老婆說不要浪費回客優惠,
其實你心裡是在嫌你老婆為何不想讓你媽去看她吧?
不是你愛你媽就代表你老婆也要愛你媽,你媽對她的態度跟你媽對你的態度一樣嗎?
一個把自己的妻子從同一家月子中心趕出來的人,真的沒有什麼資格
要求妻子下一次還要配合先生應酬婆婆懂嗎?
: 不過懷孕的女人最大,千萬不能忤逆她!
: 不然三天兩頭威脅我要把孩子拿掉,我還真承擔不起!
你老婆會威脅你把孩子拿掉,這代表她心裡的不安全感已經深到無以復加的地步
所以才需要用孩子來威脅自己的老公。
這種反應不是讓你反省到你們夫妻關係出了什麼問題,而是
覺得她沒母性,(老實說,胎兒是在她身體裡,她對孩子的感受絕對比你強烈),
我也不知道該說什麼。
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