會照實跟先生說自己賺多少嗎 - 婚姻
By Rebecca
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和先生兩人都有穩定的工作
所有的家庭開支 也是以嚴謹的五五對分
兩人每月固定匯款至共同帳戶 所以也沒算不清的問題
賺的錢也差不多 只是存款來說 先生多過我
因為我還有學貸 而且需要匯錢回家 先生不必
我們彼此雙方都不太會過問對方的金錢流向
但即使如此 有些時候他對我的金錢處理方式不太同意
不同意點1.
我有固定匯錢回家 他基本上沒這個問題
但因為我家根本沒有房子 是跟別人租的
我想買房子給爸媽住 原本的孝親費 加碼後改為付房貸
對於這一點 他很不認同
理由是兩人一體 這個決定一定會影響到他
但我看不出影響的點在哪 房貸占我薪水的比例很低
不同意點2
我是個花錢很節制的人 但不是很省
我覺得一年出國一次就夠了
但先生屬於享樂主義 覺得該一年兩次
所以如果有額外我覺得不必要的開銷
就算花得起 我會直接裝窮說沒錢
如果先生說要幫我出 我會以我不喜歡花別人的錢作結
因為這樣 他覺得他在遷就我 也覺得我應該降低1的花費
不該因為家人而降低自己的生活水準 甚至不該買房子給家人住
但其實我沒降低我的生活水準 我只是無法跟他活在同個水準
例一 我覺得超過30度才要開冷氣 他覺得想開就開
但電費均分 所以我會阻止他 有次我還在客廳蓋棉被吹冷氣
例二 我喝開水為主 我幾乎沒見他喝過開水
例三 上餐廳他會選菜單上最貴的那個 我選價格我可以接受看起來好吃的為主
例四 我等年假累積夠了 再請有薪年假出去玩
他覺得想請就請 就算是無薪 能玩就是好
以上四點 都在他心中造就了我貧困的假象 但我覺得很冤
試圖說服他我不窮 他就要試圖說服我打破以上四點 尤其是四
目前先生知道我所得多少 而我工作有升遷的機會
假若有天我加薪了 我到底是要用這筆加薪的錢幫家人買房子然後不告訴他
還是誠實以對 但我又不想他拿錢就是拿來花的這個論點來盧我出國
尤其我裝窮這點讓他真的也存到了不少錢(沒人陪他出國阿)
請板友教我該如何有智慧的處理這件事??
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