換個角度想 - 婚姻
By Hamiltion
at 2012-11-30T02:38
at 2012-11-30T02:38
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去年10月,老婆和我兩人裸婚
戶政事務所登記、請雙方家長簡單地吃了一桌、接著便出國工作
經過一年的打拼,錢賺到了,年底也回台準備補請各方親朋好友一攤喜酒
在規劃安排喜宴的過程當中遇到許多挫折
讓我領悟到,老婆娘家那邊的問題,真不是普通的大
狗屁不通的情況實在很多,我就直接用列舉的,比較省事
-雙方家長談妥婚宴日期(合併在同一天)與程序後,隔天丈母娘整個翻盤
說台南辦一場、高雄也要辦一場歸寧,加上訂婚、迎娶等程序,錢由男方出
-突然喊說一切照禮俗來,黃金鑽戒都要買、大聘小聘也不可少
-打來罵我老婆為何不回家住,老婆說自己早已結婚了,理當住在婆家
丈母娘說她沒答應,女兒怎能算出嫁?大罵成何體統
-丈母娘說,辦在台南太遠,親戚會不想北上
這樣她當年包出去的紅包收不回來
-老婆的妹妹,也就是我的小姑,因為之前的事件而不想出席婚宴
丈母娘要求我們夫妻倆去跟小姑道歉,並邀請她出席
這場喜宴小女兒若不賞臉,她老身也不會參加
-我吞下心中所有的怒氣與幹譙,低聲下氣地去邀請小姑出席,大小姐也答應了
隔天丈母娘請小姑當天做招待,她說「才不要,姊姊的事與我無關」
-最後順丈母娘的意思在高雄辦一場簡單的(訂婚?)
討論日期時小姑說「我週末有上家教,如果請假會少賺一千塊,星期六都不行」
-丈母娘說高雄那場,新娘要穿金戴銀、掛珠寶鑽石
說句實在話,我們早已結婚超過一年了
這次回國,目的只是辦場餐會讓親朋好友一同聚聚
我父母從未表示過任何意見,他們認為幸福的婚姻比舖張的婚禮來得重要
要做什麼安排,全然放手讓我們自己去做決定,不管怎樣他們就是配合
在上述的過程當中,我也做了許多自己不想做的事、違反了許多本身的原則
在遇到許多不合理要求的時候,起初我的情緒也是很反彈
但每次想起老婆對丈母娘哭著說「天底下哪個女兒,不希望自己的媽媽來參加婚禮的?」
我就會把自己的怒氣先緩緩,用順從的態度去面對
畢竟她帶給我這麼多的快樂
今天教我為她受點委屈,又有什麼難的呢?
只要是錢能解決的事情,都算是簡單的事
但珠寶金飾這種東西太過昂貴,我們實在無能為力
就在此時
媽媽的一位摯友,南部某大公司的老闆娘
直接把我們請到她家,打開整櫃的珠寶首飾讓老婆隨便挑,借她配戴
那次,她捎了總價八十多萬的珠寶要借給我們使用
害得我們家這禮拜天天把大門鎖緊緊(平常連都不鎖的)
老爸對我說,「忍一時,讓老婆開心最重要,你就多擔待點」
聽到這話,對許多事情我也都看開了
我最想要的是什麼?不就是老婆開心嘛
心境一轉,事情就宛如船到橋頭一般,水到渠成
雖然狗屁倒灶的事情依然塵土飛揚,但我相信總有塵埃落定的一天
換個角度,看著她開心,我也心滿意足了
--
戶政事務所登記、請雙方家長簡單地吃了一桌、接著便出國工作
經過一年的打拼,錢賺到了,年底也回台準備補請各方親朋好友一攤喜酒
在規劃安排喜宴的過程當中遇到許多挫折
讓我領悟到,老婆娘家那邊的問題,真不是普通的大
狗屁不通的情況實在很多,我就直接用列舉的,比較省事
-雙方家長談妥婚宴日期(合併在同一天)與程序後,隔天丈母娘整個翻盤
說台南辦一場、高雄也要辦一場歸寧,加上訂婚、迎娶等程序,錢由男方出
-突然喊說一切照禮俗來,黃金鑽戒都要買、大聘小聘也不可少
-打來罵我老婆為何不回家住,老婆說自己早已結婚了,理當住在婆家
丈母娘說她沒答應,女兒怎能算出嫁?大罵成何體統
-丈母娘說,辦在台南太遠,親戚會不想北上
這樣她當年包出去的紅包收不回來
-老婆的妹妹,也就是我的小姑,因為之前的事件而不想出席婚宴
丈母娘要求我們夫妻倆去跟小姑道歉,並邀請她出席
這場喜宴小女兒若不賞臉,她老身也不會參加
-我吞下心中所有的怒氣與幹譙,低聲下氣地去邀請小姑出席,大小姐也答應了
隔天丈母娘請小姑當天做招待,她說「才不要,姊姊的事與我無關」
-最後順丈母娘的意思在高雄辦一場簡單的(訂婚?)
討論日期時小姑說「我週末有上家教,如果請假會少賺一千塊,星期六都不行」
-丈母娘說高雄那場,新娘要穿金戴銀、掛珠寶鑽石
說句實在話,我們早已結婚超過一年了
這次回國,目的只是辦場餐會讓親朋好友一同聚聚
我父母從未表示過任何意見,他們認為幸福的婚姻比舖張的婚禮來得重要
要做什麼安排,全然放手讓我們自己去做決定,不管怎樣他們就是配合
在上述的過程當中,我也做了許多自己不想做的事、違反了許多本身的原則
在遇到許多不合理要求的時候,起初我的情緒也是很反彈
但每次想起老婆對丈母娘哭著說「天底下哪個女兒,不希望自己的媽媽來參加婚禮的?」
我就會把自己的怒氣先緩緩,用順從的態度去面對
畢竟她帶給我這麼多的快樂
今天教我為她受點委屈,又有什麼難的呢?
只要是錢能解決的事情,都算是簡單的事
但珠寶金飾這種東西太過昂貴,我們實在無能為力
就在此時
媽媽的一位摯友,南部某大公司的老闆娘
直接把我們請到她家,打開整櫃的珠寶首飾讓老婆隨便挑,借她配戴
那次,她捎了總價八十多萬的珠寶要借給我們使用
害得我們家這禮拜天天把大門鎖緊緊(平常連都不鎖的)
老爸對我說,「忍一時,讓老婆開心最重要,你就多擔待點」
聽到這話,對許多事情我也都看開了
我最想要的是什麼?不就是老婆開心嘛
心境一轉,事情就宛如船到橋頭一般,水到渠成
雖然狗屁倒灶的事情依然塵土飛揚,但我相信總有塵埃落定的一天
換個角度,看著她開心,我也心滿意足了
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