我們下一代的婆媳關係會改善嗎? - 婚姻
By Sandy
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上一代的傳統觀念 例如
生兒子 嫁出去的女兒像潑出去的水 媳婦不能頂嘴或不高興之類的
這些觀念 會在我們這一代平反掉嗎?!(當然長幼有序敬老尊賢是必要的)
我們這些媳婦 將來熬成婆了 會不會也這樣對待兒媳呢?
我姊說不太可能 因為我阿嬤那一代 傳到4.5年級父母這代(現在的婆婆)
都沒變了 婆媳一樣自古不合就是不和 怎麼可能輪到我們會變呢
年節時 姊姊的婆家規定要到"初九.十"才能回娘家 (除夕夜前四五天就要回婆家了)
因為她婆婆的觀念是 女兒嫁了 娘家的事不要管 有回去就好
之前姊姊有跟婆婆提 等孩子大了想出去工作 幫娘家還一些房貸(剩不到60)
婆婆反對 說不要去管娘家的事 顧好自己的家庭就好 (相對姊夫每個月不用給婆家錢)
諸如此類的事情 讓姊姊對娘家有些愧疚 因為她跟我才工作賺錢沒三年就嫁人生小孩了
夫家也都容許專職帶小孩 所以沒有幫到娘家什麼忙 (娘家還談不上小康)
前幾天 姐姐告訴我 她計畫騙媽媽 說她婆婆要給姊姊一筆錢(答謝她為夫家連生二子)
說這筆錢可以把剩下的房貸還清 婆婆也說錢拿去還房貸OK
(實際上根本不是這樣的)
等於婆婆間接幫助了娘家 的假象
媽媽一開始當然說不 天下沒有白吃的午餐
後來我也勸她收下 就當是天上掉下來的禮物 她才答應
當然
這筆錢 是我和姊姊用自己先前工作的積蓄湊合的(我們也差不多真的要靠老公養了)
會這樣騙媽媽 是因為之前就跟她講了我們姊妹拿存款幫忙還 我媽堅決反對
她說身邊要有存款才行 且出嫁時 沒有給我們嫁妝 要我們有錢就自己存起來
抱歉嚴重離題 (總之以上離題的結論是終於把房貸還清了)
後來我問姊姊 以後也會希望媳婦生兒子嗎?她說不會 因為生子壓力真的大
女人何苦為難女人呢~
但姊姊又說我們這代熬成婆後 不要肖想傳統的歧視觀念會因此消失
所以想來問問 有婆媳問題的太太們 你們會改變嗎?
最近跟婆婆鬧不愉快 姑且不論誰是誰非
我開始擔心我女兒以後也會遇到婆媳問題了~"~
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生兒子 嫁出去的女兒像潑出去的水 媳婦不能頂嘴或不高興之類的
這些觀念 會在我們這一代平反掉嗎?!(當然長幼有序敬老尊賢是必要的)
我們這些媳婦 將來熬成婆了 會不會也這樣對待兒媳呢?
我姊說不太可能 因為我阿嬤那一代 傳到4.5年級父母這代(現在的婆婆)
都沒變了 婆媳一樣自古不合就是不和 怎麼可能輪到我們會變呢
年節時 姊姊的婆家規定要到"初九.十"才能回娘家 (除夕夜前四五天就要回婆家了)
因為她婆婆的觀念是 女兒嫁了 娘家的事不要管 有回去就好
之前姊姊有跟婆婆提 等孩子大了想出去工作 幫娘家還一些房貸(剩不到60)
婆婆反對 說不要去管娘家的事 顧好自己的家庭就好 (相對姊夫每個月不用給婆家錢)
諸如此類的事情 讓姊姊對娘家有些愧疚 因為她跟我才工作賺錢沒三年就嫁人生小孩了
夫家也都容許專職帶小孩 所以沒有幫到娘家什麼忙 (娘家還談不上小康)
前幾天 姐姐告訴我 她計畫騙媽媽 說她婆婆要給姊姊一筆錢(答謝她為夫家連生二子)
說這筆錢可以把剩下的房貸還清 婆婆也說錢拿去還房貸OK
(實際上根本不是這樣的)
等於婆婆間接幫助了娘家 的假象
媽媽一開始當然說不 天下沒有白吃的午餐
後來我也勸她收下 就當是天上掉下來的禮物 她才答應
當然
這筆錢 是我和姊姊用自己先前工作的積蓄湊合的(我們也差不多真的要靠老公養了)
會這樣騙媽媽 是因為之前就跟她講了我們姊妹拿存款幫忙還 我媽堅決反對
她說身邊要有存款才行 且出嫁時 沒有給我們嫁妝 要我們有錢就自己存起來
抱歉嚴重離題 (總之以上離題的結論是終於把房貸還清了)
後來我問姊姊 以後也會希望媳婦生兒子嗎?她說不會 因為生子壓力真的大
女人何苦為難女人呢~
但姊姊又說我們這代熬成婆後 不要肖想傳統的歧視觀念會因此消失
所以想來問問 有婆媳問題的太太們 你們會改變嗎?
最近跟婆婆鬧不愉快 姑且不論誰是誰非
我開始擔心我女兒以後也會遇到婆媳問題了~"~
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