想請問各位是怎麼分配時間回老家 - 婚姻
By William
at 2018-10-02T22:55
at 2018-10-02T22:55
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※ 此文為板主代Po,板主不代轉信給原發文者,請不要寄信來板主信箱※
跟老婆結婚1年多 最近起了些爭執
我是台中人,老婆家在板橋
婚後我們一起住在台北,離老婆娘家很近,
我本身也很常陪老婆回娘家 大約一周1-2次的頻率
而老婆大概是1個月會跟我回一次台中,重要節日也都是跟我回去
雙方跟彼此家人相處都算融洽,
我們也都經濟獨立沒有依靠父母任何資助
但最近跟老婆起了些爭執
他說覺得假日不能休息很累
重要節日她都無法跟他的家人度過,
他覺得很委屈、覺得我很自私
我本來以為 婚後已經住在老婆娘家的縣市
所以這樣的作法應該還算公平
但老婆這樣的說法讓我有點不知所措
男方我這裡的想法是,
我覺得我也妥協蠻多的...
我從台中上北部工作多年,
並非工作考量,絕大部分的原因都是因為老婆在台北
而我也知道在台北長大的老婆,如果跟我去中部定居一定不會快樂
所以也就一直自然而然的待在北部
但其實某種程度上,我覺得自己很難擺脫父系社會的思維跟壓力
跟老婆娘家相處的時間,比跟自己爸媽相處的時間多
對於這件事,其實我覺得有點對不起自己的父母...
所以聽老婆這樣說(其實是用吵的),我也很受傷
都已經住娘家附近,我自認對岳家也算盡心
每周也都跟她家人吃飯
為什麼這樣的分配方式還算自私呢?
我也試圖站在老婆的立場想過,但還是無法釋懷
回到正題,想請問有類似狀況的各位前輩
都是怎麼解決這樣的問題呢?
我跟老婆平常相處感情很好
雙方都有工作、家事也都是平均分攤
但感覺這件事好像無法有個完美的答案
只能一方吞下去妥協......
※ 此文為板主代Po,板主不代轉信給原發文者,請不要寄信來板主信箱※
--
跟老婆結婚1年多 最近起了些爭執
我是台中人,老婆家在板橋
婚後我們一起住在台北,離老婆娘家很近,
我本身也很常陪老婆回娘家 大約一周1-2次的頻率
而老婆大概是1個月會跟我回一次台中,重要節日也都是跟我回去
雙方跟彼此家人相處都算融洽,
我們也都經濟獨立沒有依靠父母任何資助
但最近跟老婆起了些爭執
他說覺得假日不能休息很累
重要節日她都無法跟他的家人度過,
他覺得很委屈、覺得我很自私
我本來以為 婚後已經住在老婆娘家的縣市
所以這樣的作法應該還算公平
但老婆這樣的說法讓我有點不知所措
男方我這裡的想法是,
我覺得我也妥協蠻多的...
我從台中上北部工作多年,
並非工作考量,絕大部分的原因都是因為老婆在台北
而我也知道在台北長大的老婆,如果跟我去中部定居一定不會快樂
所以也就一直自然而然的待在北部
但其實某種程度上,我覺得自己很難擺脫父系社會的思維跟壓力
跟老婆娘家相處的時間,比跟自己爸媽相處的時間多
對於這件事,其實我覺得有點對不起自己的父母...
所以聽老婆這樣說(其實是用吵的),我也很受傷
都已經住娘家附近,我自認對岳家也算盡心
每周也都跟她家人吃飯
為什麼這樣的分配方式還算自私呢?
我也試圖站在老婆的立場想過,但還是無法釋懷
回到正題,想請問有類似狀況的各位前輩
都是怎麼解決這樣的問題呢?
我跟老婆平常相處感情很好
雙方都有工作、家事也都是平均分攤
但感覺這件事好像無法有個完美的答案
只能一方吞下去妥協......
※ 此文為板主代Po,板主不代轉信給原發文者,請不要寄信來板主信箱※
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