怎麼調適懷孕內心不平衡的心態 - 婚姻

By Harry
at 2017-06-18T19:03
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※此文為板主代Po,板主不代轉信給原發文者,請不要寄信來板主信箱※
本來就不愛小孩也覺得沒生也好
童年過得不開心 在緊張的家庭氣氛長大
記得小學的時候就很常想怎麼躲過家裡旁邊大樓的警衛爬上去跳下來
常常躲在廁所哭 或者躲在棉被哭
很常哭到知道怎麼哭不會臉紅眼紅 知道怎麼裝沒事比較真
潛意識裡覺得生小孩到世界上受苦好像造孽一樣
但老公很喜歡
老公也對我蠻好的 個性上也蠻契合的
覺得要生一個還他
所以結完婚也沒有避孕
所以現在懷孕三個月了
但尷尬的是剛好老闆已經提我升遷
年薪大概會加30萬
去年本來就有提 但年資太輕被大老闆打槍
老實說真的蠻希望可以升上去的
對我來說是一種肯定
目前都不敢跟老闆說懷孕了
今天知道好像七月才公布
要瞞到七月簡直不可能
跟老公說自己對升遷的失落好像他都沒辦法感同身受
去年他要升遷的時候明明也掙扎很久跟老闆來回好幾次
不懂他為什麼換到我就沒有同理心
跟他強調多次我開刀過知道自己對疼痛的忍受度很低想打無痛
他還是很常拿一些例子反駁我說無痛不好
不喜歡這種沒有跟孕婦感同身受的感覺 QQ
承認自己個性好強
不是愛錢 是對工作成就的執著
今年看到扣繳憑單發現老公年薪是自己的1.5倍(他沒有跟我說過)
想到大前年要換工作的時候 本來有個offer可以年薪翻倍
就是要累一點
很心動想去
沒想到受到老公強力的反彈 (其實他也有機會可以去 但是他不要)
老公說我們錢夠用就好 不需要那麼累
我打電話去跟對方主管說抱歉
主管用很破的中文語重心長的跟我講了二十幾分鐘
講了他自己跟他老婆的例子
他說他跟他老婆也有這種面臨職涯追求vs家庭平衡的問題
但是他跟他老婆選擇要鼓勵對方追求自我的價值
他希望我好好想想
也有點care老公同理心弱這件事情
他不懂女生在工作家庭的掙扎
他不懂有時候看到別人請育嬰假的羨慕 (畢竟是自己的寶寶 很想好好的陪他 想讓他當個
心智健全的小孩 看到別人請還是羨慕的)
明明是拖地掃地幫忙洗菜排碗盤都極度不願意的人
不斷恐嚇他說小孩是你要的 夜奶換尿布你要自己來喔 (當然不可能完全給他自己來 我只
是希望他多cover一點)
他還是覺得生出來就會了 (不過懷孕後真的有比較體貼 所以觀察中)
每次問他如果假日我要休息他要自己獨自帶寶寶喔
他就回說沒關係我帶回家給我媽帶就好
今天聽到公布時間突然負能量很足 希望大家能開導開導我
對不起寫得太暗黑了
這種內心暗黑的想法實在找不到人說
也不想輕易打壞老公形象
好想找人說說但找不到...
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