對異國戀女生的刻板印象。 - 異國戀
By Gary
at 2011-10-26T17:20
at 2011-10-26T17:20
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小弟我講個案例來看看大家怎麼想(理性程度?)
女主角是為泰國女生
泰國最好的大學畢業(珠拉,你可以把她想成台大女生,泰大,whatever)
在大學期間就常去夜店 算party girl型
交往過差不多十個男友 好像都是外國人
她說是因為她胖 泰國男生不喜歡她這型
-->到目前為止我都可以接受 我指當女朋友來說
但她發生三件經典事件
其一要去美國玩沒地方住 用身體換住宿 從德州玩到了波士頓...所以...5個??
其二常在網路上找人網路做愛 當然以她的偏好 只挑白男
其三她候來到美國讀碩士
讀了勉強和本科有關係的
但因為家境 所以貸款了300萬
現在和一個白人百人斬 有淋病的無業男結婚
另外附帶一點 她媽媽叫她不要去 因為她還不起(單親)
她說 念書是我的責任貸款是你的 所以就把老母丟在泰國了....
光看事件一我是覺得太扯
事件二嘛 青菜蘿蔔各有所好 可能小時候遇過白人是她的救命恩人? 這還好
但事件三...
試想(因為女板友較多 所以用和女板友對話的口氣)
如果今天你的男性朋友要跟銀行借三百萬
找個戴金髮放大片兼差60次做S南洋來的檳榔西施(有一搭沒一搭)結婚
你會不會說他頭殼壞去? 嗯 好吧 可能多送一張綠卡
但還是太不划算了吧!?!?!??!?!?!
到底是什麼動力趨使她做這樣的事呀
其實我也很納悶
但她的個性和外貌真的很不優就是了
或許是他反過來利用語言和文化的隔閡找個人嫁了??
真愛無國界
這句話是沒錯的
但為了找真愛
拼了命都要跨越國界 這件事會不會怪怪的??
而且是在成本那麼高的情形下
(跨國戀$成本就高了 其他無形成本:適應 學語言 甚至是歧視-->待會多說一點)
為什麼還要拼命做這件事?
在國外留學和友人相處的經驗
對歧視有很深的感受
說真的 亞洲人的地位真的不高 大概界於吠舍和首陀螺間....
就算教育程度再好的白人 心中也很難沒有成見
自己遇過一個教育博士 也娶了台灣女生
動不動就用rubbish來形容台灣的生活 甚至食物
還有一個哈佛朋友 被我聽到在背後說asians are ALL stupid
當然是絕交 有空來哈哈我們的佛吧
當然不會是每個人都有歧視
但這件事不能不放在心中
作為對方怎麼看你的依據
不用把自己降好幾格來迎合他們
今天他是和一個台灣人交往
一半的生活模式照我們台灣規矩 不過份吧?
之前PO文問大家說中文語言程度
自己認為是一個尊重的表現
不是要他三天五天就會說中文
是要他表現出更接近你心靈的意圖
另外還有很多指標都是可以看出一個人願意為你付出
見父母 把你介紹給所有朋友認識 不劈腿不和人搞曖昧
願意在必要時候為你付出犧牲(金錢或任何他意的東西)
...等等
其實這對不管台灣人或外國人都是一樣
每個人可能要求的不一樣
但重點在於這應該是放諸四海皆準的要求
遇到外國人就要妥協這妥協那 不必吧??
個人認為亞洲人在世界地位偏低其實還有重要的原因
我們真的太軟弱了
一次和大陸同學排ATM
兩個白人青少年用推的把我同學推開 插自己的卡進去
幾個大陸同學摸摸鼻子就算了-->我們人超多 還在中國城
我馬上大吼搶劫
他們才嚇得跑開
既然真愛是無國界的
那麼當他們踏入我們國界
應該是互相平等尊重的
而不是我們去向天朝朝貢
再說現在美元崩了歐盟要垮了
應該是他們要快點把中文學好吧?
該要求平等的對待就該大聲說出來
不要自己把自己矇敝了
--
女主角是為泰國女生
泰國最好的大學畢業(珠拉,你可以把她想成台大女生,泰大,whatever)
在大學期間就常去夜店 算party girl型
交往過差不多十個男友 好像都是外國人
她說是因為她胖 泰國男生不喜歡她這型
-->到目前為止我都可以接受 我指當女朋友來說
但她發生三件經典事件
其一要去美國玩沒地方住 用身體換住宿 從德州玩到了波士頓...所以...5個??
其二常在網路上找人網路做愛 當然以她的偏好 只挑白男
其三她候來到美國讀碩士
讀了勉強和本科有關係的
但因為家境 所以貸款了300萬
現在和一個白人百人斬 有淋病的無業男結婚
另外附帶一點 她媽媽叫她不要去 因為她還不起(單親)
她說 念書是我的責任貸款是你的 所以就把老母丟在泰國了....
光看事件一我是覺得太扯
事件二嘛 青菜蘿蔔各有所好 可能小時候遇過白人是她的救命恩人? 這還好
但事件三...
試想(因為女板友較多 所以用和女板友對話的口氣)
如果今天你的男性朋友要跟銀行借三百萬
找個戴金髮放大片兼差60次做S南洋來的檳榔西施(有一搭沒一搭)結婚
你會不會說他頭殼壞去? 嗯 好吧 可能多送一張綠卡
但還是太不划算了吧!?!?!??!?!?!
到底是什麼動力趨使她做這樣的事呀
其實我也很納悶
但她的個性和外貌真的很不優就是了
或許是他反過來利用語言和文化的隔閡找個人嫁了??
真愛無國界
這句話是沒錯的
但為了找真愛
拼了命都要跨越國界 這件事會不會怪怪的??
而且是在成本那麼高的情形下
(跨國戀$成本就高了 其他無形成本:適應 學語言 甚至是歧視-->待會多說一點)
為什麼還要拼命做這件事?
在國外留學和友人相處的經驗
對歧視有很深的感受
說真的 亞洲人的地位真的不高 大概界於吠舍和首陀螺間....
就算教育程度再好的白人 心中也很難沒有成見
自己遇過一個教育博士 也娶了台灣女生
動不動就用rubbish來形容台灣的生活 甚至食物
還有一個哈佛朋友 被我聽到在背後說asians are ALL stupid
當然是絕交 有空來哈哈我們的佛吧
當然不會是每個人都有歧視
但這件事不能不放在心中
作為對方怎麼看你的依據
不用把自己降好幾格來迎合他們
今天他是和一個台灣人交往
一半的生活模式照我們台灣規矩 不過份吧?
之前PO文問大家說中文語言程度
自己認為是一個尊重的表現
不是要他三天五天就會說中文
是要他表現出更接近你心靈的意圖
另外還有很多指標都是可以看出一個人願意為你付出
見父母 把你介紹給所有朋友認識 不劈腿不和人搞曖昧
願意在必要時候為你付出犧牲(金錢或任何他意的東西)
...等等
其實這對不管台灣人或外國人都是一樣
每個人可能要求的不一樣
但重點在於這應該是放諸四海皆準的要求
遇到外國人就要妥協這妥協那 不必吧??
個人認為亞洲人在世界地位偏低其實還有重要的原因
我們真的太軟弱了
一次和大陸同學排ATM
兩個白人青少年用推的把我同學推開 插自己的卡進去
幾個大陸同學摸摸鼻子就算了-->我們人超多 還在中國城
我馬上大吼搶劫
他們才嚇得跑開
既然真愛是無國界的
那麼當他們踏入我們國界
應該是互相平等尊重的
而不是我們去向天朝朝貢
再說現在美元崩了歐盟要垮了
應該是他們要快點把中文學好吧?
該要求平等的對待就該大聲說出來
不要自己把自己矇敝了
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