對於用車的態度? - 婚姻
By Tom
at 2012-01-16T19:48
at 2012-01-16T19:48
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各位版友大家晚安
第一次在這邊po文
想聽聽大家的意見 理清思緒
感謝
前情提要
我先生是非常愛車的車奴
車上不能喝水吃東西用面紙那是基本盤
下雨天 車子不能開出門
不確定有沒有停車位的地方 不能開出門
停車位還要確定夠不夠大 好不好停
不然不能開車出門(所以幾乎外面都是不ok的停車位)
之前刮風 下雨 天氣冷 寒流來 搬家載東西
都是騎機車
如果開車出門,要過夜的
他會不斷的去確定他的車是否安好
有沒有刮傷之類的
頻率大概是一天3~4次
我不太抱怨這件事情
(大概提過幾次而已 口氣也很溫和的溝通)
因為我覺得 要尊重對方的喜好..
只要我能配合的我就盡量
直到....
星期三的下午 我出了車禍
當時是騎著先生的機車
(算比較重的機車 yamaha的勁戰125)
自己跌倒 受傷後 救護車送急診
除了四肢嚴重挫傷之外(膝蓋腫)
可怕的是臉上縫了好多針....(現在回想還會發抖...縫了兩個小時多吧)
先生工作在彰化 當時上班中
我一個人在台中 娘家在台北
送到醫院後通知先生
他工作很忙很累
還是堅持回來看我照顧我(走路都有問題)
這點我非常非常感動和感謝
(因為他工作忙,辛苦,這樣奔波照顧我,他會更累,隔天還要去上班)
星期六的時候
我還跟他說:受傷也有好處耶!
先生:那有什麼好處!!
我說:我終於了解-我愛老公,老公愛我!!
摔到他的機車他也沒責怪我
直說買一台新的就好
但 今天早上(星期一)
醫院複診的時間(掛了骨科和整外,因為膝蓋很腫,臉要拆線)
準備要出門的時候..
他說:趁現在沒有雨 我們趕快出門吧!(他要騎機車)
我說:下雨耶!我臉上有傷口,不想被水淋濕,坐機車腳也會痛(不能彎)
他說:穿雨衣帶全罩就不會啦!
我說:為什麼不開車?
他說:我不知道那邊好不好停車,下雨天也不是很想開車
(我這時有點難過+不解)
我說:那我取消今天的門診,星期三自己去看
他說:那誰帶你去?
我說:自己騎車去或是請朋友載
朋友都會願意開車載我 不擔心好不好停車
星期五的時候林太太陪我去
他就是開車停在地下室
他說:是喔!那..我開車帶你去 停地下室好了
我說:地下室是機械車位,你不喜歡的(他很怕弄到車子)
他說:我找空地停一下就好了
我說:那邊一定要停到車位!地下室沒有空地可停
他說:是喔...那你確定不去?
我說:我星期三去好了,不然你車不好停,你會不開心
(對他不ok的停車位 他要停很久 而且會碎唸
我實在不想造成自己更多的壓力和愧疚..)
他說:喔!好吧!
然後這段對話就結束了..
他沒有堅持一定要帶我去醫院
(因為下雨天 不能騎車就沒有交通工具了..)
後來我們有小小口角了一下
(雖然很快就和好了...)
我很溫和的問他:
車子比我重要?
他就大發飆.說我冤枉他
說了他為我這次車禍的付出等等...
請問有經驗的大家
我該怎麼調適心理的想法?
謝謝!
--
http://www.wretch.cc/album/dollwing
希望生活更精彩
--
第一次在這邊po文
想聽聽大家的意見 理清思緒
感謝
前情提要
我先生是非常愛車的車奴
車上不能喝水吃東西用面紙那是基本盤
下雨天 車子不能開出門
不確定有沒有停車位的地方 不能開出門
停車位還要確定夠不夠大 好不好停
不然不能開車出門(所以幾乎外面都是不ok的停車位)
之前刮風 下雨 天氣冷 寒流來 搬家載東西
都是騎機車
如果開車出門,要過夜的
他會不斷的去確定他的車是否安好
有沒有刮傷之類的
頻率大概是一天3~4次
我不太抱怨這件事情
(大概提過幾次而已 口氣也很溫和的溝通)
因為我覺得 要尊重對方的喜好..
只要我能配合的我就盡量
直到....
星期三的下午 我出了車禍
當時是騎著先生的機車
(算比較重的機車 yamaha的勁戰125)
自己跌倒 受傷後 救護車送急診
除了四肢嚴重挫傷之外(膝蓋腫)
可怕的是臉上縫了好多針....(現在回想還會發抖...縫了兩個小時多吧)
先生工作在彰化 當時上班中
我一個人在台中 娘家在台北
送到醫院後通知先生
他工作很忙很累
還是堅持回來看我照顧我(走路都有問題)
這點我非常非常感動和感謝
(因為他工作忙,辛苦,這樣奔波照顧我,他會更累,隔天還要去上班)
星期六的時候
我還跟他說:受傷也有好處耶!
先生:那有什麼好處!!
我說:我終於了解-我愛老公,老公愛我!!
摔到他的機車他也沒責怪我
直說買一台新的就好
但 今天早上(星期一)
醫院複診的時間(掛了骨科和整外,因為膝蓋很腫,臉要拆線)
準備要出門的時候..
他說:趁現在沒有雨 我們趕快出門吧!(他要騎機車)
我說:下雨耶!我臉上有傷口,不想被水淋濕,坐機車腳也會痛(不能彎)
他說:穿雨衣帶全罩就不會啦!
我說:為什麼不開車?
他說:我不知道那邊好不好停車,下雨天也不是很想開車
(我這時有點難過+不解)
我說:那我取消今天的門診,星期三自己去看
他說:那誰帶你去?
我說:自己騎車去或是請朋友載
朋友都會願意開車載我 不擔心好不好停車
星期五的時候林太太陪我去
他就是開車停在地下室
他說:是喔!那..我開車帶你去 停地下室好了
我說:地下室是機械車位,你不喜歡的(他很怕弄到車子)
他說:我找空地停一下就好了
我說:那邊一定要停到車位!地下室沒有空地可停
他說:是喔...那你確定不去?
我說:我星期三去好了,不然你車不好停,你會不開心
(對他不ok的停車位 他要停很久 而且會碎唸
我實在不想造成自己更多的壓力和愧疚..)
他說:喔!好吧!
然後這段對話就結束了..
他沒有堅持一定要帶我去醫院
(因為下雨天 不能騎車就沒有交通工具了..)
後來我們有小小口角了一下
(雖然很快就和好了...)
我很溫和的問他:
車子比我重要?
他就大發飆.說我冤枉他
說了他為我這次車禍的付出等等...
請問有經驗的大家
我該怎麼調適心理的想法?
謝謝!
--
http://www.wretch.cc/album/dollwing
希望生活更精彩
--
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