寶寶與老婆住娘家是否要補貼?該怎對先生說? - 婚姻

By Harry
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這篇看的我啼笑皆非, 這位太太也太可愛
1.說明了先生在北部上班, 夫家在南部, 也說明了老婆在南部上班
那老婆的娘家在哪裡??
看到之後寫到婚後跟懷孕都住娘家, 好吧, 娘家是在南部的
--> 間接顯露出原po思維邏輯具有偏頗性
2.原po就是文章敘述的太太, 自己的爸媽不寫娘家爸媽而是用老公角度寫"岳父母"
跟自己爸媽很不熟?? 但岳父母又在原po婚後到現在懷孕都天天照顧.....
正常人應該不會寫"岳父母", 而是"娘家爸媽"吧
-->文章描述都需要大家旁敲側擊善用推理
沒提到娘家爸媽有開口希望女兒女婿給類似孝親費or女兒照顧費or分攤家用水電
不管娘家爸媽有沒有這念頭, 總是沒說出口
在這個對年輕人成家備感艱難的年代, 我想要給原po爸媽掌聲~~
原po提到 "本以為男女平等不計較"
推論原po夫妻對於錢財資產主要是各賺各的各管各的
你要請自己爸媽吃飯自己出錢也要計較? 也不是不行
請參考本版先前的AA制文章
大方向確立了再來跟老公談關於共有的小孩, 他該付出多少
不管住夫家還是娘家, 老人家免費給吃住真的很棒
但關於是不是要分攤些家用水電, 甚至固定每月給孝親費
真的是看夫妻倆的經濟狀況, 以及老人家的經濟狀況
在考慮住夫家還是娘家時, 原po老公先前有提到要節省開銷
在此推測夫妻倆是一般收入水準
後來決定住娘家應該是在支出上最節省的方案
我想應該是....婆婆太省所以很多東西都得自己買
而娘家爸媽除了願意照顧原po之外, 還比較大方
所以才會有這篇文章出現, 因為娘家爸媽只求照顧好懷孕的女兒, 而沒開口過錢
請大家再次給原po爸媽掌聲 (%%%%)
這樣好的爸媽, 既然他們沒開口要你們夫妻分攤費用 or 孝親費
我個人認為最好的方法, 就是不給, 因為你們經濟狀況並不充裕
不需要打腫臉充胖子, 錢也不是娘家爸媽重視的點
取而代之的, 是原po跟先生更加的對娘家爸媽好
多去陪伴他們, 多去敬愛他們, 有空時多帶他們出去走走聊天散心
這份心意長留心中, 等未來孩子大了你們經濟更充裕時
再來多多的用金錢孝敬他們
※ 引述《eashiun (蔚藍天空)》之銘言:
: 先生在北部上班,老婆在南部上班,夫家南部。
: 老婆婚後及懷孕都住娘家,岳父母幫忙照顧,假日回夫家住。
: 小寶出生後與老婆住娘家是否要補貼(有所表達)?
: 早上另請保姆(兩人付擔),晚上老婆及岳父母帶。該補貼多少?
: 之前婚後及懷孕都住娘家都是老婆娘家負責,本以為男女平等不計較,
: 但先生也隻字未提。過年過節也都是老婆自掏腰包請岳父母吃飯,
: 吃住都由岳父母出好像說不過,該怎樣跟先生說。
: 岳父母是不要跟女兒要房租及水電費及其他費用..
: 之前先生為了要省開消有要老婆住夫家,但因婆婆超級傳統及節儉的價值觀
: 先生要老婆及寶寶回娘家住。
: 是否同意記者抄文:NO
--
1.說明了先生在北部上班, 夫家在南部, 也說明了老婆在南部上班
那老婆的娘家在哪裡??
看到之後寫到婚後跟懷孕都住娘家, 好吧, 娘家是在南部的
--> 間接顯露出原po思維邏輯具有偏頗性
2.原po就是文章敘述的太太, 自己的爸媽不寫娘家爸媽而是用老公角度寫"岳父母"
跟自己爸媽很不熟?? 但岳父母又在原po婚後到現在懷孕都天天照顧.....
正常人應該不會寫"岳父母", 而是"娘家爸媽"吧
-->文章描述都需要大家旁敲側擊善用推理
沒提到娘家爸媽有開口希望女兒女婿給類似孝親費or女兒照顧費or分攤家用水電
不管娘家爸媽有沒有這念頭, 總是沒說出口
在這個對年輕人成家備感艱難的年代, 我想要給原po爸媽掌聲~~
原po提到 "本以為男女平等不計較"
推論原po夫妻對於錢財資產主要是各賺各的各管各的
你要請自己爸媽吃飯自己出錢也要計較? 也不是不行
請參考本版先前的AA制文章
大方向確立了再來跟老公談關於共有的小孩, 他該付出多少
不管住夫家還是娘家, 老人家免費給吃住真的很棒
但關於是不是要分攤些家用水電, 甚至固定每月給孝親費
真的是看夫妻倆的經濟狀況, 以及老人家的經濟狀況
在考慮住夫家還是娘家時, 原po老公先前有提到要節省開銷
在此推測夫妻倆是一般收入水準
後來決定住娘家應該是在支出上最節省的方案
我想應該是....婆婆太省所以很多東西都得自己買
而娘家爸媽除了願意照顧原po之外, 還比較大方
所以才會有這篇文章出現, 因為娘家爸媽只求照顧好懷孕的女兒, 而沒開口過錢
請大家再次給原po爸媽掌聲 (%%%%)
這樣好的爸媽, 既然他們沒開口要你們夫妻分攤費用 or 孝親費
我個人認為最好的方法, 就是不給, 因為你們經濟狀況並不充裕
不需要打腫臉充胖子, 錢也不是娘家爸媽重視的點
取而代之的, 是原po跟先生更加的對娘家爸媽好
多去陪伴他們, 多去敬愛他們, 有空時多帶他們出去走走聊天散心
這份心意長留心中, 等未來孩子大了你們經濟更充裕時
再來多多的用金錢孝敬他們
※ 引述《eashiun (蔚藍天空)》之銘言:
: 先生在北部上班,老婆在南部上班,夫家南部。
: 老婆婚後及懷孕都住娘家,岳父母幫忙照顧,假日回夫家住。
: 小寶出生後與老婆住娘家是否要補貼(有所表達)?
: 早上另請保姆(兩人付擔),晚上老婆及岳父母帶。該補貼多少?
: 之前婚後及懷孕都住娘家都是老婆娘家負責,本以為男女平等不計較,
: 但先生也隻字未提。過年過節也都是老婆自掏腰包請岳父母吃飯,
: 吃住都由岳父母出好像說不過,該怎樣跟先生說。
: 岳父母是不要跟女兒要房租及水電費及其他費用..
: 之前先生為了要省開消有要老婆住夫家,但因婆婆超級傳統及節儉的價值觀
: 先生要老婆及寶寶回娘家住。
: 是否同意記者抄文:NO
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