婚姻真的不是憨人想的那麼簡單(苦笑) - 婚姻
By Margaret
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唉!!決定參選婚姻板板主後真是我人生中最黑暗的一段時間
(無關婚姻板啦!只是巧合)
首先是原本住台中的我們,婆家住南投,每個週末我們都會回婆家
但公婆顯然不滿意,但礙於婚前答應過我爸,我們不收任何禮聘,唯一要求就是不住婆家
於是公婆想盡辦法,要我們回南投,三四年來都沒有成功
忽然有一天我接到了婆婆的電話,說我大女兒妞妞可以讀幼幼班了,他要她回南投讀
我公公說要負責所有學費,我和弟弟豆豆在台中就好了,這樣我也比較輕鬆
我當時還笑笑的說,好啊!我再跟XX討論!(心裡還很有信心,我老公一定挺我的)
誰知,回來一問,他們居然都講好了!意思就是說,那通電話並非商量而是告知
我真的氣壞了,我一個人在台中帶孩子,帶到三歲,現在比較好帶了你們要把她帶走
現在是把我當什麼?生子機器加上免費保母嗎?
這件事吵了很大,我完全無法想像我老公的態度居然是這樣,吵到幾乎要離婚,
還找了教會的牧者來協調我們的婚姻,後來....我退讓了
(坦白說我現在非常後悔我的退讓)
我問我老公,回南投要住哪,要住多久?
我婆婆提出,我老公的姑姑沒結婚一個人住,不然我們去住她那,
(我提出要租房子我公公大發雷霆)
我老公就說,先住姑姑家,他和他媽慢慢勸他爸租房子的事
於是,我老公就答應了我三個條件:1. 孩子唸小學就回台中
2. 絕不與公婆同住
3. 孩子的教養權我要全權負責
我基於相信他,也基於想挽救我們的婚姻,就答應過年後回南投
於是我們就搬到姑姑家住,問題又來了,從二月過年後搬回來
我老公幾乎很少過來住,理由很多,例如下雨、孩子在我公婆家,他很累
甚至連家裡有教會的朋友要來拜訪他都要先回家洗澡再跟我說他很趕
我一個都市長大的孩子,從小被父母捧在手掌心的公主完全適應不良
都已經在吃躁鬱症的藥了
大大小小的事吵了很多次,我還回了娘家一週,我老公強硬的態度另我寒心
他在台中和南投簡直判若兩人,我快要不認識他了
而且姑姑也沒想像中的好相處(果然是否天天相處是有差的)
我可能精神也不穩定,可能有很多的可能,也跟他吵了一兩次
這次吵架,她一把把我兒子抱走,抱得非常緊非常緊,我嚇壞了,她那發狂似的行為
完全不理我兩歲兒子的哭鬧,死都不給我抱,我當下差點就報警了!
後來我公公安慰我,要我回婆家,跟我說姑姑跟誰都處不好,不是我的問題
昨天我問我老公,接下來怎麼辦,他說,就住我家,九月豆豆就去讀幼稚園了,
那時你就比較自由了,住我家沒差吧!(重點是這個嗎?)
但我是絕計不會回去姑姑那了(我想到她那天勒住我兒子還是會很害怕)
我就說,算了,我輸了,我帶著豆豆回台中吧!反正你現在也不回來
我在台中和在南投有差嗎?
但他又不願意讓我回台中!
因為我公婆在我婚前就跟我有疙瘩(是我很不諒解他們,他們要求我先懷孕再結婚)
但他們這次完全採低姿態,安慰我,對我很好,我住在他們家也都不干涉我並噓寒問暖
我不知道到底能持續多久,但我真的累了,所有人都認為我嫁了一個好老公
嫁了一個好婆家,但其中的滋味又有誰能了解
節節敗退的我,到底又要退到什麼地步才能挽救我的婚姻?
唉...此篇也不是要板友給我什麼意見啦!只是交代一下為什麼我選上板主後卻一直消失
我知道有板友很想我 XDDD
如果可以照這樣的狀況下去,(我是指公婆對我的態度)或許我可趕快回復正常生活吧
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