婚姻不歸路(文長) - 婚姻
By Ida
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at 2018-09-15T22:10
Table of Contents
請記者不要抄
原文43
先說現在噓為何要生二寶已經沒意義了
生都生了 要鼓勵原po往前/錢看
先穩住生活,好好辦妥離婚比較重要
傳統家庭很難放棄男孫
能救ㄧ個是ㄧ個
往好處想 夫家算有錢 又重視男孫
至少大寶的物質生活不會太差
但我沒有要原原po放棄哦
先「暫時」把大寶放在男方家
先把離婚辦好
把經濟穩住,把自己和二寶打理好再說
大寶暫時帶不出來沒關係
但ㄧ定要堅持行使探視權
例如每周末讓大寶和原原po相處
要小心,有些傳統的老人家會拒絕探視權
然後還會洗腦孫子說媽媽是壞女人
所以也許等律師出面
這樣至少大寶有時間和媽媽相處
能學多少是多少
然後要堅持大寶上幼稚園以及早療
這點可能比較棘手
很多上ㄧ輩的拒絕承認自己的「金孫」有問題
想到我娘家有類似的例子
娘家有個親人(女),有個一歲的寶寶
婚姻已經有名無實,名存實亡
媽媽和寶寶都住娘家
主要照顧者是外婆
外婆個性頗強勢,
媽媽的「工作」只有餵奶,還有在
外婆去煮飯洗衣、上廁所洗澡時短暫顧寶寶
寶寶早就有遲緩跡象
7、8個月時媽媽就很急
但外婆不肯承認寶寶有「可能」遲緩
覺得大雞晚啼 寶寶ㄧ定沒事
反正又拖了ㄧ陣 媽媽拼命爭取
外婆才驚驚事情不對。
才開始ㄧ連串檢查及復健
總之復健ㄧ直在做,滿ㄧ歲了還不會翻身
不會自己坐起來
但檢查結果一切正常
據我父母說,是外婆非常寵
ㄧ直抱著走來走去,所以寶寶沒動力自己動
然後雖然在媽媽堅持下有ㄧ直復健
但在家裡,外婆也是ㄧ直抱著
然後外婆天天唸說復健好麻煩不要做了
(媽媽不會開車 要外婆載)
也許寶寶已經聽得懂 覺得有靠山。
也許和原原po大寶一樣
被阿媽寵到什麼都不用自己做
我看過寶寶復健影片,
幾乎是看到復健室的器材都大哭
至於寶寶的爸爸 那又是另一段故事
總之婚姻已有名無實 只是在拖著
加上外婆很強勢 所以爸爸也無法介入太多
我爸媽也不好意思講什麼
何況我是晚輩
對了,我完全不方便介入的主因是
因為她們怕寶寶父親那邊的人爭監護權
(寶寶也是男孫、長孫)
所以她們ㄧ直異想天開,
要我把寶寶帶出國養
我住國外 天高皇帝遠 寶寶的爸爸找不到
總之很麻煩就對
--
原文43
先說現在噓為何要生二寶已經沒意義了
生都生了 要鼓勵原po往前/錢看
先穩住生活,好好辦妥離婚比較重要
傳統家庭很難放棄男孫
能救ㄧ個是ㄧ個
往好處想 夫家算有錢 又重視男孫
至少大寶的物質生活不會太差
但我沒有要原原po放棄哦
先「暫時」把大寶放在男方家
先把離婚辦好
把經濟穩住,把自己和二寶打理好再說
大寶暫時帶不出來沒關係
但ㄧ定要堅持行使探視權
例如每周末讓大寶和原原po相處
要小心,有些傳統的老人家會拒絕探視權
然後還會洗腦孫子說媽媽是壞女人
所以也許等律師出面
這樣至少大寶有時間和媽媽相處
能學多少是多少
然後要堅持大寶上幼稚園以及早療
這點可能比較棘手
很多上ㄧ輩的拒絕承認自己的「金孫」有問題
想到我娘家有類似的例子
娘家有個親人(女),有個一歲的寶寶
婚姻已經有名無實,名存實亡
媽媽和寶寶都住娘家
主要照顧者是外婆
外婆個性頗強勢,
媽媽的「工作」只有餵奶,還有在
外婆去煮飯洗衣、上廁所洗澡時短暫顧寶寶
寶寶早就有遲緩跡象
7、8個月時媽媽就很急
但外婆不肯承認寶寶有「可能」遲緩
覺得大雞晚啼 寶寶ㄧ定沒事
反正又拖了ㄧ陣 媽媽拼命爭取
外婆才驚驚事情不對。
才開始ㄧ連串檢查及復健
總之復健ㄧ直在做,滿ㄧ歲了還不會翻身
不會自己坐起來
但檢查結果一切正常
據我父母說,是外婆非常寵
ㄧ直抱著走來走去,所以寶寶沒動力自己動
然後雖然在媽媽堅持下有ㄧ直復健
但在家裡,外婆也是ㄧ直抱著
然後外婆天天唸說復健好麻煩不要做了
(媽媽不會開車 要外婆載)
也許寶寶已經聽得懂 覺得有靠山。
也許和原原po大寶一樣
被阿媽寵到什麼都不用自己做
我看過寶寶復健影片,
幾乎是看到復健室的器材都大哭
至於寶寶的爸爸 那又是另一段故事
總之婚姻已有名無實 只是在拖著
加上外婆很強勢 所以爸爸也無法介入太多
我爸媽也不好意思講什麼
何況我是晚輩
對了,我完全不方便介入的主因是
因為她們怕寶寶父親那邊的人爭監護權
(寶寶也是男孫、長孫)
所以她們ㄧ直異想天開,
要我把寶寶帶出國養
我住國外 天高皇帝遠 寶寶的爸爸找不到
總之很麻煩就對
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