婉拒 堅拒 婆婆的好意 還是 幫忙銷食物 - 婚姻
By Susan
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婚姻版首po,我知道我的問題真的很小咖,
但是真的不吐不快,不知道有沒有人和我一樣。
公婆人真的很好,但是他們很喜歡囤貨 & 煮菜煮一堆 & 買東西都不手軟
這次農曆中元大拜拜,我心裡就想「完蛋!一定買一堆」
結果我公公買米買4包,我婆婆買3-5包,白米糙米各半
水果是整箱整箱買,奇異果、水梨.....
餅乾、罐頭、三牲、整個就很澎派。
我們一家三口就回去幫忙拜拜,公婆看到孫子也是歡喜
但是每次事情都發生在我們要回家時(我們住台北、公婆住宜蘭),
婆婆很會盧,非常會盧,很喜歡塞一堆東西到我們家,
之前來我們家就帶一堆青菜水果,冰箱放不下之外,我們常常吃不完忍痛就丟了,
他的理由都是「到銷(台語)幫忙吃,不然他們兩個老的吃不完」
老實說,他們要給我們的東西也多到吃不完。
所以在之前有跟他們溝通過,既然都已經察覺吃不完就不要囤貨,
他們回應是,買一箱比較划算,例如 2顆100梨子,和一箱 18顆梨子1000,當然買一箱。
我和先生會幫忙吃但是,就是「拿我們需要的、拿得動的、冰得下的、吃得完的」
最主要是因為,我公婆自己也知道囤貨不對,也很困擾囤貨太多,
只是覺得我們會幫忙,所以把這個困擾轉給我們。
然後說「還不是因為你們愛吃,我才買這麼多」
天知道我們什麼都沒說,也沒說我們愛吃什麼、想買什麼都沒有。
但是昨天跟我婆婆在那裡盧來盧去,她一直要塞東西給我們,雞肉、米、罐頭、梨子
我就說「冰箱冰不下了、上週的蘋果都一點都還沒碰」
「雞肉家裡冰箱還有一隻」
等等理由婉拒
婆婆說「放冰箱不會壞」「放冰箱不會壞不會壞」
「你小姑的老公都不拒絕」
(其實他有拒絕,也常常拒絕這些吃的食品,婆婆只是呼嚨我)
盧到後來,我真的好累好累,因為懷孕 + 帶大寶 + 晚上睡不好
我說「媽媽,每次回來都要這樣揮來揮去,這樣我好累好累,
我們不是不帶,你再說我就什麼都不拿、什麼都不要了」
其實我心裡的 OS是「你乾脆再娶一個都不會拒絕的媳婦好了」
後來每次跟我先生討論這個話題,我先生都叫我直接說
「不要不要,我就是不要聽不懂嗎?你再說就好累,別再說了」
但是我真的覺得講到這樣,真的好累!
有人跟我一樣困擾嗎?
ps:我知道有人會建議我拿到台北送人,但是真的東西多到拿不動了。
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但是真的不吐不快,不知道有沒有人和我一樣。
公婆人真的很好,但是他們很喜歡囤貨 & 煮菜煮一堆 & 買東西都不手軟
這次農曆中元大拜拜,我心裡就想「完蛋!一定買一堆」
結果我公公買米買4包,我婆婆買3-5包,白米糙米各半
水果是整箱整箱買,奇異果、水梨.....
餅乾、罐頭、三牲、整個就很澎派。
我們一家三口就回去幫忙拜拜,公婆看到孫子也是歡喜
但是每次事情都發生在我們要回家時(我們住台北、公婆住宜蘭),
婆婆很會盧,非常會盧,很喜歡塞一堆東西到我們家,
之前來我們家就帶一堆青菜水果,冰箱放不下之外,我們常常吃不完忍痛就丟了,
他的理由都是「到銷(台語)幫忙吃,不然他們兩個老的吃不完」
老實說,他們要給我們的東西也多到吃不完。
所以在之前有跟他們溝通過,既然都已經察覺吃不完就不要囤貨,
他們回應是,買一箱比較划算,例如 2顆100梨子,和一箱 18顆梨子1000,當然買一箱。
我和先生會幫忙吃但是,就是「拿我們需要的、拿得動的、冰得下的、吃得完的」
最主要是因為,我公婆自己也知道囤貨不對,也很困擾囤貨太多,
只是覺得我們會幫忙,所以把這個困擾轉給我們。
然後說「還不是因為你們愛吃,我才買這麼多」
天知道我們什麼都沒說,也沒說我們愛吃什麼、想買什麼都沒有。
但是昨天跟我婆婆在那裡盧來盧去,她一直要塞東西給我們,雞肉、米、罐頭、梨子
我就說「冰箱冰不下了、上週的蘋果都一點都還沒碰」
「雞肉家裡冰箱還有一隻」
等等理由婉拒
婆婆說「放冰箱不會壞」「放冰箱不會壞不會壞」
「你小姑的老公都不拒絕」
(其實他有拒絕,也常常拒絕這些吃的食品,婆婆只是呼嚨我)
盧到後來,我真的好累好累,因為懷孕 + 帶大寶 + 晚上睡不好
我說「媽媽,每次回來都要這樣揮來揮去,這樣我好累好累,
我們不是不帶,你再說我就什麼都不拿、什麼都不要了」
其實我心裡的 OS是「你乾脆再娶一個都不會拒絕的媳婦好了」
後來每次跟我先生討論這個話題,我先生都叫我直接說
「不要不要,我就是不要聽不懂嗎?你再說就好累,別再說了」
但是我真的覺得講到這樣,真的好累!
有人跟我一樣困擾嗎?
ps:我知道有人會建議我拿到台北送人,但是真的東西多到拿不動了。
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