婆婆在登記結婚那天變了一個人 - 婚姻
By Agnes
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看了一陣子這個版的回文風格,我發現這邊的網友思想都非常負面
通常的建議就是要大家分手、離婚、衝突
這些都是受害者角色的觀點,弱者用這樣的理由,
將問題推給另一半,來逃避面對自己需要負責的功課。
關係不是有福同享,有難各自飛。
關係的存在是讓你展現你想成為的自己,無關乎別人為你做了什麼
當你放棄了關係,這行為定義的是自己的價值,而不是別人的價值
此外我注意這邊網友非常貶低丈夫的角色,我猜是發文者主要是女性,
所以婚姻狀況都是女方的觀點,造成男方被描述的相當惡劣。
但心理師都知道當事人的觀點都是片面的,每個人都只會說出對自己有利的一部分,
如果當事人的另一半也寫出他的觀點,絕對是完全不同的故事。
回到原PO的問題,我贊同email大大的觀點,
婆婆其實是喜歡這個媳婦,想把他當女兒來對待,但媳婦的一些行為令他失望,
我猜婆婆想要一位女性來跟他分享心情,原PO本應可以做到卻沒去做
婚禮的事情婆婆應該很難過,對於父母來說小孩結婚是一件很光榮的事情,
但這樣喜悅卻沒機會分享,讓他非常鬱悶。兒子已經很木頭了,結果媳婦也是這個樣
有可能婆婆的心裡如其他網友所說,婆婆認為兒子跟媳婦同一陣線來對抗自己,
於是他想要保護自己不被二人欺負,於是開始想把兒子拉回來,做出排擠媳婦的行為
婆婆對於媳婦還沒有足夠的信心,所以他的行為都是自然的反應,不需刻意批評
媳婦能做的事就是理解婆婆的行為,回去支持他、關心他
甚至一起批評老公的個性(放心這行為不會改變婆婆對兒子的愛)
讓婆婆再度接納媳婦,原PO到時會真的多了一個沒有血緣但愛你的媽
為什麼要這麼做呢?
取決於你覺得多一個愛人跟多一個敵人哪個對你的人生有利
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通常的建議就是要大家分手、離婚、衝突
這些都是受害者角色的觀點,弱者用這樣的理由,
將問題推給另一半,來逃避面對自己需要負責的功課。
關係不是有福同享,有難各自飛。
關係的存在是讓你展現你想成為的自己,無關乎別人為你做了什麼
當你放棄了關係,這行為定義的是自己的價值,而不是別人的價值
此外我注意這邊網友非常貶低丈夫的角色,我猜是發文者主要是女性,
所以婚姻狀況都是女方的觀點,造成男方被描述的相當惡劣。
但心理師都知道當事人的觀點都是片面的,每個人都只會說出對自己有利的一部分,
如果當事人的另一半也寫出他的觀點,絕對是完全不同的故事。
回到原PO的問題,我贊同email大大的觀點,
婆婆其實是喜歡這個媳婦,想把他當女兒來對待,但媳婦的一些行為令他失望,
我猜婆婆想要一位女性來跟他分享心情,原PO本應可以做到卻沒去做
婚禮的事情婆婆應該很難過,對於父母來說小孩結婚是一件很光榮的事情,
但這樣喜悅卻沒機會分享,讓他非常鬱悶。兒子已經很木頭了,結果媳婦也是這個樣
有可能婆婆的心裡如其他網友所說,婆婆認為兒子跟媳婦同一陣線來對抗自己,
於是他想要保護自己不被二人欺負,於是開始想把兒子拉回來,做出排擠媳婦的行為
婆婆對於媳婦還沒有足夠的信心,所以他的行為都是自然的反應,不需刻意批評
媳婦能做的事就是理解婆婆的行為,回去支持他、關心他
甚至一起批評老公的個性(放心這行為不會改變婆婆對兒子的愛)
讓婆婆再度接納媳婦,原PO到時會真的多了一個沒有血緣但愛你的媽
為什麼要這麼做呢?
取決於你覺得多一個愛人跟多一個敵人哪個對你的人生有利
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