奶奶如果過世 原本計畫好的行程 - 婚姻

By Andrew
at 2015-10-22T13:50
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恩 ...我是原po
沒想到大家討論的這麼熱絡
我可能需要解釋一下
雖然不一定有人聽得下去
之前有po文章說我們家庭血緣單薄
是真的
大家一起出去玩大概我爸過世後就再也沒有
應該有十幾年了
所以這次出國是我認為很重要可以修補彼此關係的一個點
至少在討論行程的過程中有跟我弟感覺關係好了一點 有個話題可以聊
因為我們家關係沒有很好(沒有交惡 只是不熟)
我跟很多親戚也很少往來
最好的就是我的外婆 因為她帶我們長大
其他人對我來說就無所謂 連外公也是一樣不熟
親戚就只是掛著名稱的陌生人
可能我不是一般人 想法也很奇怪
我有試著將心比心過了
如果今天是我最好最好的外婆過世
我老公正好要出國
老實說我還是會讓他出國
如果我媽說話 我會第一個直接幫他檔下來
不用浪費錢取消或延期 回來再奔喪就好了
人都過世了 又何必要造成誰的麻煩
不過看了推文
我想大家會說 我身分不一樣 我是長孫媳婦
不能拿來比較
好吧 這邊我就不討論將心比心的部分了
因為我沒有那個一樣的心可以比
比出來的狀況也跟一般人不一樣
而老公跟奶奶的感情其實普通
因為他是阿皺帶大的
奶奶是屬於比較做自己的老人家
不是傳統的老人
所以跟阿鄒比起來沒有這麼好
但畢竟是自己爸爸的媽媽 也是從小看著自己長大的長輩 多少有感情在
有人說我跟奶奶熟不熟不是重點 是要支持另一半走下去才是the point
我覺得這句話有點到我
但是我老公需要我支持的不是他的心靈
他只是不想被親戚說閒話 也希望我不要被他們親戚黑掉
如果是親戚這種事情我真的不再乎
但是我老公在乎
所以我會再想想的
對了 奶奶其實還沒離開 急救過後有穩定了
只是很容易又有突發狀況
距離我出國還有半個月
我們只是做最壞的打算
我如果延期了 但是奶奶沒事 那....就可喜可賀
但如果變成我後來延期的那段時間離開不就很......?
或是 他在我出國前一天 離開了 那...?
如果是我出國期間離開....?
因為很多不確定的因素
我也只是先上來問問
謝謝大家熱心的回答
因為家庭關係一直以來都很做自己
要說自私也好 白目也好
我很少需要顧慮其他人 也沒有再care禮數的
但是結婚後真的無法像以前一樣
做自己 好自在
可能以後還有好多雞毛蒜皮的事情需要大家幫忙解惑
請各位不吝指教
目前的狀況就是走一步算一步
先跟家人說好如果我真的無法去 他們要怎樣自己旅行
如果真的出國前一天兩天奶奶離開了 那我就應該就會取消不去了
總之謝謝各位囉
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