哪做月子以及花費 - 婚姻
By Andy
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at 2012-12-07T12:12
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其實我想很久要不要回文,很擔心我又會有一些嚇到人的言論變成引戰=.=
不過有些版友對我們夫妻倆的恣意猜測讓我很不舒服,所以我想跳出來再稍稍解釋一下
1.原文的內容完全是"我"依據跟父母以及公婆的對話,再想他們希望我怎麼做
是我的想法.猜測.小腦袋瓜裏亂想的可能情形.畫面等等,
跟我老公一點關係都沒有,甚至也還沒提出跟他討論過
罵我就算了,罵到他,我覺得很對不起認真負責的老公
2.我現在真的不知道當時我在想什麼,怎麼會提到大伯~
我們夫妻倆生兒育女當然跟他無關,
提到薪水,不是在覬覦婆家的財富,也不是說我們夫妻倆都不用負責小孩的花費.
我的意思只是要說他們有三份收入,我娘家只有一份,如此而已,請不要再妄自猜測
3.我們不是先有後婚,我娘家這邊完全不能接受這種事,所以我也有跟老公說過
不能用搞大肚子這招來娶我=.=
4.所謂的摳摳所剩無幾,是指手頭上流動的現金不多,投資的儲蓄的不計
真到用錢時再去把基金贖回,股票賣一賣就有啦~
而月子中心在比價過後發現高過預算,所以放棄
為啥我同事說五萬,而我看到的都是八萬到十二萬的報價=.=
5.我媽以前想幫我坐月子帶小孩,現在不想,很可能是他看到我阿姨還有他的朋友幫忙帶孫
帶的又累又開心,時間又被孫兒綁住,所以才不想的吧~
保母費的問題我們有談過,媽媽說一萬五,婆婆說兩萬,都是一個月計~
6.婆婆沒有不想幫我坐月子,她只是擔心她煮的不好吃.不營養
而且她以過來人的身分幫我想,覺得女兒還是會比較想回娘家坐月子,如此而已
她說過不管我想回娘家還是在婆家甚至在月子中心,她都支持
我公婆真的對我很好
7.為什麼都沒提到自己的收入?
因為遠嫁他鄉,所以工作辭了,工作還沒找到就發現自己懷孕了@@"
而我很老實的在面試時告訴雇主懷孕的事實,自然被打槍啦~
也因為前期害喜嚴重,跟老公商量後暫時先做家庭主婦了QQ
很多支出就算你沒收入也要繼續繳的,所以我現在一直用之前的積蓄
我不用負責給婆家家用,但我還是有拿錢回娘家,媽媽一直說不用給
我說只要我還負擔的起,我會繼續給,媽媽才放心收的
朋友說你現在沒工作應該要跟你先生拿零用錢啊!
但我覺得口袋還有,為什麼要跟他拿? 而且我們出門不管大小花費都是他出,我覺得夠了
8.在眾版友批評地沸沸揚揚的同時,我也問了身邊的其他友人
現在比較會考慮送月子餐的選項
9.希望大家不要再對此討論串有其他的臆測,再次感謝眾版友批評指教
有大家的批評指教才會發現自己考慮不周全的地方,進而改善
再一次感謝!!
※ 引述《qormp2 (全家都愛coffee)》之銘言:
: 去哪坐月子?不是很簡單嘛?幹嘛來板上問?
: 因為....
: 本來親愛的老公有考慮月子中心的選項,後來結婚以及蜜月之後,夫妻倆摳摳所剩無幾,
: 所以打消念頭
: 回娘家坐月子呀!
: 在我還是少女,根本還沒交過男友的時代,大概是國高中吧?
: 親愛的老媽一直幻想幫我坐月子
: 但結婚後....
: 母:你婆婆又沒工作,當然是她幫你坐月子帶小孩呀!
: 那在婆家坐月子囉!
: 說真的,要吃啥不想吃啥都不好意思開口,而且婆家口味上跟娘家有些不同
: 可以接受但就是有差
: 而且婆婆都說了:女兒應該比較想回娘家坐月子吧?想吃什麼比較敢說,而且我不太會煮
: 其實婆婆有說到我的心聲,也講出她的缺點,似乎也默默的說出他希望我回娘家坐月子?
: 所以上次回娘家,我就跟我媽提了這件事,但也沒叫她一定要幫我坐月子
: 現在假設一個情況,我回娘家坐月子了
: 那月子期間的花費該由哪方支出?
: 我的想法是婆家...因為婆家有三份薪水的收入(公公.大伯.老公)
: 娘家只有爸爸一份收入,還要養兩個還在唸書的弟弟&媽媽
: 也不希望女兒都嫁出去了,還一直吃娘家...(個人感覺)
: 只是我要怎麼開口比較好?還是我這種想法是不對的?先謝謝各位版友指教
--
不過有些版友對我們夫妻倆的恣意猜測讓我很不舒服,所以我想跳出來再稍稍解釋一下
1.原文的內容完全是"我"依據跟父母以及公婆的對話,再想他們希望我怎麼做
是我的想法.猜測.小腦袋瓜裏亂想的可能情形.畫面等等,
跟我老公一點關係都沒有,甚至也還沒提出跟他討論過
罵我就算了,罵到他,我覺得很對不起認真負責的老公
2.我現在真的不知道當時我在想什麼,怎麼會提到大伯~
我們夫妻倆生兒育女當然跟他無關,
提到薪水,不是在覬覦婆家的財富,也不是說我們夫妻倆都不用負責小孩的花費.
我的意思只是要說他們有三份收入,我娘家只有一份,如此而已,請不要再妄自猜測
3.我們不是先有後婚,我娘家這邊完全不能接受這種事,所以我也有跟老公說過
不能用搞大肚子這招來娶我=.=
4.所謂的摳摳所剩無幾,是指手頭上流動的現金不多,投資的儲蓄的不計
真到用錢時再去把基金贖回,股票賣一賣就有啦~
而月子中心在比價過後發現高過預算,所以放棄
為啥我同事說五萬,而我看到的都是八萬到十二萬的報價=.=
5.我媽以前想幫我坐月子帶小孩,現在不想,很可能是他看到我阿姨還有他的朋友幫忙帶孫
帶的又累又開心,時間又被孫兒綁住,所以才不想的吧~
保母費的問題我們有談過,媽媽說一萬五,婆婆說兩萬,都是一個月計~
6.婆婆沒有不想幫我坐月子,她只是擔心她煮的不好吃.不營養
而且她以過來人的身分幫我想,覺得女兒還是會比較想回娘家坐月子,如此而已
她說過不管我想回娘家還是在婆家甚至在月子中心,她都支持
我公婆真的對我很好
7.為什麼都沒提到自己的收入?
因為遠嫁他鄉,所以工作辭了,工作還沒找到就發現自己懷孕了@@"
而我很老實的在面試時告訴雇主懷孕的事實,自然被打槍啦~
也因為前期害喜嚴重,跟老公商量後暫時先做家庭主婦了QQ
很多支出就算你沒收入也要繼續繳的,所以我現在一直用之前的積蓄
我不用負責給婆家家用,但我還是有拿錢回娘家,媽媽一直說不用給
我說只要我還負擔的起,我會繼續給,媽媽才放心收的
朋友說你現在沒工作應該要跟你先生拿零用錢啊!
但我覺得口袋還有,為什麼要跟他拿? 而且我們出門不管大小花費都是他出,我覺得夠了
8.在眾版友批評地沸沸揚揚的同時,我也問了身邊的其他友人
現在比較會考慮送月子餐的選項
9.希望大家不要再對此討論串有其他的臆測,再次感謝眾版友批評指教
有大家的批評指教才會發現自己考慮不周全的地方,進而改善
再一次感謝!!
※ 引述《qormp2 (全家都愛coffee)》之銘言:
: 去哪坐月子?不是很簡單嘛?幹嘛來板上問?
: 因為....
: 本來親愛的老公有考慮月子中心的選項,後來結婚以及蜜月之後,夫妻倆摳摳所剩無幾,
: 所以打消念頭
: 回娘家坐月子呀!
: 在我還是少女,根本還沒交過男友的時代,大概是國高中吧?
: 親愛的老媽一直幻想幫我坐月子
: 但結婚後....
: 母:你婆婆又沒工作,當然是她幫你坐月子帶小孩呀!
: 那在婆家坐月子囉!
: 說真的,要吃啥不想吃啥都不好意思開口,而且婆家口味上跟娘家有些不同
: 可以接受但就是有差
: 而且婆婆都說了:女兒應該比較想回娘家坐月子吧?想吃什麼比較敢說,而且我不太會煮
: 其實婆婆有說到我的心聲,也講出她的缺點,似乎也默默的說出他希望我回娘家坐月子?
: 所以上次回娘家,我就跟我媽提了這件事,但也沒叫她一定要幫我坐月子
: 現在假設一個情況,我回娘家坐月子了
: 那月子期間的花費該由哪方支出?
: 我的想法是婆家...因為婆家有三份薪水的收入(公公.大伯.老公)
: 娘家只有爸爸一份收入,還要養兩個還在唸書的弟弟&媽媽
: 也不希望女兒都嫁出去了,還一直吃娘家...(個人感覺)
: 只是我要怎麼開口比較好?還是我這種想法是不對的?先謝謝各位版友指教
--
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