合理的孝親費? - 婚姻
By Andrew
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※ 引述《masi (匈奴未滅,何以家為)》之銘言:
: 另一半月薪約6萬,加獎金年薪約150萬。
: 房貸一個月約3萬,最近打算買第二台車,預算150萬。
: 今天另一半跟我說,他娘說要跟他要孝親費,一個月3萬。
: 請問這樣的收支,一個月給3萬算是合理價位嗎?
: 我們並未與他娘同住,小孩也沒有給他帶。
: 我是覺得3萬有點多。
: 請問這種狀況,一個月應該給多少算是在行情內呢?
對不起,看到這種文章,我很想發表我的想法...
其實我不能理解:
為什麼會有爸媽自己開口跟自己的小孩拿孝親費?
我個人自有在工作開始,我爸從來沒有因為我有賺錢,就跟我拿任何錢,有時要給他錢,
過年包紅包,他都會再把錢還給我
而我自己從小到大的觀念是:年輕時要努力,絕對不要到老了還拖累家人拖累小孩,而且
也絕對不要跟小孩拿錢,小孩長大了,有自己的人生要走,有自己的家庭要顧,不要帶給
小孩負擔
這或許在多數人的觀念裡,是非常自私的想法,但是在國外,小孩成年後,爸媽根本不管
他們,甚至把他們趕出去生活,我覺得這樣是對的,
而且爸媽把我們生下來、養到成年,這都是責任,因為那是他們的選擇,選擇要生要養
當小孩有自主能力後,爸媽就沒有義務要養我們了,我們應該要靠自己,做任何事自己負
責,也不能再跟爸媽要錢
但是現在我們還是處於上一代跟這一代下一代的中間,思想在傳統與前衛中矛盾
所以呢!
第一:那是原PO老公的爸媽,所以只有你老公可以決定或覺得這孝親費給多或給少,就算
他爸媽開3萬,我們也不能怪他們,因為或許他們有上一代的想法:養兒防老
第二:你們該想的是,當你老公長大成人後,是不是還是住家裡吃他爸媽的用他爸媽的,
如果是,他們養你長大了,本該有自己的生活,卻還在照顧你老公,為你老公費心思,那
你老公憑什麼不給孝親費?
希望發這篇不會被噓,哈
因為最近也跟閃光在討論這話題,結果沒想到他居然給我說:他的想法就是覺得自己老了
,小孩也應該要養他...
囧
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: 另一半月薪約6萬,加獎金年薪約150萬。
: 房貸一個月約3萬,最近打算買第二台車,預算150萬。
: 今天另一半跟我說,他娘說要跟他要孝親費,一個月3萬。
: 請問這樣的收支,一個月給3萬算是合理價位嗎?
: 我們並未與他娘同住,小孩也沒有給他帶。
: 我是覺得3萬有點多。
: 請問這種狀況,一個月應該給多少算是在行情內呢?
對不起,看到這種文章,我很想發表我的想法...
其實我不能理解:
為什麼會有爸媽自己開口跟自己的小孩拿孝親費?
我個人自有在工作開始,我爸從來沒有因為我有賺錢,就跟我拿任何錢,有時要給他錢,
過年包紅包,他都會再把錢還給我
而我自己從小到大的觀念是:年輕時要努力,絕對不要到老了還拖累家人拖累小孩,而且
也絕對不要跟小孩拿錢,小孩長大了,有自己的人生要走,有自己的家庭要顧,不要帶給
小孩負擔
這或許在多數人的觀念裡,是非常自私的想法,但是在國外,小孩成年後,爸媽根本不管
他們,甚至把他們趕出去生活,我覺得這樣是對的,
而且爸媽把我們生下來、養到成年,這都是責任,因為那是他們的選擇,選擇要生要養
當小孩有自主能力後,爸媽就沒有義務要養我們了,我們應該要靠自己,做任何事自己負
責,也不能再跟爸媽要錢
但是現在我們還是處於上一代跟這一代下一代的中間,思想在傳統與前衛中矛盾
所以呢!
第一:那是原PO老公的爸媽,所以只有你老公可以決定或覺得這孝親費給多或給少,就算
他爸媽開3萬,我們也不能怪他們,因為或許他們有上一代的想法:養兒防老
第二:你們該想的是,當你老公長大成人後,是不是還是住家裡吃他爸媽的用他爸媽的,
如果是,他們養你長大了,本該有自己的生活,卻還在照顧你老公,為你老公費心思,那
你老公憑什麼不給孝親費?
希望發這篇不會被噓,哈
因為最近也跟閃光在討論這話題,結果沒想到他居然給我說:他的想法就是覺得自己老了
,小孩也應該要養他...
囧
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