公主病小姑 - 婚姻
By Joe
at 2013-04-26T22:27
at 2013-04-26T22:27
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原本不想回的,但看到很多人的意見
我想把目前的決定跟大家說明
我一開始發文純屬發洩,一開始也說明了我知道自己也有不對的地方
我不開心的點一直不是再我有多討厭我小姑
我跟我小姑年紀很近,所以我反而是能理解17歲的想法
但因為不熟,所以很多話不能直接講
需要透過我老公去幫忙做中間的傳話
而我從頭到尾是不開心我老公那天的講法
"聽聽就好,不用當真"這句話讓我很不愉快
我把我們一切婚禮看很重,所以一定都要是處理好的
而妹妹他說話不算話,讓我們很難處理
因為伴娘都是我朋友,衣服size好處理,但妹妹不參與討論,臨時不來
讓我們進度無法繼續,我不能幫他買衣服,也不知道他對伴娘禮服的花樣是否喜歡
(禮服造型為所有伴娘一起討論投票決定,所以我們需要他的意見)
我生氣的是,身為哥哥,又是新郎,怎麼可以不去勸勸妹妹,跟妹妹談
反而來怪我相信了他妹的話??
還有我兒子的事情,所有人都有跟妹妹講過,但他還是會這樣
還有有人說我兒子的哭聲讓他不能讀書?
他目前沒有要升學的樣子...所以這才是我擔心的
如果他沒繼續升學,也沒去工作,那我之後跟他相處的時間更長
我更希望跟她好好相處
我也知道她年紀小,在家父母疼,茶來伸手飯來張口
但我沒有必要做他的奴隸,伺候他一切
已輩分來說,我也是他的同輩...我還要照顧孩子
17歲其實也懂很多了吧?不是嗎?
有人說,我應該要謙卑一點,都拿婆家娘家的
請問從哪裡看到我不謙卑了?
關於我小姑自己要一桌朋友來的事情
看來全部人都不覺得怪...可能是我自己想太多
但我還是要說我的想法
我父母的朋友 曾經包過禮的回禮,或是來應酬都無所謂,因為他們是"父母"的朋友
我公婆的朋友 也同上
但"小姑" 的朋友 是跟我們新人豪無關係...
我公婆也不認識他們,我們夫妻倆也不認識
所以會導致,小姑一定要去招呼他們...
(鄉民說不要讓小姑做事,好好的個花瓶就好,這樣真的辦法)
一群17歲的孩子(冠上你們說的,不懂事是很正常的想法)
是否有可能會開始自顧自的玩樂起來,會不會有可能影響到我們婚禮進行??
我跟我先生以後回禮...要怎麼辦??
照你們的意思,一群不認識的人來很正常
我也懂,可是問題是在於...這種感覺很像是...
你表姊說"你的婚禮我可以請一桌的朋友去嗎?桌錢我們會自己出...."
感覺很像純來聚餐的...
(我也不會解釋,就是父母的朋友ok,因為他們是生我養我的人,我結婚他們請朋友來
祝福參與很正常,但同輩的兄弟姐妹請一桌朋友來,你會不知所措...)
還有有人說"新娘最大" 我反對
但我認為是"新人最大" 父母公婆的意見要聽,該做的要做
但整體來說,這對新人才是重點吧?....
如果不是這樣的話,父母親自己辦個場子請朋友吃吃飯就好啦
妹妹自己約同學下課去吃飯不就好了?
重點是要讓大家知道,孩子長大了成家了
你同學約你們一群朋友去參加他哥哥的婚禮,不彆扭嗎??
純粹去抽捧花,拿禮物,拿吃喜糖??
喔!!對了!!
看了大家的推文,我們想了很多
婚禮目前講好,全部暫停,婚紗照也都先不拍了
因為我們覺得,沒有共同的想法
加上有人總是 隨便說說,聽聽就好
那我們也都先暫停,好好的討論出婚禮應該要怎麼弄
畢竟,每個女孩都希望有夢幻的婚禮
都有個夢想,
那不急,等一切都到了時機再說吧!!
反正遲一些、晚一些,也不會影響我們現在的生活
overhead 什麼叫我們搞出的攤子?
結婚生小孩對你來說是一件爛攤子?是嗎?
麻煩到兩家人? 對你來說,多個孩子,多個生命很麻煩?是嗎?
對於我們兩家人看待我跟我先生的一切,都是喜悅的
如果你的家人是這樣覺得你的話...那我就把你的話當作是你自己的經歷了!
我想你誤會我們兩家人的想法了!!
還有,事情就到這裡結束
我一開始發文就有說過,我只是想抱怨一下...
因為很多話是不能跟週遭的人抱怨的
事情也處理好了,謝謝大家
不管是祝福還是謾罵,我也都接受了
本來事情就是會有兩面的
或許我也沒站在別人的角度看事情
所以才會有這樣的後果
所以一切都先緩一緩
至少現在一切都還很美好
如果因為婚禮的事情搞的不開心也不好
等我們都想清楚後,再讓大家來祝福不是更好嗎?
浪費大家時間,不好意思....
還有我真的沒有討厭我小姑的意思
只是我太在乎我們的婚禮了!!
--
我想把目前的決定跟大家說明
我一開始發文純屬發洩,一開始也說明了我知道自己也有不對的地方
我不開心的點一直不是再我有多討厭我小姑
我跟我小姑年紀很近,所以我反而是能理解17歲的想法
但因為不熟,所以很多話不能直接講
需要透過我老公去幫忙做中間的傳話
而我從頭到尾是不開心我老公那天的講法
"聽聽就好,不用當真"這句話讓我很不愉快
我把我們一切婚禮看很重,所以一定都要是處理好的
而妹妹他說話不算話,讓我們很難處理
因為伴娘都是我朋友,衣服size好處理,但妹妹不參與討論,臨時不來
讓我們進度無法繼續,我不能幫他買衣服,也不知道他對伴娘禮服的花樣是否喜歡
(禮服造型為所有伴娘一起討論投票決定,所以我們需要他的意見)
我生氣的是,身為哥哥,又是新郎,怎麼可以不去勸勸妹妹,跟妹妹談
反而來怪我相信了他妹的話??
還有我兒子的事情,所有人都有跟妹妹講過,但他還是會這樣
還有有人說我兒子的哭聲讓他不能讀書?
他目前沒有要升學的樣子...所以這才是我擔心的
如果他沒繼續升學,也沒去工作,那我之後跟他相處的時間更長
我更希望跟她好好相處
我也知道她年紀小,在家父母疼,茶來伸手飯來張口
但我沒有必要做他的奴隸,伺候他一切
已輩分來說,我也是他的同輩...我還要照顧孩子
17歲其實也懂很多了吧?不是嗎?
有人說,我應該要謙卑一點,都拿婆家娘家的
請問從哪裡看到我不謙卑了?
關於我小姑自己要一桌朋友來的事情
看來全部人都不覺得怪...可能是我自己想太多
但我還是要說我的想法
我父母的朋友 曾經包過禮的回禮,或是來應酬都無所謂,因為他們是"父母"的朋友
我公婆的朋友 也同上
但"小姑" 的朋友 是跟我們新人豪無關係...
我公婆也不認識他們,我們夫妻倆也不認識
所以會導致,小姑一定要去招呼他們...
(鄉民說不要讓小姑做事,好好的個花瓶就好,這樣真的辦法)
一群17歲的孩子(冠上你們說的,不懂事是很正常的想法)
是否有可能會開始自顧自的玩樂起來,會不會有可能影響到我們婚禮進行??
我跟我先生以後回禮...要怎麼辦??
照你們的意思,一群不認識的人來很正常
我也懂,可是問題是在於...這種感覺很像是...
你表姊說"你的婚禮我可以請一桌的朋友去嗎?桌錢我們會自己出...."
感覺很像純來聚餐的...
(我也不會解釋,就是父母的朋友ok,因為他們是生我養我的人,我結婚他們請朋友來
祝福參與很正常,但同輩的兄弟姐妹請一桌朋友來,你會不知所措...)
還有有人說"新娘最大" 我反對
但我認為是"新人最大" 父母公婆的意見要聽,該做的要做
但整體來說,這對新人才是重點吧?....
如果不是這樣的話,父母親自己辦個場子請朋友吃吃飯就好啦
妹妹自己約同學下課去吃飯不就好了?
重點是要讓大家知道,孩子長大了成家了
你同學約你們一群朋友去參加他哥哥的婚禮,不彆扭嗎??
純粹去抽捧花,拿禮物,拿吃喜糖??
喔!!對了!!
看了大家的推文,我們想了很多
婚禮目前講好,全部暫停,婚紗照也都先不拍了
因為我們覺得,沒有共同的想法
加上有人總是 隨便說說,聽聽就好
那我們也都先暫停,好好的討論出婚禮應該要怎麼弄
畢竟,每個女孩都希望有夢幻的婚禮
都有個夢想,
那不急,等一切都到了時機再說吧!!
反正遲一些、晚一些,也不會影響我們現在的生活
overhead 什麼叫我們搞出的攤子?
結婚生小孩對你來說是一件爛攤子?是嗎?
麻煩到兩家人? 對你來說,多個孩子,多個生命很麻煩?是嗎?
對於我們兩家人看待我跟我先生的一切,都是喜悅的
如果你的家人是這樣覺得你的話...那我就把你的話當作是你自己的經歷了!
我想你誤會我們兩家人的想法了!!
還有,事情就到這裡結束
我一開始發文就有說過,我只是想抱怨一下...
因為很多話是不能跟週遭的人抱怨的
事情也處理好了,謝謝大家
不管是祝福還是謾罵,我也都接受了
本來事情就是會有兩面的
或許我也沒站在別人的角度看事情
所以才會有這樣的後果
所以一切都先緩一緩
至少現在一切都還很美好
如果因為婚禮的事情搞的不開心也不好
等我們都想清楚後,再讓大家來祝福不是更好嗎?
浪費大家時間,不好意思....
還有我真的沒有討厭我小姑的意思
只是我太在乎我們的婚禮了!!
--
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