住在婆家的魯蛇 - 婚姻
By Brianna
at 2019-05-22T15:08
at 2019-05-22T15:08
Table of Contents
是否同意記者抄文:NO
在版上發問了關於住在婆家的一些問題
從網友給予的回應中反思
除了說我老公軟、建議離婚(?)
我覺得太極端
對於為什麼不搬家的這點,突然感受很深
我目前在某學校當助理35k
因為有接送小孩的需求,工作可以準時上下班
請假比較彈性,所以暫時沒有考量轉換跑道
目前進修碩士學位中
順利的話明年可以完成論文
應該可以加薪3k-5k還不確定
老公因為朋友的引薦去年跳槽到某公司當業務
底薪跟我一樣35k,但年薪就是靠個人業績
引薦他的朋友做了五年,平均年薪120~150萬
老公去年底到職,三個月的業績獎金領12萬(不含底薪)
但如果沒有業績,基本上就是只有底薪這樣
老公是么子,因為種種理由目前住在婆家:
公公不希望兒子搬走
其他兄弟姊妹都已結婚離家
家裡有四房,婆婆認為只剩兩老住
感覺被拋棄
婆婆目前幫忙帶1.5y的小孩
所以如果要搬家還要考量接送
公公擺明說這間房子要留給老公
要我們不要存錢買房想那些有的沒的
但考量到大女兒明年即將入小學
需要自己的空間
且同住的問題難免一堆
讓我在邊看房(租屋、買房)時
突然覺得自己似乎是下游人生
我們一直都有在規劃買房
但是也不是說要買就會突然跑出條件適合的房子阿
娘家在台北市,婆家在新北
和老公的工作也都在雙北
的確依現在的能力要買雙北不靠家裡有點吃力
但實在不想再跟媽媽開口
也不太可能為了搬家
就搬到我們完全不熟的其他縣市
原生家庭不能說是有錢,但是沒有經濟壓力
爸媽是對兒女無私奉獻型
從學生到成家,都沒有讓我有過經濟煩惱
很多支出都是他們默默付掉,也不願意收錢
生二寶的時候我們開始看車
原本想要部分貸款,不想把所有存款一次投入
媽媽聽到我要貸款,直接說他先付
之後再還給他就好
因此欠了媽媽9x萬,但後來他也不收
我很感謝我爸媽
但是這樣讓我覺得自己非常魯
也因為這樣,跟老公也是會有爭執
如果沒有我們雙方的後援
現在的我們根本就是屁
但是他認為他明明有在努力
(換工作,換了一個有挑戰的工作)
但並不是年過30的我們
想換跑道就可以隨便換
我沒有要自我安慰,我知道自己35k也很魯
對於有些網友回應的
"老公那麼軟還敢嫁甚至生兩個?"
坦言,沒有小孩前,很多問題都沒有
可能也不覺得是問題
一開始沒有想到住在一起會有那麼多的問題
也不知道一開始沒有搬,現在會那麼困難
但人生不能重來,小孩不能塞回去
發問是因為不希望婚姻內一遇到問題
就走極端的離婚方法
而最重要的是,老公也有在努力
雖然可能並不是那麼完美
說了那麼多,只是想表達
我們都還想為家庭、小孩努力
但我真心想說
單身真好。
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