不辦婚禮 如何顧全長輩禮數? - 婚姻
By Joseph
at 2013-01-18T04:52
at 2013-01-18T04:52
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※ 引述《CD133 (迷思)》之銘言:
: 我很古板,覺得要辦婚禮。
: 年輕人的確都很有主張跟想法,
: 喜歡隨性、自由、簡單
: 不喜歡拘束、限制、麻煩
: 婚禮也不過就是讓長輩出出風頭,卻硬要我們跟一些不熟的人打躬作揖。
: 傳統的禮俗讓人頭皮發麻,虛情假意的恭賀還要在背後抱怨菜色不好。
: 其實不辦婚禮對於有些人來說真的沒什麼關係。
: 當初辦婚禮前我也覺得好麻煩,總希望能省就省(麻煩)。
: 但是當我默默的在旁邊看著媽媽開心的跟眾人討論著要邀請誰,
: 臉上幸福的笑容、開心的神情,加上一整晚大家都熱熱鬧鬧的,
: 突然讓我覺得婚禮是辦對了。
: 從小到大我從沒做過甚麼事能夠讓老媽覺得驕傲又開心的,
我要逆風向發文 :(
我人在美國,去過或聽過的美國人的婚禮(習俗是女方出錢辦婚禮)
大部份都是聽新娘在抱怨自己的的媽媽意見一大堆,
從禮服,主題顏色,菜單,蛋糕,地點啥的,什麼都要出意見。
新娘跟自己媽媽吵,吵完後還要跟新郎溝通,累得要死,
累得要死又花一堆錢(美國辦婚禮是鐵定虧錢,幾萬美金就這樣丟到水裡去)
結果連捧花要什麼花,伴娘要穿什麼顏色的衣服都不能選。
雖然他們辦婚禮大部分是請新人的好朋友而已啦~
(因為請越多人會虧越多錢)
但常常聽新娘說,感覺婚禮都是給自己老媽圓一個婚禮的夢而已。
甚至還聽新娘說過,等她女兒辦婚禮要她出錢時,
她一定要選紫色,才不會像她媽媽一樣沒品味選粉紅色! = =!
聽起來就是宿命的輪迴啊!
我的意思只是想說,
當長輩的,如果真的愛子女,就該學會尊重。
年輕人不想辦,長輩可以溝通自己的想法,但最終,這還是別人的婚禮啊!
如果年輕人想辦,那也該讓他們自己決定要聽多少“習俗”作多少事。
為什麼一定要拿別人都怎樣怎樣,
來逼自己愛的子女作一件他們不想作的事?
如果他們不作,又要搞得自己很悲苦子女不孝,這不就是情緒勒索嗎?
當然我不是說 CD133 的父母或岳父母是這樣。
在這個例子裡,皆大歡喜自然是很好。
我的重點只是,
不想辦婚禮的,不要因為看了 CD 大的美滿結局,
就覺得自己不想辦婚禮是不孝的,父母不開心都是自己的錯。
僅此而已。
--
: 我很古板,覺得要辦婚禮。
: 年輕人的確都很有主張跟想法,
: 喜歡隨性、自由、簡單
: 不喜歡拘束、限制、麻煩
: 婚禮也不過就是讓長輩出出風頭,卻硬要我們跟一些不熟的人打躬作揖。
: 傳統的禮俗讓人頭皮發麻,虛情假意的恭賀還要在背後抱怨菜色不好。
: 其實不辦婚禮對於有些人來說真的沒什麼關係。
: 當初辦婚禮前我也覺得好麻煩,總希望能省就省(麻煩)。
: 但是當我默默的在旁邊看著媽媽開心的跟眾人討論著要邀請誰,
: 臉上幸福的笑容、開心的神情,加上一整晚大家都熱熱鬧鬧的,
: 突然讓我覺得婚禮是辦對了。
: 從小到大我從沒做過甚麼事能夠讓老媽覺得驕傲又開心的,
我要逆風向發文 :(
我人在美國,去過或聽過的美國人的婚禮(習俗是女方出錢辦婚禮)
大部份都是聽新娘在抱怨自己的的媽媽意見一大堆,
從禮服,主題顏色,菜單,蛋糕,地點啥的,什麼都要出意見。
新娘跟自己媽媽吵,吵完後還要跟新郎溝通,累得要死,
累得要死又花一堆錢(美國辦婚禮是鐵定虧錢,幾萬美金就這樣丟到水裡去)
結果連捧花要什麼花,伴娘要穿什麼顏色的衣服都不能選。
雖然他們辦婚禮大部分是請新人的好朋友而已啦~
(因為請越多人會虧越多錢)
但常常聽新娘說,感覺婚禮都是給自己老媽圓一個婚禮的夢而已。
甚至還聽新娘說過,等她女兒辦婚禮要她出錢時,
她一定要選紫色,才不會像她媽媽一樣沒品味選粉紅色! = =!
聽起來就是宿命的輪迴啊!
我的意思只是想說,
當長輩的,如果真的愛子女,就該學會尊重。
年輕人不想辦,長輩可以溝通自己的想法,但最終,這還是別人的婚禮啊!
如果年輕人想辦,那也該讓他們自己決定要聽多少“習俗”作多少事。
為什麼一定要拿別人都怎樣怎樣,
來逼自己愛的子女作一件他們不想作的事?
如果他們不作,又要搞得自己很悲苦子女不孝,這不就是情緒勒索嗎?
當然我不是說 CD133 的父母或岳父母是這樣。
在這個例子裡,皆大歡喜自然是很好。
我的重點只是,
不想辦婚禮的,不要因為看了 CD 大的美滿結局,
就覺得自己不想辦婚禮是不孝的,父母不開心都是自己的錯。
僅此而已。
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