不知道該怎麼讓父母離婚 - 婚姻
By Dorothy
at 2013-01-06T12:28
at 2013-01-06T12:28
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是以很沉重的心情以及真的不知道該怎麼辦,才希望詢問大家的意見
文章有點長,重點部分我會標顏色 >"<
我先大概交代一下背景
他們是相親認識三個月結婚,結婚前我媽覺得我爸文質彬彬(不多話)不菸不酒
但沒想到一結婚之後就風雲變色,抽菸喝酒賭博、理財不當、無法溝通
舉幾個例子
例一:我媽結婚後,她每天想跟我爸分享工作的喜怒哀樂
我爸就一句話:「妳工作上的所有事情都不要跟我說」
其實不只工作上,我媽想跟我爸討論很多事我爸都拒絕溝通
我媽覺得,沒辦法分享生活瑣事怎麼相互扶持呢?
(很多類似的小事,都讓我媽覺得莫名其妙)
(而且我媽懷孕後他們就分房睡了)
例二:我小時候在外發燒,我媽打給我爸希望他載我們去看醫生
結果我爸不願意,我媽回家後發現我爸在家和年輕小男生喝酒賭博玩樂
我媽很生氣,說我爸不顧小孩死活,她想乾脆離婚好了(隨口說)
我爸就立刻衝進廚房拿著菜刀說:「妳敢離婚,我把妳們全家都殺了」
最後是我媽、我外公外婆和娘家的人全部跑來,跪在地上求,我爸才放下菜刀
自從那次,我媽每天睡覺都在枕頭下藏著一把刀,每天以淚洗面
例三:我小時候我們家出門玩回來,當晚我爸莫名其妙跟我媽說
「我知道妳上班時有跟男同事糾纏不清,我都有找徵信社調查得清清楚楚」
但重點是我媽根本完全沒有做出任何事情,我媽覺得我爸是不是有病
總之很多類似的事情,只舉出三個例子,但就是因為這些事情
讓我媽一直活在我爸的陰影下,想離婚離不了(怕家人有生命危險)
後來因為種種原因,兩人分居了,我是跟媽媽住。
我從小到大,20多年來,教育費、補習費、生活費都是我媽一個人負擔的
我媽除了獨自扶養我長大,還幫我爸還清了四百多萬的債務,車貸房貸都我媽繳
我爸工作的薪水三萬多,真的不知道花在哪裡(他住公司)
我爸對我和我媽根本不聞不問(就自己住在外面)只有逢年過節才會打電話連絡
就這樣兩個人不聞不問不關心不交流,各過各的,20多年。
我從小看著媽媽這樣辛苦,每天掉淚,我爸的陰影、和經濟壓力壓得她喘不過氣
所以從小她身體也很糟,狀況不斷,也動過一次大手術(我爸有去醫院探望)
雖然他們也這樣相安無事了很多年,但我從小一直很希望他們離婚
一來,兩人都可以再各自找到幸福(至少不用拖住彼此一輩子)
二來、我媽近年來身體越來越糟,如果沒辦法離婚這個陰影真的會害死她
我問我媽,這樣相安無事怎麼會有壓力?
我媽說,只要這段婚姻還在只要跟我爸還有關係,她的恐懼和壓力就揮之不去
所以我想請問的是,我到底該怎麼做?才可以促成他們離婚?
其實我的想法很簡單,雖然說父母的事小孩不要管太多
但我只是希望我媽可以活得久一點而已
我媽的生命就跟我有關係了,所以我覺得我應該要試試看
可是我真的好怕我提議他們離婚之後,我爸會殺了我們全家(我媽娘家的部分)
其實從小到大我和我媽都不了解我爸真正的心性,只知道他的脾氣很猛
就是一旦他生起氣來會喪心病狂,根本無法預測他的下一步(有點玉石俱焚的感覺)
其實我想跟我爸說,這個離婚不會對我和他的關係有任何改變
我工作有能力我一樣會扶養他照顧他在乎他,他要的一切我會盡力給予
只要他肯放過我媽.....
不曉得我怎麼做會比較好... 希望能得到一些意見,謝謝大家Q_Q
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