不如預期的婚姻生活 - 婚姻

By Andy
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掙扎了很久 因為另一半是PTT重度使用者 這篇文章很有可能被他看到
可是昨天又大哭了一頓+失眠了一晚 已經管不了這麼多了
跟老公在一起八年才結婚 他脾氣很好 幾乎沒吵過架 目前結婚八個月 懷孕約19W
本來滿心期待結婚後的兩人世界 不過八個多月來覺得好失望....
失望一:嫁給一個媽寶
先生是獨生子,加上本來有一個弟弟但後來夭折了,公婆對他的照顧可說是呵護備至
也養成他大少爺 習慣被人伺候的心態
永遠不會把自己的衣服收好 冬天夏天衣服亂七八糟亂放
昨天吃完早餐半小時發現蛋糕還在外面 問他吃完為什麼沒收 竟然說他不知道怎麼收
沒削好的水果不吃 我有幾次故意就是不削水果
結果家裡好幾天沒吃水果 冰箱剩好多水果 婆婆還問我說為什麼都不削水果
你為什麼不教妳兒子要吃水果要自己弄呀... 莫名其妙
我已經很明確跟他講過N次,姑娘我對照顧人沒有興趣
心情好的時候伺候他兩下,心情不好,你自己想辦法吧
失望二:不積極
基本上這位先生回家就是用電腦 洗澡 吃銷好的水果 then睡覺
稍微念一下他叫她整理東西作家事 偶爾就臭臉說他回家只想休息
除了大家電是我們準備結婚前買的
其他所有的生活用品 小家電 都是他媽媽準備或我一點一點買回來的
從電風扇,烤麵包機,烤箱,鞋架,地墊,電腦桌...族凡不及備載,我沒跟他要過錢
我環視了一圈 這個家沒有一個東西是他帶來的,我都笑他像是這個家的客人
請他幫忙做事也總是當耳邊風 我們的結婚照已經念八個月了 現在還是躺在箱子裡..
失望三:懷孕是我一個人的事?
從懷孕開始產檢也是有一次沒一次的陪著
有一次都檢查完了 問他到底要不要來接我
又不耐煩的叫我不要催他 他已經盡快了 我坐在醫院大廳又等了半小時...
最近一次檢查 護理師問我有在吃甚麼營養品 我是一問三不知 以為只要吃葉酸就好
結果是隔壁看不下去陪老婆來產檢的爸爸教我應該怎麼吃怎麼吃..
後來笑著數落了我老公一下... 結果也只得到一句敷衍的 不然我買給妳嘛
買給我? 之後當然不了了之 我自己花了一筆錢買了維他命,鈣.魚油....
他看到了... 也沒拿一塊錢給我 唉
前三個月孕吐得很厲害, 尤其是晚餐後睡覺前
每次在廁所吐得亂七八糟 他老大爺還是坐在客廳用電腦上他的PTT 穩如泰山
我只希望他可以進來拍拍我的背 或是到杯溫水給我喝 咳 一次都沒有
月子中心也是我自己一個人去看的 都到了樓下 結果他說他要先去捐血不陪我
看了兩家都是自己去 難以抉擇跟他討論 也只說我決定就好....
12月我生日,讓我心寒道不行
結婚前 他每年都會送我生日禮物 即使是小東西 我還是很開心 那叫做心意
從八九月開始 我一直問他今年要送我甚麼 他又是打哈哈的帶過
怕他不知道要送我甚麼 還暗示他說肚子變大褲子穿不下 想去買幾件洋裝
結果生日那一天 我快氣瘋了 因為我只在FB得到一句生日快樂...
就算不知道要送我啥 也可以買個嬰兒用品送小寶寶吧??!! 唉
話說他11月去消耗他的國旅卡額度 買了他自己的包包衣服褲子 沒有一件我的東西..
要做甚麼檢查他也不知道 那天回婆家婆婆叫我去做羊膜穿刺
我直覺反應覺得不需要且自費也不便宜 就回答說那是有風險的我要想一下
結果婆婆就回說他會幫我出錢 我口氣有點不好的說 錢我有,不是錢的問題
先生全程在現場 一句話都沒說 但事後竟然拿了一包紅包說是婆婆要給我做產檢的
我當然不收,叫他還回去 我不管
失望4:結婚只到一個名份,我到底為什麼結婚
現在住的房子是公婆之前投資買的,他們本想賺價差賣掉
但賣不到好價錢,加上我們要結婚,就把房子當新房給我麼住 扣除頭期款
我們要還每個月5萬塊的房貸 不小的壓力...
先生是基層公務員薪水不高,他也很明確的說要"我們"一起還(這時候就考慮到我了)
所以, 我每個月拿出我30%-40%的薪水幫忙出房貸
沒得到一句謝謝,房子的權狀還掛在婆婆名下 不是先生的,更不是我的...
現在要繳稅了 想到也沒房貸利息可以扣抵 發現也只能苦笑...
生活費一塊錢都沒有給我,只是一起出去吃飯會付帳單而已
我的帳單,家裡的電話費,網路費也都掛我名下由我出
結婚後,能存下的薪水越來越少了.. 想到將來到的新成員又是一筆支出 頭又痛了
落落長的打了一大堆,或許是懷孕導致的多愁善感吧
最近好容易大哭,真糟糕 @@
不過結婚後的生活真的讓我滿傻眼的,更是我始料未及的...
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