討厭禮俗更討厭燒錢之只想登記錯了嗎 - 結婚
By Necoo
at 2016-11-30T13:21
at 2016-11-30T13:21
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跟女友都是二八年華(誤) 是28歲了
從大學交往到現在8年
大概從畢業後開始就一直被老媽念該娶女友回家
但是...
女友從小家境很好,但後來父母離婚
沒有問過能不能幫忙 但是應該能不收聘就不錯了這樣
而我則是家庭曾經發生變故 大概從幼兒園開始家裡很慘
一直到高中稍稍改善 大學也是自己就學貸款+打工才完成學業
也因為小時候很窮很苦 所以我算是還滿節儉的
紅白禮俗對我來說都很恐怖
怎麼平常買菜會計較5塊、10塊 買衛生棉要等特價
買化妝品只買開架 加油還要等會員日的 女友 老媽
在準備婚禮的時候 好像價錢只有我看得到!?
這裡五千 那裡兩萬 算一算6、70萬跑不掉
老媽一直覺得紅包可以回收
但其實家裡很多長輩都不在了 同事朋友根本不可能包多大包
老媽就喜歡放大絕→我跟你爸以前這麼窮還不是結婚宴客了
靠~~所以我就要跟你們一樣過窮苦日子嗎
工作至今因為還貸款 準備考試等等 所以存的不多 大概就一桶金而已
但是跟家人同住(等於沒房) 開一台破舊國產車(等於沒車)
工作穩定但是薪水很死~ 實領四萬多 女友三萬多 加起來也才八萬
然後去年初~爸媽不聽我的勸~私底下投資了老鼠會 積蓄被騙光就算了
竟然還貸信貸去"投資" 這個爛攤也是我在幫忙收
雖然當初勸他們的時候,我已經把話講得很難聽~
「這百分之百是詐騙,如果你硬要丟錢進去,到時候被騙我一塊錢都不會幫你」
但事情發生了還是家人 我每個月要幫忙還兩萬的信貸
殊不知我老媽又出一句讓我吐血吐到血都乾了
「我跟你爸不就是想給你一個風光的婚禮,才會去投資那個」
→吐血
「婚禮是給女方一個交代」
→結婚不是男女雙的事嗎?怎麼會不辦婚禮變成虧待女生?
「包了這麼多紅包出去也該回收一點」
→基本上認識的我都會參加,或至少禮金會到
但我從來沒有期待一定要對方回禮
「一個公開場合接受大家祝福,也讓女方家長宣告『我嫁女兒了』」
→為了一頓新人自己根本吃不到什麼的酒席花掉大半積蓄
到底是祝福還是詛咒?
「女人一輩子一次的回憶」
→創造回憶的方式太多了,婚禮辦的失敗不也會變成一次無法挽回的回憶?
幾十萬我拿去歐洲蜜月十幾天,這回憶不是更有價值?
「大家都有宴客,我們娶媳婦(或嫁女兒)沒辦很丟臉」
→那是因為只登記的你也不會知道
況且風光辦完婚禮,之後又離婚不是更丟臉?
婚禮
既麻煩又燒錢
還要考慮到男女雙方的意見
以及
男女雙方家長(甚至親友)的意見
到最後一定是有人要遷就 有人不愉快
那何必?
幾百塊錢登記完就是夫妻了
就有法律保障了
把辦婚宴省下來的錢、精力、時間
可以做更多有意義的事吧?
一直覺得婚禮是有(很多)閒錢的人在辦的
身邊有岳母出蜜月錢 岳父送房子頭款的
也有公婆房子買好 車子送全新(剛好當禮車)
我跟女友只能靠自己啊~
怎麼想都覺得不想辦婚禮
只想登記
我這樣想到底是務實
還是不體貼、不浪漫、很自私?
--
從大學交往到現在8年
大概從畢業後開始就一直被老媽念該娶女友回家
但是...
女友從小家境很好,但後來父母離婚
沒有問過能不能幫忙 但是應該能不收聘就不錯了這樣
而我則是家庭曾經發生變故 大概從幼兒園開始家裡很慘
一直到高中稍稍改善 大學也是自己就學貸款+打工才完成學業
也因為小時候很窮很苦 所以我算是還滿節儉的
紅白禮俗對我來說都很恐怖
怎麼平常買菜會計較5塊、10塊 買衛生棉要等特價
買化妝品只買開架 加油還要等會員日的 女友 老媽
在準備婚禮的時候 好像價錢只有我看得到!?
這裡五千 那裡兩萬 算一算6、70萬跑不掉
老媽一直覺得紅包可以回收
但其實家裡很多長輩都不在了 同事朋友根本不可能包多大包
老媽就喜歡放大絕→我跟你爸以前這麼窮還不是結婚宴客了
靠~~所以我就要跟你們一樣過窮苦日子嗎
工作至今因為還貸款 準備考試等等 所以存的不多 大概就一桶金而已
但是跟家人同住(等於沒房) 開一台破舊國產車(等於沒車)
工作穩定但是薪水很死~ 實領四萬多 女友三萬多 加起來也才八萬
然後去年初~爸媽不聽我的勸~私底下投資了老鼠會 積蓄被騙光就算了
竟然還貸信貸去"投資" 這個爛攤也是我在幫忙收
雖然當初勸他們的時候,我已經把話講得很難聽~
「這百分之百是詐騙,如果你硬要丟錢進去,到時候被騙我一塊錢都不會幫你」
但事情發生了還是家人 我每個月要幫忙還兩萬的信貸
殊不知我老媽又出一句讓我吐血吐到血都乾了
「我跟你爸不就是想給你一個風光的婚禮,才會去投資那個」
→吐血
「婚禮是給女方一個交代」
→結婚不是男女雙的事嗎?怎麼會不辦婚禮變成虧待女生?
「包了這麼多紅包出去也該回收一點」
→基本上認識的我都會參加,或至少禮金會到
但我從來沒有期待一定要對方回禮
「一個公開場合接受大家祝福,也讓女方家長宣告『我嫁女兒了』」
→為了一頓新人自己根本吃不到什麼的酒席花掉大半積蓄
到底是祝福還是詛咒?
「女人一輩子一次的回憶」
→創造回憶的方式太多了,婚禮辦的失敗不也會變成一次無法挽回的回憶?
幾十萬我拿去歐洲蜜月十幾天,這回憶不是更有價值?
「大家都有宴客,我們娶媳婦(或嫁女兒)沒辦很丟臉」
→那是因為只登記的你也不會知道
況且風光辦完婚禮,之後又離婚不是更丟臉?
婚禮
既麻煩又燒錢
還要考慮到男女雙方的意見
以及
男女雙方家長(甚至親友)的意見
到最後一定是有人要遷就 有人不愉快
那何必?
幾百塊錢登記完就是夫妻了
就有法律保障了
把辦婚宴省下來的錢、精力、時間
可以做更多有意義的事吧?
一直覺得婚禮是有(很多)閒錢的人在辦的
身邊有岳母出蜜月錢 岳父送房子頭款的
也有公婆房子買好 車子送全新(剛好當禮車)
我跟女友只能靠自己啊~
怎麼想都覺得不想辦婚禮
只想登記
我這樣想到底是務實
還是不體貼、不浪漫、很自私?
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