結婚習俗 - 婚姻
By Ula
at 2020-10-30T01:15
at 2020-10-30T01:15
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身為跟你一樣在飯店舉行儀式的宜蘭人
我必須跟你說
1. 宜蘭人厚禮數
除了台南外,可能就是宜蘭人禮節最雜
我推測可能是因為宜蘭算是台灣比較晚開發的地區
屬移民氣息較重的地方
最好的例子就是中元普渡時,我外婆家巷子裡
每一家拜拜時間日期都不太一樣,方式也不太一樣
而鄉下地方,老人家最喜歡指導別人,教年輕人怎樣怎樣
也不管這是你家自己的禮節,還是大家通行的禮節
用到最後面,很多禮節你根本不知道由來原因
只是覺得長輩有提,不做怪怪的
我外公過世時就是這樣,用個我舅舅累到不行。
2. 回到主題 宜蘭人有沒有這個禮俗
我得跟你說,我沒有聽說過,但跟第1點提到的一樣
我不敢跟你保證它不存在,只是我結婚的時候沒有管這個
我爸媽在40年前結婚時也沒有這樣,這數十年來我參加的婚禮
都沒有聽過上述不能拜男方祖先
有聽過屬虎的要迴避,但通常是喪禮且對象是比較旁枝的親戚
重點也不是單純看生肖,而是要請算命的來算正沖偏沖幾歲什麼的
3. 最後我要跟這位準新郎說
自己的家人自己守護,該硬就硬,
可以妥協但不可以讓對方吃死死的
我舉我自己的經驗
結婚前在雙方長輩都說你們年輕人自己決定就好
但當雙方家長去跟親朋好友宣告喜訊的時候
很多善意提醒就大量湧入,這時候我跟我老婆頭就大了
我這邊還好,我就擺明我不甩傳統,能做到就做
不想強迫自己接受一個不是自己想要的婚禮
我老婆這就有點麻煩,每天都有新花招
我也是保持著我能做到就做,做不到就婉拒
但引爆點是有一天,我老婆突然說他親戚說要在主禮車上綁甘蔗吊豬肉
我跟她說不可能,請他去回絕
隔天我老婆說,他家裡人說這是古禮,是傳統堅持一定要
我就爆走了,回說要古禮是吧,去跟你親戚說
你堅持要綁甘蔗吊豬肉,我就堅持騎白馬,穿馬褂綁紅繡球
去迎娶,你也要坐花轎去飯店,沿途吹嗩吶,你下轎前我還會踢轎
要我下跪去請你舅舅還是叔叔我都願意,要古禮就全套,別來給我自助餐
後來就沒有任何親戚意見的煩惱了
也許你不用像我這樣那麼嗆,但該堅持就堅持
尤其是不讓你家人參加
這根本就是太超過
以上給你參考
--
我必須跟你說
1. 宜蘭人厚禮數
除了台南外,可能就是宜蘭人禮節最雜
我推測可能是因為宜蘭算是台灣比較晚開發的地區
屬移民氣息較重的地方
最好的例子就是中元普渡時,我外婆家巷子裡
每一家拜拜時間日期都不太一樣,方式也不太一樣
而鄉下地方,老人家最喜歡指導別人,教年輕人怎樣怎樣
也不管這是你家自己的禮節,還是大家通行的禮節
用到最後面,很多禮節你根本不知道由來原因
只是覺得長輩有提,不做怪怪的
我外公過世時就是這樣,用個我舅舅累到不行。
2. 回到主題 宜蘭人有沒有這個禮俗
我得跟你說,我沒有聽說過,但跟第1點提到的一樣
我不敢跟你保證它不存在,只是我結婚的時候沒有管這個
我爸媽在40年前結婚時也沒有這樣,這數十年來我參加的婚禮
都沒有聽過上述不能拜男方祖先
有聽過屬虎的要迴避,但通常是喪禮且對象是比較旁枝的親戚
重點也不是單純看生肖,而是要請算命的來算正沖偏沖幾歲什麼的
3. 最後我要跟這位準新郎說
自己的家人自己守護,該硬就硬,
可以妥協但不可以讓對方吃死死的
我舉我自己的經驗
結婚前在雙方長輩都說你們年輕人自己決定就好
但當雙方家長去跟親朋好友宣告喜訊的時候
很多善意提醒就大量湧入,這時候我跟我老婆頭就大了
我這邊還好,我就擺明我不甩傳統,能做到就做
不想強迫自己接受一個不是自己想要的婚禮
我老婆這就有點麻煩,每天都有新花招
我也是保持著我能做到就做,做不到就婉拒
但引爆點是有一天,我老婆突然說他親戚說要在主禮車上綁甘蔗吊豬肉
我跟她說不可能,請他去回絕
隔天我老婆說,他家裡人說這是古禮,是傳統堅持一定要
我就爆走了,回說要古禮是吧,去跟你親戚說
你堅持要綁甘蔗吊豬肉,我就堅持騎白馬,穿馬褂綁紅繡球
去迎娶,你也要坐花轎去飯店,沿途吹嗩吶,你下轎前我還會踢轎
要我下跪去請你舅舅還是叔叔我都願意,要古禮就全套,別來給我自助餐
後來就沒有任何親戚意見的煩惱了
也許你不用像我這樣那麼嗆,但該堅持就堅持
尤其是不讓你家人參加
這根本就是太超過
以上給你參考
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