照顧小孩的錢應該要誰拿給婆婆? - 婚姻
By Hamiltion
at 2011-07-13T02:54
at 2011-07-13T02:54
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從我開始出去工作後
小孩就是由婆婆幫我照顧
所以我每個月都會拿錢給婆婆
當是感謝他幫我照顧小孩
((雖然不多,但光靠我自己的薪水
要給婆婆錢,小孩的奶粉錢尿布錢都是我在出
所以一個月我只給四千))
如果有爬文的話
就會知道
我先生所有的薪水幾乎都是給了婆婆
付房貸,家裡的開銷
所以我先生身上除了一個月可能只有3~5千的零用錢外
根本沒有多餘的錢可以用在小孩身上
有天我先生說~~~可不可以給五千,媽媽說四千聽起來不吉利
我一整個怒
小孩雖然是我跟我先生的
但畢竟是我婆婆的孫子
我先生已經把他所有的薪水都奉獻在他的原生家庭了
對於我跟他這個小家庭
我幾乎已經是呈現完全支出的角色
而他在我們的小家庭裡
只負責當小孩的爸爸
完全沒有任何金錢上的援助
我卻還要付錢請我婆婆照顧我們的小孩
還嫌錢不夠
(((不然我每個月給3600元用紅包袋裝起來,夠不夠喜氣洋洋???))
因為我真的不太習慣直接拿錢給婆婆
所以我都會拿給我先生轉交給婆婆
幾個月後
我先生說.....以後你自己拿給媽媽,不然他都問我說錢是不是我給的??
((其實我媽媽也說過這樣的話
就是我弟媳每個月給我媽照顧小孩的錢
都是叫我弟拿給她
她也懷疑是不是根本就是我弟出的))
我覺得我婆婆到底知不知道外面的世界
不是每個人都賺個七~八萬以上
基本上作業員不加班有22K就算不錯了
扣掉一個月要給她的一萬五
剩下的還要拿來繳電話費,要吃飯
一個月根本沒多少錢可以生活
居然還懷疑我給的錢是不是其實是我先生給的??
我當然知道公婆幫忙照顧小孩不是義務
但是我先生已經把所有的薪水都奉獻給原生家庭了
到底是憑什麼只想著挖媳婦身上的錢呢??
媳婦身上的錢
除了小孩的費用
還有自己的開銷要支付啊!!
有時我覺得教母的某些論點也沒錯
我常覺得
我跟我先生結婚時
你們什麼都沒給我
除了給了12萬的小聘((當我懷孕期間的生活費))
我還帶了一部大車和一部小車來
((雖然都是我跟先生在開))
那你們到底憑什麼要求我在家裡要幫忙煮飯,整理家裡??
還有不准回娘家,不能帶小孩回去
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
以上這一段是碎碎念,純發洩
另外~~題外話
婆婆向媳婦((而不是兒子或是兩人共同))要求照顧小孩的費用
是正常的嗎??
如果是夫妻共同合出照顧小孩的費用
我可以理解
畢竟這是兩人的小孩
而經濟能力無法負擔
所以必須雙薪,把小孩托給婆婆帶
但是只單向媳婦要求照顧小孩的費用
((連我親娘都是這樣))
她們都覺得是應該的耶!!
但我還是覺得
小孩的費用應該是由夫妻一起支出
而不是單由小孩的媽來付吧!!
小孩又不跟我姓
((說這種話會不會被覺得是教母派呀???)))
好吧!!只是單純心理不平衡啦!!
大家討論一下就好
不要劈得太大力........
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小孩就是由婆婆幫我照顧
所以我每個月都會拿錢給婆婆
當是感謝他幫我照顧小孩
((雖然不多,但光靠我自己的薪水
要給婆婆錢,小孩的奶粉錢尿布錢都是我在出
所以一個月我只給四千))
如果有爬文的話
就會知道
我先生所有的薪水幾乎都是給了婆婆
付房貸,家裡的開銷
所以我先生身上除了一個月可能只有3~5千的零用錢外
根本沒有多餘的錢可以用在小孩身上
有天我先生說~~~可不可以給五千,媽媽說四千聽起來不吉利
我一整個怒
小孩雖然是我跟我先生的
但畢竟是我婆婆的孫子
我先生已經把他所有的薪水都奉獻在他的原生家庭了
對於我跟他這個小家庭
我幾乎已經是呈現完全支出的角色
而他在我們的小家庭裡
只負責當小孩的爸爸
完全沒有任何金錢上的援助
我卻還要付錢請我婆婆照顧我們的小孩
還嫌錢不夠
(((不然我每個月給3600元用紅包袋裝起來,夠不夠喜氣洋洋???))
因為我真的不太習慣直接拿錢給婆婆
所以我都會拿給我先生轉交給婆婆
幾個月後
我先生說.....以後你自己拿給媽媽,不然他都問我說錢是不是我給的??
((其實我媽媽也說過這樣的話
就是我弟媳每個月給我媽照顧小孩的錢
都是叫我弟拿給她
她也懷疑是不是根本就是我弟出的))
我覺得我婆婆到底知不知道外面的世界
不是每個人都賺個七~八萬以上
基本上作業員不加班有22K就算不錯了
扣掉一個月要給她的一萬五
剩下的還要拿來繳電話費,要吃飯
一個月根本沒多少錢可以生活
居然還懷疑我給的錢是不是其實是我先生給的??
我當然知道公婆幫忙照顧小孩不是義務
但是我先生已經把所有的薪水都奉獻給原生家庭了
到底是憑什麼只想著挖媳婦身上的錢呢??
媳婦身上的錢
除了小孩的費用
還有自己的開銷要支付啊!!
有時我覺得教母的某些論點也沒錯
我常覺得
我跟我先生結婚時
你們什麼都沒給我
除了給了12萬的小聘((當我懷孕期間的生活費))
我還帶了一部大車和一部小車來
((雖然都是我跟先生在開))
那你們到底憑什麼要求我在家裡要幫忙煮飯,整理家裡??
還有不准回娘家,不能帶小孩回去
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
以上這一段是碎碎念,純發洩
另外~~題外話
婆婆向媳婦((而不是兒子或是兩人共同))要求照顧小孩的費用
是正常的嗎??
如果是夫妻共同合出照顧小孩的費用
我可以理解
畢竟這是兩人的小孩
而經濟能力無法負擔
所以必須雙薪,把小孩托給婆婆帶
但是只單向媳婦要求照顧小孩的費用
((連我親娘都是這樣))
她們都覺得是應該的耶!!
但我還是覺得
小孩的費用應該是由夫妻一起支出
而不是單由小孩的媽來付吧!!
小孩又不跟我姓
((說這種話會不會被覺得是教母派呀???)))
好吧!!只是單純心理不平衡啦!!
大家討論一下就好
不要劈得太大力........
--
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