有些事不得不計較 - 婚姻
By Hedda
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很多事我已經盡其所能不去計較
眼不見為淨
也抱持著"沒有意見就是最好的意見"這種想法
就是不希望有太多爭執
不管是決定結婚後的婚禮方式
還是我的新房要怎麼佈置
只要婆婆有意見我就馬上照她的方法做
以不衝突為原則的過日子
丈夫從出社會開始,每個月都把大部份的薪水拿回家
畢竟公婆都沒工作 只有勞退和租金收入
而丈夫又有某種大男人的堅持
堅持結婚的錢要自己存
於是我們婚禮一切從簡
全部都我們自己出
婆婆把所有的禮金收走 我沒意見
共同生活後依然拿出大部份的薪水給家裡
我沒意見 反正大家同住在一個房子裡
只是離我們買房子出去獨立生活 會很遠
懷孕後我想訂月子餐 這樣婆婆就比較不辛苦
婆婆說她會請個人來打掃 那些錢省下來
所以生完小孩後
完全自己帶 自己幫小孩洗澡 婆婆煮什麼我吃什麼
我沒意見
但到了小孩已經一個半月的今天 我真的很難不計較了
除了禮品以外 健康食品大家可以一起吃
但紅包錢不就是要讓小孩用的嗎
要存要用應該是我自己拿捏的
婆婆把親戚包的 朋友包的 同事包的 全收走了
我很傻眼
如果是親戚包的我可以當成她想回收以前包出去的
但我們的朋友同事的呢? 為什麼她也要收走
彌月禮盒錢我們還得自己出
昨天他們不知道去哪買了很多油飯請他們一起唸經的蓮友吃
晚上回來跟丈夫說花了五千 也叫我們出......
今天丈夫去領政府給的兩萬塊紅包
這是孩子出生前就說好要給婆婆的 因為她要幫我坐月子
但我沒想到婆婆會把紅包全收走 所以這兩萬我很不想給
丈夫說這本來就說好的 沒辦法 我很難沒意見
生產完出院時的費用一萬七我是自己出的
一些嬰兒用品 也是我自己花的
我的確在斤斤計較
沒想過要靠孩子出生賺錢 但前三個月真的尿布錢花很兇
就算不能賺我也不想虧
就算虧我也不想虧太多
這樣的狀況下 我真的很難沒意見
每個月的家用難道不夠用嗎
如果不夠用的話
公婆還可以每年兩次法會一灑就二十萬
每年都要出國一次以上一灑就十幾萬
是我不該計較嗎
丈夫說 大家都住在一起算了啦
也是,畢竟你和你父母共同生活了37年 你習慣了
那我再退一步
以後尿布和嬰兒必需品 (不包括衣服鞋子)
都用婆婆的附卡刷 我就沒意見
"算了啦"我們自己又不是沒錢用"
..............好吧
你一個月五萬多要拿三萬回家
我一個月平均六萬也拿一萬給婆家
剩下的錢要生活要吃飯要養小孩要繳有的沒的也要存
房子 我買 我自己搬
就算背上不孝的罪名
我也不想再沒意見了
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眼不見為淨
也抱持著"沒有意見就是最好的意見"這種想法
就是不希望有太多爭執
不管是決定結婚後的婚禮方式
還是我的新房要怎麼佈置
只要婆婆有意見我就馬上照她的方法做
以不衝突為原則的過日子
丈夫從出社會開始,每個月都把大部份的薪水拿回家
畢竟公婆都沒工作 只有勞退和租金收入
而丈夫又有某種大男人的堅持
堅持結婚的錢要自己存
於是我們婚禮一切從簡
全部都我們自己出
婆婆把所有的禮金收走 我沒意見
共同生活後依然拿出大部份的薪水給家裡
我沒意見 反正大家同住在一個房子裡
只是離我們買房子出去獨立生活 會很遠
懷孕後我想訂月子餐 這樣婆婆就比較不辛苦
婆婆說她會請個人來打掃 那些錢省下來
所以生完小孩後
完全自己帶 自己幫小孩洗澡 婆婆煮什麼我吃什麼
我沒意見
但到了小孩已經一個半月的今天 我真的很難不計較了
除了禮品以外 健康食品大家可以一起吃
但紅包錢不就是要讓小孩用的嗎
要存要用應該是我自己拿捏的
婆婆把親戚包的 朋友包的 同事包的 全收走了
我很傻眼
如果是親戚包的我可以當成她想回收以前包出去的
但我們的朋友同事的呢? 為什麼她也要收走
彌月禮盒錢我們還得自己出
昨天他們不知道去哪買了很多油飯請他們一起唸經的蓮友吃
晚上回來跟丈夫說花了五千 也叫我們出......
今天丈夫去領政府給的兩萬塊紅包
這是孩子出生前就說好要給婆婆的 因為她要幫我坐月子
但我沒想到婆婆會把紅包全收走 所以這兩萬我很不想給
丈夫說這本來就說好的 沒辦法 我很難沒意見
生產完出院時的費用一萬七我是自己出的
一些嬰兒用品 也是我自己花的
我的確在斤斤計較
沒想過要靠孩子出生賺錢 但前三個月真的尿布錢花很兇
就算不能賺我也不想虧
就算虧我也不想虧太多
這樣的狀況下 我真的很難沒意見
每個月的家用難道不夠用嗎
如果不夠用的話
公婆還可以每年兩次法會一灑就二十萬
每年都要出國一次以上一灑就十幾萬
是我不該計較嗎
丈夫說 大家都住在一起算了啦
也是,畢竟你和你父母共同生活了37年 你習慣了
那我再退一步
以後尿布和嬰兒必需品 (不包括衣服鞋子)
都用婆婆的附卡刷 我就沒意見
"算了啦"我們自己又不是沒錢用"
..............好吧
你一個月五萬多要拿三萬回家
我一個月平均六萬也拿一萬給婆家
剩下的錢要生活要吃飯要養小孩要繳有的沒的也要存
房子 我買 我自己搬
就算背上不孝的罪名
我也不想再沒意見了
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