我會不會太杞人憂天了? - 結婚
By Xanthe
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謝謝大家的建議
似乎他希望我當個聽話順從的小女人
可是偏偏我有我自己的想法跟主見
每當我想表達我的感受,他就是覺得我在頂嘴
(他好幾年前曾經拿過黃金戒指跟我求婚)
(但我知道他是因為做錯事內疚才做這種事)
雖然我選擇了原諒,但對他的感覺已經消失了一大半
我整個人變了,不再默默的私下流淚,而是會跟他對執
===========================================
翻舊帳的內容
他在一年多之前,就在嗆過我說
「妳不覺得我根本就不想鳥妳做任何事嗎」
「我會這樣都是因為妳造成的」
「是妳太白目,還想要人家娶妳」
「是妳要嫁人的,不是我入贅妳家耶!!」
「妳以為妳誰呀,妳以為妳條件真的很好嗎!!」
「妳家沒錢,有人會想理妳爸媽嗎?」
「妳都當我開玩笑嗎?我的條件隨便都交得到女友」
還嗆說,等等就要載新女友來給我看
我覺得我在他身上找不到愛的感覺
也沒有人可以分享心事
有一陣子玩了交友軟體(但就純綷聊天,也沒約出來見面,或給電話)
後來無聊就刪除了軟體
後來某天我在上網查一些我們創業有關的資訊
(這是我在他身上剩下的唯一希望吧,我希望我能在工作上幫助他)
(他曾說我做事情很有行動力,這也是他想把我綁在身邊的原因吧?)
所有的創業貸款資訊、週邊商品廠商幾乎都是我在聯絡
連網頁都是我在設計(我自己上網看教學)
他把我平板拿去看後,發現我又偷用fb(我根本沒有用)
說我偷用兩年fb,只是不想揭穿我而已
開始發神經起來,把我手機全部內容全看了一遍
發現我交網友又玩fb,當下要我下跪跟他道歉
之後吵架就一直拿交網友、fb、吵架不接電話
(他每次總是無限跳針循環這三樣~)(可能我給他的把柄就只有這些)
我會這樣,也是因為他先做出讓我不開心的事
私下跟女生出去逛街,還送對方東西、還陪女生買泳衣
偷辦門號跟某位女生聯絡(被我發現,我立馬在他朋友面前賞他一巴掌走人)
(他總是有新的事情被我發現…不勝枚舉),當然我也心灰了
而且把他的這些行為,歸究是我不聽話,我家人讓他有壓力
不知道為何他做那些讓我難過的事,還能這樣理直氣壯說「一切都是妳的錯!!!」
所以他嗆我的那些話,我已經都沒有心痛的感覺
我當下回他:「你不是說不想管我任何事了嗎?我交網友關你什麼事?」
他不喜歡我用fb,但他可以用
(我也都關閉了、但他覺得不夠,他要我刪帳號)
我說:既然你都不信任我了,那乾脆讓我繼續用fb不就好了?
我們也不曾互加好友(感覺的出來,他不想要我侵入他另一個生活圈)
我去他家,我也不會想去碰他的電腦,他也不讓我碰他的手機
他討厭某牌的手機,但我很想要買,我也在我們說好分手之後我才買入
之後他又裝沒事跟我聯絡,但吵架的時候他又會說
他根本看不出來我有悔意,手機也不會主動去賣掉
我真覺得我做什麼都不是,他都有話講
我曾經對他說
「我沒看過像你這樣小心眼的男生,一直翻舊帳
你做的那些傷害我的事,我都已經選擇遺忘
想跟你好好重新開始,但你總是不願放過我!!
既然看我這樣討厭,能不能分手不要再聯絡了,我很痛苦」
他回我說「妳白目多久,我就要跟妳耗多久」
雖然天天去他家過夜,但他也不會碰我
我們關係其實已經水深火熱,我也已經避免觸及地雷
我真的有點在擺爛,但也盡量在表面維持好關係
有人說我其實自己也是瞧不起他,若是我瞧不起他,我還會跟他交往七年嗎?
我也有明白跟他這麼說,他再不投入事業,我真的就要走人了
我好話難聽話都跟他講過了,我只是希望他能了解我的感受
但他聽不進去
兩人在一起這麼久了,我希望不要惡言相向的分手
我不知道他對我在執著些什麼?應該是說犯賤嗎?
像這他樣子的個性,到底要用什麼方法跟他好好溝通分手呢?
謝謝大家耐心看完
--
似乎他希望我當個聽話順從的小女人
可是偏偏我有我自己的想法跟主見
每當我想表達我的感受,他就是覺得我在頂嘴
(他好幾年前曾經拿過黃金戒指跟我求婚)
(但我知道他是因為做錯事內疚才做這種事)
雖然我選擇了原諒,但對他的感覺已經消失了一大半
我整個人變了,不再默默的私下流淚,而是會跟他對執
===========================================
翻舊帳的內容
他在一年多之前,就在嗆過我說
「妳不覺得我根本就不想鳥妳做任何事嗎」
「我會這樣都是因為妳造成的」
「是妳太白目,還想要人家娶妳」
「是妳要嫁人的,不是我入贅妳家耶!!」
「妳以為妳誰呀,妳以為妳條件真的很好嗎!!」
「妳家沒錢,有人會想理妳爸媽嗎?」
「妳都當我開玩笑嗎?我的條件隨便都交得到女友」
還嗆說,等等就要載新女友來給我看
我覺得我在他身上找不到愛的感覺
也沒有人可以分享心事
有一陣子玩了交友軟體(但就純綷聊天,也沒約出來見面,或給電話)
後來無聊就刪除了軟體
後來某天我在上網查一些我們創業有關的資訊
(這是我在他身上剩下的唯一希望吧,我希望我能在工作上幫助他)
(他曾說我做事情很有行動力,這也是他想把我綁在身邊的原因吧?)
所有的創業貸款資訊、週邊商品廠商幾乎都是我在聯絡
連網頁都是我在設計(我自己上網看教學)
他把我平板拿去看後,發現我又偷用fb(我根本沒有用)
說我偷用兩年fb,只是不想揭穿我而已
開始發神經起來,把我手機全部內容全看了一遍
發現我交網友又玩fb,當下要我下跪跟他道歉
之後吵架就一直拿交網友、fb、吵架不接電話
(他每次總是無限跳針循環這三樣~)(可能我給他的把柄就只有這些)
我會這樣,也是因為他先做出讓我不開心的事
私下跟女生出去逛街,還送對方東西、還陪女生買泳衣
偷辦門號跟某位女生聯絡(被我發現,我立馬在他朋友面前賞他一巴掌走人)
(他總是有新的事情被我發現…不勝枚舉),當然我也心灰了
而且把他的這些行為,歸究是我不聽話,我家人讓他有壓力
不知道為何他做那些讓我難過的事,還能這樣理直氣壯說「一切都是妳的錯!!!」
所以他嗆我的那些話,我已經都沒有心痛的感覺
我當下回他:「你不是說不想管我任何事了嗎?我交網友關你什麼事?」
他不喜歡我用fb,但他可以用
(我也都關閉了、但他覺得不夠,他要我刪帳號)
我說:既然你都不信任我了,那乾脆讓我繼續用fb不就好了?
我們也不曾互加好友(感覺的出來,他不想要我侵入他另一個生活圈)
我去他家,我也不會想去碰他的電腦,他也不讓我碰他的手機
他討厭某牌的手機,但我很想要買,我也在我們說好分手之後我才買入
之後他又裝沒事跟我聯絡,但吵架的時候他又會說
他根本看不出來我有悔意,手機也不會主動去賣掉
我真覺得我做什麼都不是,他都有話講
我曾經對他說
「我沒看過像你這樣小心眼的男生,一直翻舊帳
你做的那些傷害我的事,我都已經選擇遺忘
想跟你好好重新開始,但你總是不願放過我!!
既然看我這樣討厭,能不能分手不要再聯絡了,我很痛苦」
他回我說「妳白目多久,我就要跟妳耗多久」
雖然天天去他家過夜,但他也不會碰我
我們關係其實已經水深火熱,我也已經避免觸及地雷
我真的有點在擺爛,但也盡量在表面維持好關係
有人說我其實自己也是瞧不起他,若是我瞧不起他,我還會跟他交往七年嗎?
我也有明白跟他這麼說,他再不投入事業,我真的就要走人了
我好話難聽話都跟他講過了,我只是希望他能了解我的感受
但他聽不進去
兩人在一起這麼久了,我希望不要惡言相向的分手
我不知道他對我在執著些什麼?應該是說犯賤嗎?
像這他樣子的個性,到底要用什麼方法跟他好好溝通分手呢?
謝謝大家耐心看完
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